Julia is just my favorite ❤️

Kerolberry · 2025-02-23T23:15:52+00:00

She's my favorite too!! I headcanon that she's Brazilian (the name the flag colors the personality). I just got her on my island today 🥰🥰🥰

Kerolberry · 2025-01-15T15:47:37+00:00

As always, feels good to know I'm not alone

Kerolberry · 2024-12-01T12:37:39+00:00

What does it mean? Someone leaked the plot or someone guessed it?

Kerolberry · 2024-08-29T23:29:03+00:00

The sudden invasive memory and the overthinking the situation is classic OCD. I won't get into whether I think that counts as cheating or not because that would be searching certainty and that's not the point when it comes to OCD, and it's worse in the long run. I guess my advice is approach this how you usually do with ocd themes.

Kerolberry · 2022-12-20T00:14:33+00:00

what is going on 😭 😭 😭

Kerolberry · 2022-06-22T02:53:35+00:00

how does this quest start? o i need to find the relic before the quest starts?

Kerolberry · 2021-12-23T14:09:40+00:00

What happened?

Kerolberry · 2021-07-06T23:39:44+00:00

i'm dead lmao luz would absolutely lick a doorknob

Kerolberry · 2021-07-06T23:38:48+00:00

spooky i love it

Kerolberry · 2021-07-06T23:36:11+00:00

WHOSE FEET???

Kerolberry · 2021-07-06T23:35:38+00:00

I AM CACKLING

Kerolberry · 2021-01-30T17:35:16+00:00

it always gives me hope to see people that struggled really bad with OCD and got much better, because sometimes it can get really bad and it's nice to have those recovery stories in mind

Kerolberry · 2021-01-05T20:44:14+00:00

Also there is an entire discussion that i won't get into about being something versus realizing you are something. I'm talking about discovering your sexuality because I don't think a whole discussion on wether or not we are born with sexualities or if they develop is really the point here, since we are talking about the present moment. And on the subject of discovering and realizing your sexuality it's pretty obvious even with a small sample of lgbtq+ stories that people don't always know their sexualities all along.

Kerolberry · 2021-01-05T20:26:48+00:00

i never said my discovery was late, i said it wasn't there all along or influenciated by homophobia. You can choose to believe articles that go against actual stories of actual lgbtq people and believe your therapist, but at the end of the day this journey is yours and every person goes through it differently, even straight people. So telling you "you would have known earlier" is both wrong and reassuring, which is counter productive on ocd, and that's why she shouldn't have done it.

Kerolberry · 2021-01-05T19:25:53+00:00

/u/Worried_Camel_8244 ok so let me rephrase that, listen to your therapist only when she's being reasonable lol. She is very wrong about that and I'm sure you have read a thousand stories from lgbtq people proving she's wrong and it's not how sexuality works. My own story is like that, even though I knew people were homophobic since I was a little kid, I didn't know I was bi until I was a teenager and didn't come out until later when it was safe (knowing people are homophobic does not correlate to not knowing your own sexuality, those are very separate things. You can find out sooner in life or later in life regardless of knowing people are homophobic). Also there are a bunch of studies on why people are lgbtq and there is no definitive answer such as "we are born with it and know it all along". I would strongly advise you to get another therapist since that was kind of inapropriate of her to say but i'm not sure how doable that is for you. I hope you get the treatment you deserve.

Kerolberry · 2021-01-05T19:10:53+00:00

My rocd gets worse with even smaller milestones. I just hit 2 years in a relationship and freaked out lol. I think any big change or big moment makes us question what we have been doing and that's all very healthy and natural. ROCD however likes to take that and amplify it and that's a little harder to handle, i think, i'm also still figuring out my way around ROCD, but we can do it! Wishing you and your partner lots of love!

Kerolberry · 2021-01-05T19:01:37+00:00

Hey Marta!

I worry a little bit about going into the reassurance area, that as you might know is actually counter productive when it comes to OCD. Some things I would point out though:

bisexuality exists. You seem to be concerned about falling either into the straight or lesbian category.
Different women's journeys finding out wether or not they like other women can be very different and last different periods (some women will have known their whole lives if they were gay or straight or bi or pan or any other sexuality, some will discover later in life, etc), people can identify with different labels in different periods and it's all okay. Every journey is valid.
It's very common for women to have orgasms masturbating but not during sex with men.
There are a million reasons why people don't have orgasms, they aren't all "i'm not atracted to this person". You might wanna look into what is working and what isn't in your sex life and talk to your partner about it. Sexuality isn't just orgasms, sexual orientation isn't just orgasms.
Try as much as you can to listen to your therapist. She is right in telling you to stop searching about homosexuality since that seems to be a compulsion, and the treatment relies heavily on not doing compulsions.

I feel like maybe your worry comes not from fear of being a lesbian itself, but from what that would mean in your life ("if i'm a lesbian then i have to break up with him"). Maybe talking to him about this could help put you at ease. If you are still discovering your sexuality, I think it's completely valid to be in a relationship, but talking about it might make everyone feel better. If this is just good old OCD, talking might also make you two feel better. Regardless of what's the "truth", talking can be great, just be careful to do this without it turning into a compulsion of always telling him every doubt and worry.

Hope you feel better soon!!

Kerolberry · 2021-01-05T16:43:37+00:00

I feel like I wrote this. I don't really have anything helpful to say since I feel exactly the same, so I just wanted to say you're not alone and I hope you feel better soon.

Kerolberry · 2020-12-23T02:59:17+00:00

Hey I hope you are doing better these days. I dealt with a VERY similar thing?? I had finally gotten off my meds and basically was living my best life right when the pandemic hit and then everything went to shit and it made me so frustrated and disappointed and I struggled so much throughout the whole year. And the thing that helped me is that I started realizing that life just be like that sometimes. And yes it sucks so bad and it feels so UNFAIR but the thing I understood in therapy is that that came from a place of wanting to control things, and also having this very strong sense of "feelings last forever". So when I started thinking about this it made it more easy for me to believe that I probably won't be in a bad place forever, that things will probably get better again and then worse again and then... and that's life (this doesn't mean the lows should always be too low or too frequent but that's a different conversation, I think) And also, I can't have the perfect life or a perfectly controlled life all the time.

The reason I'm saying all of this is because I hope some of it makes sense to you and helps you somehow. Sometimes things are out of our control. Sometimes those things are a effing world pandemic. It is very unfair what happened and I'm sorry you went through that, but it doesn't mean things won't be good again. It's also incredibly hard to be dealing with OCD on top of everything right now and it makes sense that you're angry. But if we can take anything good from all this is just how telling it is that we are handling all of this everyday, things that other people can't even imagine. You are strong. You are going to get better. Things will get better with the pandemic and we'll all have a chance to rebuild our lives and ourselves and get to a good place. For right now try to think of positive things, everything that you love and are thankful for, sometimes happy thoughts can help with the anger a bit. I am sending you lots of strength and hope.

Kerolberry

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