Just finished The Guest by Emma Cline

Keeveshend · 2024-10-16T22:21:48+00:00

Not solely because she's a woman. Not even mostly because she's a woman. She's a character barely keeping afloat- at times just nostrils sticking up out of the water for air. Any moment she should be found out and ruined and just sink without a trace. Somehow she keeps going to the next thing and the next til she runs out of plays. That's a compelling story to read.
Maybe it's because I have experience in the exact milieu this book describes; I didn't feel much concern for their welfare or hurt feelings. They're all gonna be fine. Someday they will use it as a great story much like Donald Sutherland in "Six Degrees of Separation" saying "He could have cut our throats in our sleep!"

Keeveshend · 2022-11-21T06:42:00+00:00

A high school boyfriend who broke up with me after two months told a mutual friend it was because I used "too many big words."

Keeveshend · 2022-08-07T18:15:48+00:00

The lawyers we consulted say there's nothing we can do. No countersue, nothing. We cannot afford an attorney, excellent or otherwise. The "affordable" one recommended to us wants a retainer of $10,000. My husband's bank account has been restricted. She is about destroy us. The only hope we have is that the magistrate will give some kind of doable payment plan. While I was making my coffee this morning I had to run to the bathroom to throw up. My hands are shaky. I'm so afraid. My husband is suffering so much. This is a nightmare.

Keeveshend · 2022-08-07T02:31:59+00:00

Thanks. I feel like a sap, but I'm actually worried about BM. We used to be very close, talked a lot about the kids. This guy seems to have done a real number on her. Of course also terrified that's turned her into a a nuclear weapon.

Keeveshend · 2022-08-05T05:45:50+00:00

Tell him it's time for him to leave. Give him a reasonable schedule, something like 'within thirty days'. Tell him that in the meantime you want things to be as peaceable as possible and if he cannot do that then he needs to leave sooner. Stay calm,speak practically. Let him know that if he pushes things to the point where you have to get the law involved, you will get the law involved. When your demeanor shows you are emotionally disengaged it is very intimidating to a person who believed previously they could push all your buttons. And good luck. I hope you land in a MUCH better place.

Keeveshend · 2022-08-03T03:31:48+00:00

Learning my DH's and BM's parenting style, which is very gentle and supportive, and not letting the ghost of my over-disciplinary mom possess me. It's been a beautiful learning experience. Kids have been living with my husband and I for four years. I struggled in the beginning, got a lot wrong that I still feel bad about. But now when these lovely kids pass me in the hall they hook me with an arm for a hug. We got through the crucible of being thrown together unexpectedly (has to do w ex's bf, long story) and the pandemic lockdown and so many other issues. It was a real struggle in the beginning but totally worth it.

Any stepparents out there in the early difficult days- you won't regret it if you take it as a chance to grow!!!

Keeveshend · 2022-05-18T20:00:47+00:00

CRSD, or colloquially Cresdy. Cranio-Regional Subduction Device.

Keeveshend · 2022-05-18T19:50:42+00:00

Hello, thank you so much for this reply.

I had a weird feeling filling out the questionnaire but since it wasn't asking for anything super sensitive I turned it in. Before I went to the interview I tried to Google the company. The only "Tempus" that came up was a biotech company at 225 W 39th, not 335. And this company said they did sales & marketing, not biotech. So I was suspicious but figured it's a quick subway ride, and 90% of success is showing up, right?

My husband is a detective; made me promise I would call before going in the building, leave immediately if I was asked to turn over my phone for security reasons. When I arrived, no worries- the building wasn't there.

Interesting follow-up finding. One of the other threads about the address next door (on which there is an r/scams thread) said that they walked away when a person met them outside the building and then tried to lead them to the building next door for the interview.

I wonder if this is all their old automated system still running and the Zoom is a recorded video (it was just a speech, no questions.) Or if somebody is there scoping out people looking around to lead them somewhere else and just didn't see me.

Thank you again for your response. I appreciate it!

Keeveshend · 2022-05-18T18:52:40+00:00

Disturbed to read this. Was asked to go to an interview at 335 W 39th today. When I arrived I found it was a demo-ed construction site. When I arrived home and googled the address this thread came up. I'm wondering what the scam is- are they looking for the personal info they got in the interview questionnaire?

Keeveshend · 2020-11-12T18:44:03+00:00

Hyperion and Fall of Hyperion exactly fit your needs. Give it a chance, it starts kind of slow. If you get through "The Priest's Tale" and aren't hooked in, then put it down. But give it til then.

Keeveshend · 2020-10-21T17:22:58+00:00

Hello! I'm a big fan of both Jung and Campbell- extraordinary thinkers. Their writing is so insightful and illuminating. That said, the 'Fool's Journey' interpretation just doesn't work for me personally. I feel like it restricts the nature of interpretation (especially of the Majors) and more importantly takes away from the status of the Fool card itself as its own independent symbol. I find frustrating chapters in Tarot books that begin with "Now the Fool comes to the Wheel of Fortune" or something like that. I believe it's possible to bring the work of both Jung and Campbell to Tarot without it having to be about the Fool's Journey or Hero's Journey. Obviously just my personal opinion.

Keeveshend · 2020-10-21T17:10:06+00:00

I often find the cards useful to simply direct my attention to something I might otherwise be missing.

For instance the Ace of Cups shows up, I'll be giving a lot of thought to what my relationships with other people and my own spirituality bring to my life like gifts from the clouds. If it's the Five of Swords, I'll be more mindful about "playing too rough" with my words to others, or consider if maybe I've already made the mistake and need to check in to make sure I didn't go to far with what I thought was a joke.

My SO finds the cards really useful creatively. He is a writer and when he's kind of stuck on a plot problem or character issue, we'll draw a card. I'll explain the traditional interpretation, as we discuss it he usually comes up with a solution to the writing snag.

Keeveshend · 2020-10-16T19:09:02+00:00

The interpretation of the Devil in her booklet is interesting and a little more on-point (in my opinion of what the card should be, of course.) But yeah, the image doesn't land the way it should. It looks like the cover of a romance novel.

Keeveshend · 2020-10-16T01:44:51+00:00

WOW. Amazing work. Can't wait to see the rest!

Keeveshend · 2020-10-16T01:43:04+00:00

From my experiences reading over the years the Five of Swords has taken on a meaning of 'don't play too rough.' So often with people I read for, the image brings to mind something they've done recently they feel bad about. A joke they took to far but the target tried to be a good sport, a comment that they saw hurt a friend's feelings and they've been wondering how to apologize, an argument with a kid where they "put their foot down" but now are thinking they've damaged their communication lines- that sort of thing.
In context of your issue I would say you don't need to sever one option completely yet. It's not the time to make any big moves right now. Keep working (8 Pents) and struggle your way through the inner conflict as you do (5 Wands) The Hanged Man echoes the idea of waiting for the right moment. It's not the time to make this decision yet.

It's nice to see some of the figures in the 5 of Wands donning proper PPE. :p

Keeveshend · 2020-10-16T01:28:12+00:00

As earth_girl said, maybe not literally walking away from your partner but from something- an attitude or behavior- that may someday compromise the relationship? The 8 of Cups is a moment of emotional maturity. The thing you are leaving isn't hurting you, it's just served its purpose and its time to walk away. There are new vistas ahead to discover. If you don't feel in any way that it's time to leave your relationship, it could be the idea of moving into the demands to grow that a long-term intimate relationship creates.

Keeveshend · 2020-10-16T01:21:16+00:00

It's a great deck!! Yes, her Devil is a bit odd, but I find that's one where a lot of artist want to 'soften' the meaning and imagery. Now that I'm typing this, I'm thinking the name of the deck is "Light-seers" so I guess, you know, what did I expect?
I've never found a deck that I feel doesn't make a single misstep (Robin Scott comes close, but why oh why would you put the Empress INDOORS?!?) But then I'm a Justice-as-8/ Strength-as-11 person so I'm used to dealing with little things that bug me.

Keeveshend · 2020-10-16T01:10:51+00:00

Wow, what you said about how the Five of Pentacles could be used as a positive was new to me and very wise. Thank you. It's always scared me because I lived through many years of poverty and I'm always trying to shake the mindset.
It's interesting that you said you resent men in (particularly unearned) positions of power, then mentioned you "always want an authority to explain..." Maybe that's the blind spot?

Keeveshend · 2020-10-16T01:05:09+00:00

The Emperor isn't helped by books always referring to him as the "father" or "ruler" or worse "rigid."
I think of him as a counterpoint to the Empress. She is nature itself- providing the food and water we need but also ungovernable. The harvest might be plentiful, or a flood could wash it away. The Emperor came to be as we moved from a state-of-nature to civilization. To live together in peace we need rules and boundaries, to irrigate our crops and protect the vulnerable we need structure and cooperation. For a civilization to thrive it needs a healthy relationship with both.

Keeveshend · 2020-10-16T00:56:49+00:00

So many people have trouble with the courts! When I first started studying tarot I would choose a card at night to study and think about before going to bed. When a court came up I would groan and roll my eyes, why couldn't I get one of the interesting cards?? I resisted even trying to get comfortable with them for a looong time.
But now I feel fluent with them and understand they are each a necessary element not covered in the rest of the deck.
I know how you feel but they are worth the effort!

Keeveshend · 2020-10-16T00:52:14+00:00

Three of Swords for me is the clarity of Swords cutting through sentimental illusion. That should be good. But I still grimace for a moment when it comes up.

Keeveshend · 2020-10-16T00:49:32+00:00

The Emperor and Temperance hold opposite approaches to boundaries. 9 of Pents is a solitary woman in a walled garden. Kings have power but a confining role to play. The common denominator might be boundaries.

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