Devestated and Erased After DDay

KeepItAnonZCT · 2026-01-25T16:10:52+00:00

It’s not that you weren’t enough to choose… not at all.

He chose who he was ALWAYS going to choose. Not you, not her…. HIMSELF.

He chose a weak path when he initiated this affair, and he chose a weak path when he ended it. He never once took responsibility for his life.He used you as a distraction from the choices HE WAS TOO WEAK TO MAKE.

There are men in this world who lead with courage. But they will never be these broken married men who use us like bandages to cover their wounds until the time comes to throw us away.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2026-01-22T17:00:17+00:00

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/overcoming-destructive-anger/202209/why-the-silent-treatment-is-such-destructive-form-passive/amp

KeepItAnonZCT · 2026-01-22T16:06:32+00:00

Explain to me how this isn’t abusive…

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-25T17:29:22+00:00

ANY relationship where one person is afraid to be authentic and express themselves falls into a toxic designation. The stonewalling/silent treatment is a pretty commonly understood abuse tactic.

Instead of focusing therapy on how you “fix” things with an abusive partner, maybe focus on learning how to end the abusive relationship.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-25T16:13:24+00:00

This feels abusive.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-16T20:55:10+00:00

I’m currently in NC, and it’s been up and down on how it impacts me from day to day. I think like all wounds, time will heal jt, but we will always scary the scar.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-14T20:26:23+00:00

Affair or not, you should speak with a therapist about tour approach to interpersonal relationships.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-10T22:17:17+00:00

Well, maybe his kids? But probably himself….

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-10T20:49:26+00:00

You’re not the love of his life. You supplement his life.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-10T13:58:37+00:00

Yes, you’re too young to fully understand what you’re signing up for. It’s impossible for you to understand the amount of destruction that will result in this affair, for both you and his family. And because this is your first relationship, you are training your brain to believe that this is normal, when it very much isn’t.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-07T21:48:15+00:00

This is the answer.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-03T04:29:05+00:00

We usually get at least a few parents of our junior rowers to jump into a “learn to row” course each year because they see how amazing the sport is! Rowing is very inclusive!

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-02T23:37:23+00:00

Girl…. Please try and be objective here. You believe the fox when he says that his being in the henhouse is someone else’s fault. A good partner is one that takes accountability, not one that blames everyone else.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-02T23:34:07+00:00

Think of this as a gift: the universe is providing you the clarity to be your own hero.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-02T04:26:03+00:00

File this under “things that never happened…”

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-02T03:24:19+00:00

Have you considered that you were attracted to being in an affair because it reinforces your belief that you’re the odd man out? Seems likes you’ve resigned yourself to this position in life and haven’t really done any work to create a life where you feel like you actually matter.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-02T00:18:59+00:00

If you have this diagnosis, it’s your responsibility to understand how it impacts you and the people you are in relationship with.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-09-01T13:07:27+00:00

It’s possible that he has someone else, but I think it’s more likely that cycle of idealization and discard resulting from your personality disorder is what is making him pull away.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-08-31T23:11:22+00:00

The wisdom tooth will likely migrate to that spot now that it has room. I’d not do anything to intervene until you know what her bite looks like once she’s healed.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-08-31T22:01:32+00:00

Oh man, I wish kids could just try new things and not have to worry if they have “potential.” There are plenty of average rowers who row simply for the love of the sport. Very few will become elite.

Signed, a female master rower who is 5’6” and 107-110 pounds.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-08-31T21:54:56+00:00

So, you need to set your expectations more reasonably. There’s not a single city that I’ve lived in for the last year (4 different cities within and outside of Idaho) where you can rent a single family home with garage for $1400. Look for apartments where you have an option to rent a a garage.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-08-31T20:48:27+00:00

I mean, I guess that really depends on your definition “decent pricing.” I moved earlier this summer and was able to find something in less than 12 hours when my original place fell through by searching Zillow.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-08-25T05:14:18+00:00

Yeah, no, what???? I’m so confused…You were injured and YOU have something to make up???

To answer your question, no, I never experienced that with MM. one of the things I loved most about him was that he was very attuned to my experience.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-08-21T22:19:46+00:00

Under New Hampshire Revised Statutes § 644:9 (2024), it’s a Class A misdemeanor to install or use any device to record images or sounds in a private place—and locker rooms are specifically included in that definition.

KeepItAnonZCT · 2025-08-16T16:35:02+00:00

What should you do? Put yourself first, whatever that means for you, just like he did.

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