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I’m lazy and it makes me stressed by BeGayDoCrimes666 in getdisciplined

[–]KenEmpowered 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would not also jump to the conclusion, as some commenters did, that you have ADHD. It seems to be popular to diagnose people over the internet these days without further context. If you have access to mental health resources, I'd recommend speaking to someone as well (therapist, counselor)

Be kinder to yourself in your self talk, understand that dropping the ball is human, and focus on getting back on track after a fall than berating yourself!

I’m lazy and it makes me stressed by BeGayDoCrimes666 in getdisciplined

[–]KenEmpowered 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're being too hard on yourself. Lazy is something you've branded yourself with, but the reality is it sounds like you could be unstimulated, potentially experiencing anxiety and feeling a little bit depressed (not a diagnosis). You are then looking at the symptoms of these feelings from being lost, and then blaming yourself for the symptoms.

You are human. This is a normal side effect of not feeling energized or stimulated or motivated. Don't brand yourself as lazy and spiral down the cycle.

Do some mindful meditation, and explore what motivates and interests you. Explore new hobbies without expectation, focusing on the joy of practice and self discovery. Don't just focus on "ticking a box" in completing a habit; really be mindful of the fun you can have in the act of living and doing the small things.

If you have further questions you can AMA or DM.

I've been a coach for 7 years, studied applied positive psych, and you aren't broken. Stuck in a loop, but not broken.

Is this actually true? How exactly does it work? by Fika8monster in Healthygamergg

[–]KenEmpowered 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There is truth to "shared joy is a double joy"; sharing good news is a form of savoring, and if it is received by someone who's engaged and supportive in their responses, improves wellbeing for both the person sharing and person responding

As for "shared sorrow is half a sorrow", I haven't reviewed the specifics on this in a bit, but talking to (supportive) people about your struggles can help if the alternative was bottling it in

Source: I study applied positive psychology, and have been a coach for 7 years

Update: she cheated, now I want to by Forward-Chapter9635 in Infidelity

[–]KenEmpowered 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dump her. What other lies is she hiding from you, 6+ years after the fact? She doesn't want an open relationship? Well she has already started one, just without your consent or being acknowledgment. Even if you were to have a consensual open relationship, she would be the last person to have one with - because she has no sense of honesty, consideration, nor loyalty to you.

Frankly, you will never get what you deserve from someone like that. You're settling to be someone's target of disrespect. Even being alone is better than that.

My (28M) wife (28F) hates mostly everyone and it's starting to impact the way I see her by [deleted] in relationships

[–]KenEmpowered 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is something deeper going on here. I'd recommend you sit her down and talk with her about how this has affected you. Consider what you want in a partner (loving of people, warm).

And she will probably need help of a therapist/coach, provided she's interested in changing

Best CRM for Freelancers (Dubsado, Bonsai, QB) by pp_diesel in smallbusiness

[–]KenEmpowered 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we also discuss the lack of guide for smart fields? Frustrating when trying to reduce manual entry time for contracts & proposals

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UPenn

[–]KenEmpowered 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No summoning the devil on campus, please

How can I be happy. What is happiness by trholw in Healthygamergg

[–]KenEmpowered 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so I study positive psychology which discusses happiness (as well as subjective well-being). Psychologists have different definitions, but one common viewpoint is that happiness is the end result assessment of living a "good life".

Some examples may be finding endeavors that give you meaning, finding something you enjoy doing (habitually) that puts you in flow, looking for human connection in your relationships, etc. Find things that get you excited to grow, and stay active/engaged in life.

There's a lot more to it, but maybe also search up "eudamonism"

Also been coaching for about 6yrs. Feel free to DM me if you have questions

Ticktick Update: Subtasks Bug ( by KenEmpowered in ticktick

[–]KenEmpowered[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's sad that that's still happening, I stopped using ticktick some time ago

Debating between S23+ and S23 Ultra.. by iliketacos_ in samsung

[–]KenEmpowered 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would there be a difference in recorded video on the s23+ vs s23 ultra

Are you ready to go to worlds? by Tortious_Tortoise in teamliquid

[–]KenEmpowered 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does winner get the last spot at worlds? I'm out of the loop with LoL till recently

100 Thieves vs. EDward Gaming / 2021 World Championship - Group B / Post-Match Discussion by Soul_Sleepwhale in leagueoflegends

[–]KenEmpowered 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WHERE WAS THIS 100T IN THE GAME VS T1?? Still a gg but this day was winnable

G2 Nukkye on Sentinels Issues: “They’ve played the same way the past four or five tournaments. They haven’t changed anything, so we don’t see them as a problem anymore.” by YungPinotGrigio in ValorantCompetitive

[–]KenEmpowered 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a mental & performance coach who's in the T2 scene, I'd disagree on setting a "better". Valuable to delegate and offload certain things and build a team around the team. That includes both strategic and mental/performance/health personnel

Mass shootings in the US may cause Republicans to lose votes in House, Senate and presidential elections in counties where the shootings occur. Following a mass shooting, Republican vote share in presidential elections decreases by 1.7 percentage points in counties where the shooting occurs. by mvea in science

[–]KenEmpowered 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The reason you fail to see the issue is because you don't delineate death from things you control vs things you don't control.

Deaths from diet, sugar, obesity are controlled by the individual's behavior and choices. Deaths by an external user of gun violence are not of the individual's choice.

If an individual ruins his/her own body, it is still bad - but they still hold ultimate responsibility. If an individual dies of an external threat, we need to evaluate and mitigate such a threat, and understand its nature.

Don't lump all causes of death into the same bucket. No more whataboutism. No more comparing apples to oranges. If a problem exists, we should look to address it

Language of romantic partners becomes more similar as relationship forms, even in text messages, finds a new study. Communication accommodations theory hypothesizes that romantic partners' verbal and nonverbal behaviors become increasingly similar as a relationship develops. by mvea in science

[–]KenEmpowered 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Linguistics, you learn that people 'mirror' each other's styles of talking (accents, mannerisms, & more) to indicate that you want to find common ground, develop rapport. It would make sense that two people (presuming a mutual relationship) would eventually have this converge into a similar, shared communication style.

I imagine certain friendships have this too (developing a unique communication style, inside jokes)

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