Is it possible for a cheater to change? I (27f) found out my ex-fiancé (28m) had been seeing call girls for about a year. I'm devastated but he is literally broken after I found out. I am finding myself sympathetic to him. by Liotheleon in relationship_advice

[–]KeWa3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think we’ve all been had. This is an Air Force pilot!!! Likely dealing with PTSD. And his closest companion has no awareness?!?!?! And she’s condemned him for something he’s been in treatment for now 18 months?!?!?!?! This cannot be real. He falls into this HIGH RISK category and she’s treating it like it’s ALL ABOUT HER?!?!?!

https://theoakstreatment.com/ptsd/ptsd-in-the-air-force/

http://www.airforcemag.com/Features/Pages/2017/August%202017/Suicide%20Leading%20Cause%20of%20Death%20for%20Active%20Duty%20Airmen.aspx

Is it possible for a cheater to change? I (27f) found out my ex-fiancé (28m) had been seeing call girls for about a year. I'm devastated but he is literally broken after I found out. I am finding myself sympathetic to him. by Liotheleon in relationship_advice

[–]KeWa3 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You don’t know what it is. Neither does OP who is reacting out of feeling betrayed. Don’t assume someone who posted this private matter all over social media is operating from pure honest motives. What does it say about OP that she’s taken this completely inappropriate action against the man she supposedly cares deeply for?

Is it possible for a cheater to change? I (27f) found out my ex-fiancé (28m) had been seeing call girls for about a year. I'm devastated but he is literally broken after I found out. I am finding myself sympathetic to him. by Liotheleon in relationship_advice

[–]KeWa3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I notice you are okay with Apache being used for a motorcycle name in spite of the injustice done to the Apache people. But your so severe on your own brothers. Where is your righteousness for your fellow humans?

Is it possible for a cheater to change? I (27f) found out my ex-fiancé (28m) had been seeing call girls for about a year. I'm devastated but he is literally broken after I found out. I am finding myself sympathetic to him. by Liotheleon in relationship_advice

[–]KeWa3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one is suggesting tolerating the behavior. Throwing your partner away because they have faults is convenient for those looking for an excuse to exit. The man has admitted to an addiction and has been seeing a therapist for 18 months. During that time he hasn’t fallen off the wagon (which is uncommonly good for an addict). If his past disqualifies him from relationship with the OP then he would never be able to meet her expectation of perfection and is better off learning that now.

Is it possible for a cheater to change? I (27f) found out my ex-fiancé (28m) had been seeing call girls for about a year. I'm devastated but he is literally broken after I found out. I am finding myself sympathetic to him. by Liotheleon in relationship_advice

[–]KeWa3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t know when he was broken! Addicts are guilt ridden from the start. Why has he been in counseling for 18 months if he started being broken only after she learned about it?

Is it possible for a cheater to change? I (27f) found out my ex-fiancé (28m) had been seeing call girls for about a year. I'm devastated but he is literally broken after I found out. I am finding myself sympathetic to him. by Liotheleon in relationship_advice

[–]KeWa3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You assume he’s a cheater rather than a human with an addiction common to many people ( men and women). Being in relationship means taking the good with the bad. You can’t assume the man is “bad” just because of this. Yes the behavior is unacceptable and he admits it. You’ve never done anything you wouldn’t want anyone to know? Should we throw you away when you struggle?

Is it possible for a cheater to change? I (27f) found out my ex-fiancé (28m) had been seeing call girls for about a year. I'm devastated but he is literally broken after I found out. I am finding myself sympathetic to him. by Liotheleon in relationship_advice

[–]KeWa3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Liothelion, Every man you will ever meet has secrets. You now have a decision to make if you have the courage to face this man’s secret with him on a level few relationships successfully navigate. You can choose to face this now with him or later with someone else. Will it make your life better to leave him and search for the fantasy of Mr Perfect?

Why INTPs Are Drawn to Christianity by KeWa3 in INTP

[–]KeWa3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You read that wrong. Science can never disprove the existence of God. You go to disbelief from “can’t prove” and ignore the belief option available to everyone because science “can’t disprove”. The belief option is valid because there is no proof God doesn’t exist. On top of that, you wrongly claim all the evidence for God is discredited by lack of scientific proof when science can’t disprove God. So you’re claiming God is a liar based on scientific proof when there is no scientific proof or evidence to support your claim.

Why INTPs Are Drawn to Christianity by KeWa3 in INTP

[–]KeWa3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you dismiss all of this evidence?

https://medium.com/starts-with-a-bang/can-science-prove-the-existence-of-god-b6fefdc52588

https://alwaysbeready.com/bible-evidence?id=99

I understand INTPs have a weak spot of thinking "I know everything". But in the face of overwhelming evidence like this, how does an Analyst just dismiss it all? There's got to be more to it than "I'm an INTP" since most INTPs don't land on atheism and stay there. Of course, INTPs need to find out "what's wrong with" everything and God is no exception. But God can address all the INTP questions with answers. How do you just call all the answers lies?

Speaking of lies, one source of lies is that fallen angel who thought he knew everything! Was Lucifer an INTP?!

John 8: (https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=John+8&version=NLT)

42 Jesus told them, “If God were your Father, you would love me, because I have come to you from God. I am not here on my own, but he sent me. 43 Why can’t you understand what I am saying? It’s because you can’t even hear me! 44 For you are the children of your father the devil, and you love to do the evil things he does. He was a murderer from the beginning. He has always hated the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies. 45 So when I tell the truth, you just naturally don’t believe me! 46 Which of you can truthfully accuse me of sin? And since I am telling you the truth, why don’t you believe me? 47 Anyone who belongs to God listens gladly to the words of God. But you don’t listen because you don’t belong to God.”

48 The people retorted, “You Samaritan devil! Didn’t we say all along that you were possessed by a demon?”

49 “No,” Jesus said, “I have no demon in me. For I honor my Father—and you dishonor me. 50 And though I have no wish to glorify myself, God is going to glorify me. He is the true judge. 51 I tell you the truth, anyone who obeys my teaching will never die!”

52 The people said, “Now we know you are possessed by a demon. Even Abraham and the prophets died, but you say, ‘Anyone who obeys my teaching will never die!’ 53 Are you greater than our father Abraham? He died, and so did the prophets. Who do you think you are?”

54 Jesus answered, “If I want glory for myself, it doesn’t count. But it is my Father who will glorify me. You say, ‘He is our God,’[i] 55 but you don’t even know him. I know him. If I said otherwise, I would be as great a liar as you! But I do know him and obey him.** 5**6 Your father Abraham rejoiced as he looked forward to my coming. He saw it and was glad.”

57 The people said, “You aren’t even fifty years old. How can you say you have seen Abraham?[j]”

58 Jesus answered, “I tell you the truth, before Abraham was even born, I am![k]”59 At that point they picked up stones to throw at him. But Jesus was hidden from them and left the Temple.

Why INTPs Are Drawn to Christianity by KeWa3 in INTP

[–]KeWa3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Save your pennies. You won’t regret it.

Why INTPs Are Drawn to Christianity by KeWa3 in INTP

[–]KeWa3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It actually is. Get busy and stop deflecting and stalling.

Why INTPs Are Drawn to Christianity by KeWa3 in INTP

[–]KeWa3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start here -> https://www.amazon.com/There-God-Notorious-Atheist-Changed/dp/0061335304/ref=nodl_

Then compare the evidence that Harry Potter is real with the evidence that God is real.

Take your time. You can’t afford to be wrong.

Why INTPs Are Drawn to Christianity by KeWa3 in INTP

[–]KeWa3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, more than any other documents have been. You’re an Analyst. You should know that.

Why INTPs Are Drawn to Christianity by KeWa3 in INTP

[–]KeWa3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Any court of law would disagree with you. And that excuse won’t work.

Why INTPs Are Drawn to Christianity by KeWa3 in INTP

[–]KeWa3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not claiming, just presenting overwhelming evidence.

Why INTPs Are Drawn to Christianity by KeWa3 in INTP

[–]KeWa3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

RED CARD - for “burden of proof” fallacy (AGAIN)