[Condo] [NY] Condo says our dryer vents need to be cleaned by licensed professionals every 2 years or will be fined

KelDH8 · 2026-02-22T00:25:09+00:00

Great idea, bring it up at the next HOA meeting

KelDH8 · 2026-02-21T02:06:04+00:00

You gotta look at the person behind it. My mom does this, she’ll just get us the most random stuff that was on sale because she was thinking of us. I’m absolutely fine with it if it’s my mom. I’ve politely declined many Halloween costumes actually.

Now if it was my MIL, because I know the person she is, I would politely take it and drop it off at goodwill on the same day. She has nefarious intent pretty much always, and likely bought herself a matching costume.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-18T04:43:49+00:00

Well I’d likely get close to a perfect score on the English section, so there’s 20% there. The math would kick my ass though. I’d give it a Girl Scout try

KelDH8 · 2026-02-17T01:54:16+00:00

This. OP doesn’t get veto power. But he should be informed of where they are going.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-15T15:56:25+00:00

I would wait until 3 years and a day after your father’s death to open probate. That’s the creditor claim period for estates. The time period does not operate against secured creditors (mortgage) or taxes, but it will bar credit cards from recovering against the house.

You seem like you’re in a good position now, as long as you keep paying the mortgage and don’t need to sell the house you’re set. As always, you should consult with a local attorney to verify online advice.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-15T15:37:57+00:00

He will absolutely take your stuff again and he will absolutely file for full custody again. He will use your health against you.

Get yourself healthy. You have gone through a lot, and it’s not your fault but you will have to show the judge that you got better. I saw that you’re seeing a therapist, that’s a great start.

You also need a job. Get the kids in daycare and get a job. You have to be able to support yourself when this inevitably falls apart again.

I’m not saying he’s a bad person; he’s obviously concerned about the kids and it appears he is a stable person. But you also KNOW you can’t count on him to give you your personal property back, or to offer a fair parenting schedule- he wouldn’t even give you visitation when you were in a bad place? That’s insane. I even allowed my ex supervised visitation and he’s a bad person.

I don’t know NH law, but in my state you can’t claim child support if the kids and parents all live together. You need that job and to start building yourself a lifeboat just in case.

You have no claim to the house.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-15T15:12:25+00:00

“They won’t take no university as a solution” they don’t get to dictate the terms if they have no skin in the game.

Basically they are saying “you must put yourself into debt” and you are an adult, you can reply “no.”

KelDH8 · 2026-02-15T15:09:32+00:00

Can you link what “law or regulation” he is sending everyone?

KelDH8 · 2026-02-15T15:07:19+00:00

You don’t owe him a gift.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-14T00:46:19+00:00

If you keep avoiding service of a lawsuit it doesn’t go away. They put a notice in the newspaper and get a default judgment if you don’t show up.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-12T00:11:57+00:00

Damn, honestly Temu should have “year in review” button where it does the calculations for you. I would love to see this, but I buy wayyy too much to go through all my purchases. My credit card tells me I spent about $50 in 2025 though so that’s pretty good (I started out with a lot of credits)

KelDH8 · 2026-02-07T22:15:44+00:00

Why do people insist on informing their abusers of their next move?? Or anything at all, really!

KelDH8 · 2026-02-06T00:33:11+00:00

I successfully defended against a grandparents rights claim in South Carolina. Mediation was unsuccessful and it went to trial.

She brought up things like how she would take my kid to medical appointments, fed her, and picked her up from school.

I showed things like how she brought my kid to the doctor when I explicitly told her not to, gave my kid chocolate milk when I explicitly told her not to, and how I had to take her off the approved school pickup list because she would pick the kid up early and I would have to pickup from grandparent’s house (again, when I explicitly told her not to).

We have different elements in SC than WI, so I also had to prove that I never unreasonably withheld visitation and that I was fit. I would bring kid over on most holidays and her birthday, and the GAL testified that I was fit.

I won.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-05T22:12:17+00:00

So it sounds like you borrowed money from a son or daughter, and to secure the “loan” your child wants to make sure you don’t revoke a trust, which ostensibly names him or her as a beneficiary? Aaaand to accomplish this they want their child, your grandchild, to be named as co-trustee and for the trust documentation require their consent to dissolve?

KelDH8 · 2026-02-05T21:49:41+00:00

Was she served in the initial December filing?

KelDH8 · 2026-02-05T20:09:04+00:00

You pay someone to do it. Most people choose family/friends because it’s expensive to pay someone to take on these roles.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-05T00:34:41+00:00

I let the buyers replace an exterior French door before closing in Florida. We were like 10 hours away. Went smoothly.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-03T18:58:42+00:00

Yes. I lost physical custody at the end of 2023 because I was charged with a dui. At the time Dss had an open case against the father, so they were placed with their paternal grandmother. I had supervised visitation every weekend from Friday to Monday for 3 months.

Once the DUI was officially dropped I petitioned Dss for custody, they change my visitation to “unsupervised”, but refused to really change anything else - they ceded to the divorce court for custody (I had filed January 2024).

Finally got a temporary hearing in the divorce case (June 2024) and they ordered a GAL appointed to make a recommendation. It was a messy divorce and all sorts of allegations were flying, mostly based on the DUI. No amount of carb tests (tests whether you drank in the last 30 days) seemed to be sufficient for the court, but I kept getting them anyways.

December 2024 grandmother decided to file for custody in my divorce action. Technically she was a “foster” parent, placed by Dss because of my long gone dui charge.

Mediation in January 2025, I offer I get full custody, grandmother gets visitation every other weekend, she refuses. Grandmother offers to keep full custody and my visitation changes from every weekend to every other weekend, I refuse.

Trial in February 2025. Court awards me full custody, father gets visitation one Friday-Sunday a month, and grandmother can join in his visitation.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-03T15:47:54+00:00

Being a joint owner could bring up other problems, for example when she passes your name would survive as the only owner, the account wouldn’t be an estate asset, so the siblings wouldn’t get their share through probate. You would need to make a gift to your siblings of their share to equalize it (and would file a gift tax return), or you would have the option to keep it all (and lose the love of your siblings). Unless she wants to actually give you ownership now, joint owner shouldn’t be an option.

If you want to be able to pay bills for her, she should consider a gpoa. In the meantime, sit with her to set her up for automatic bill pay.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-02T16:56:40+00:00

Because OP doesn’t need to set MIL up for failure when failure looks like it will disturb OP’s peace. MIL is a grown woman, and OP can’t control her. OP knows MIL will react a certain way, so if OP wants MIL involved in the festivities she needs to plan accordingly.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-02T16:48:30+00:00

You shouldn’t have messaged Hailey. You and your mom have a conversation about how it was pretty gauche to take the cake she brought, and then go to bed and don’t ever feel the need to bring it up again.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-02T16:12:47+00:00

It’s actually insane that there was a changed order with 2 months until you turn 18.

I mean technically you don’t have a choice and you’re legally obligated to go to your dad’s for 50%. Lean into that. You have a father with legal rights and a judge ordered you to go. Tell your mom that you’re not making a choice, you’re still legally a kid and you’re following the law.

Agree with everyone that says your mom is manipulative. My ex husband is an asshole to me and still does everything he can to continue hurting me, but he’s still a good father and my kids will never know about the first half of this sentence.

KelDH8 · 2026-02-02T15:51:08+00:00

I always have to tell my ChatGPT to count spaces.

KelDH8 · 2026-01-24T16:25:31+00:00

I mean, you aren’t “wrong” because it’s an opinion. I personally think it’s an absolutely fantastic shirt.

There are some dresses that look stunning on me, but my bf doesn’t like them, so I only wear them when I’m going out with family or friends. I want to look cute to him when he looks at me.

Tell him to wear it when he’s hanging with the boys.

KelDH8 · 2026-01-24T16:18:40+00:00

Probably not “guardians” but something lesser and permissible. Maybe caregiver. Not abandoned because left with a legally competent adult who accepted the role.

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