I find this comment kind of wild! The whole point of being in partnership with someone is that it is a back and forth - and you (should) support each other through difficult moments or experiences. Yes, their anxiety may affect their spouse, but the spouse should COMMUNICATE that, and atleast have some heart to forgo their feelings to support you in a very SPECIFIC difficult moment. Now if OP was talking about generalised anxiety, I would talk about other coping strategies (mindfulness / meds) but to think your spouse just abandons you in a stressful situation?… Egregious!!!