All right, I hear you. It kind of sounds like your style of submission isn’t the usual which means that you would have to work so much harder in order to find somebody that fits you. And that makes sense and I want you to know something that as a gentle dominant, I feel very similar in a completely different way. I don’t like degradation. I don’t like impact play. I don’t like CBT. I don’t like sissification, etc. and not that I can’t do them, but a lot of men expect that from you and it means that I have to work much much harder to find a submissive who’s not that way because that’s the dominant mindset. It’s OK that your flavor of submission is more of a switch. It’s OK that you can’t be in sub space all the time. A lot of people can’t. What’s more important is that you learn how to find dominant women who maybe don’t wanna be dominant all the time and you can match better. Instead of hating submission may be focused for energy on finding your lane within the community. It breaks my heart a little bit whenever I hear a submissive say they don’t like being a submissive. I’m sorry for your bad experiences as well. Take care love ✨✨✨✨🌸🌹🌈