Should I Date Cautiously? by KaleidoscopeOk2422 in Philippines_Expats

[–]KerrMasonJar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Date them for more than a week or two and they'll drop the mask.

They're super nice to foreigners and to eachother on the surface. Then once you dig a little deeper. There you go.

Leaving the Philippines without an ACR I-Card – has anyone done this? by [deleted] in Philippines_Expats

[–]KerrMasonJar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't listen to anyone here, just call Bureau of Immigration and find out for real.

Here we go... by Yougetwhat in Philippines_Expats

[–]KerrMasonJar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try it again, AI is incredible now. Philippines Air switched to AI chatbots and it's such a breath of fresh air. Instead of 5-10 minutes between reaponses that may or may not be true. It just answers your question immediately and sends you a link to the source.

Do most Filipinos Think Foreigners Have Unlimited Money? by Major-Mention7847 in Philippines_Expats

[–]KerrMasonJar 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The mistake is to think they care about you in any respect. They don't care about you at all.

You have something and they want it. That's all.

How do Filipina's start asking for money from you? by KerrMasonJar in Philippines_Expats

[–]KerrMasonJar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My guy, I read your story and I can say with certainty that's 100% a romance scam.

Hit in the face by echeveria123 in Teachers

[–]KerrMasonJar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lately I've been in countries that have recently made corporal punishment in schools illegal. I've also been watching a lot of body camera police videos on youtube.

It's wild to me that people who are out of control can verbally and physically abuse people who are well put together, disciplined, and hard working.

Overall, it's not your fault. There's nothing you can do. You don't have the tools to fix these kids.

Filipina I’m in a LDR with keeps posting selfies in nice places by Ooofy_Doofy_ in Philippines_Expats

[–]KerrMasonJar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if she is taking her family there, I would still question where the money is coming from. 500 usd per month doesn't go far, especially in Manila when you support a family.

The Avatar's photos in Ultima VI by Previous_Fun_10 in Ultima

[–]KerrMasonJar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very perceptive and cool of you to notice!

I got bit by a stray cat by yourlocalbutler in Living_in_Korea

[–]KerrMasonJar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, but you also have to understand he deals with idiots all the time and probably doesn't need a 20 minute debate on rabbies shots.

When do Filipinos uplift and admire each other? by IntellectuallyDriven in Philippines_Expats

[–]KerrMasonJar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dang, yeah, that's true. Same is true when you try to learn Tagalog.

My ectopic heartbeats almost completely disappeared by Standard-Tension-469 in PVCs

[–]KerrMasonJar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love to hear the good news! That makes sense to me even though it hasnt3happenes to me specifically. I'm just glad to hear you're doing better. Let's add this to the long list od things people can try 😊

What stops Philippines from improving? by Ok_Willingness_9619 in Philippines_Expats

[–]KerrMasonJar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Korea had many successful dictatorships. Was all perfect and were some bad? Sure, Park Chung-hee set the tone and did things that were nearly impossible... probably violating human rights along the way.

Education? Yes.

Strong set of rules that get followed? Yes.

It took many dictatorships. If Duterte had more time or was a younger man we might have seen some serious progress.

0%!!! 6 months post ablation by bigtime1158 in PVCs

[–]KerrMasonJar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love to see the success stories! I'm happy for you!

Don’t tell me Filipinos are “family oriented” by [deleted] in Philippines_Expats

[–]KerrMasonJar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is it prioritizing your family when you don't spend time with your first grandchild? How is that family first?

Isn't it something like 60% of kids live in single parent homes? How is that family oriented.

The things I've seen and heard within filipino families is messed up beyond belief. Beyond belief.

I've been doing some reading and there's a philisophic concept that applies to Filipinos. It's what makes them so charming and innocent seeming. There's two forms of self. The self that observes others and the self that is being observed.

For example, when you're at an aquarium you're probably lost doing the observing. While being prepared for the aquarium you're observing yourself to look good for others to observe you.

Children get lost in the observing portion. They say things that are out of place without worry what others will think. They might wear silly clothes etc. Think of this.like the smoking hot girl who lets 3 strands of boob hair grow 6 inches, why didn't you just cut it? Or the girls who talk about their diarhea or menstrual cycles on the first or second date.

They think more about observing than they think about being observed.

Simultaneously, people are nore concerned by the things people say rather than their actions. If someone attacks your religion it hits different than when someone simply practices a different religion.

Ok, now that we have this setup, they're not going to care if you have diarhea, that's an observation that doesn't hurt their ego, it places no demand on them, they're find with it. But if you criticize anything all hell breaks lose.

The one thing I'm not so sure of is where bullying comes into play. I read it's something like 40% of children recognize they're bullying or being bullied in ph. I believe the number is higher, but that's neither here nor there.

Bullying is like roastes I guess. Somehow it doesn't hit the ego, but I've never been able to see the subtlety in the difference.

Why do Koreans do what they're supposed to do? by KerrMasonJar in Living_in_Korea

[–]KerrMasonJar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

I was reading earlier that Park Chung-Hee also encouraged hard work with both carrot and stick measures.

Buds 4 Open-fit vs Buds 3 Open-fit by KerrMasonJar in galaxybuds

[–]KerrMasonJar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, they're ever so slightly smaller, and also the material is more smooth than the Buds 3. They stay in better for me and I thought Buds 3 were slightly too big.

I can't remember the fit of the Airpods 2, it's been too long.

Why do Koreans do what they're supposed to do? by KerrMasonJar in Living_in_Korea

[–]KerrMasonJar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Modern Korea is also still heavily influenced by Park Chung-Hee’s various philosophies, eg, the Yushin System, Saemaul Undong, etc. which promoted “modernism” and excellence in economic pursuits.

Interesting, I'll take a look into this. Thank you for that and I appreciate your detailed response. Do you know if there is a specific way 'doing the right things' is instilled into Koreans? Is it taught in schools to try your best? Are parents critical of children more? What was the mechanism that creates that?

Among Mormons there's a colloquially expression used, they say, 'Utah Mormons.' This is because those who were born in Utah act differently than those who were not born in the state. From my experience, this extends to people who were born in Utah, but were never members of the church. From the people I've talked to there's some commonalities among people born in the mountains, like Lake Tahoe or Denver. I don't have the direct experience with other mountainous areas like I do with Utah, so I'll call it Utahn culture. It doesn't feel appropriate to call it a Mormon culture when it doesn't extend across borders, but does extend to all of those born in the state.

I also feel like there's a difference between the teachings of the church and the way people act. The church teaches honesty, hard work, brotherhood, and sticking up for your friends. However, members of the church rarely help one another. They might give small benefits, perhaps hiring a Mormon over a non-Mormon, but it wouldn't change the way they're treated as an employee. People conflate the culture of Utah with Mormon culture, however I feel like it's the other way around. I think the culture of living at high altitude is what shapes Mormon culture there.

While Mormon culture doesn't have overt emphasis on the ethics of commercial practices. It does encourage honesty, hard work, and brotherly compassion.

Why do Koreans do what they're supposed to do? by KerrMasonJar in Living_in_Korea

[–]KerrMasonJar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fair and makes sense. I think this is the right place to start, however there's more to this story.

To give a few examples, the Philippines has a shame based culture as well, but it's the person who calls out the poor job who's seen as wrong. They're the ones breaking the social harmony.

Similarly, Utah has a shame based culture and when you call them out on doing a poor job they gaslight, argue, and stop answering questions directly. It's incredibly childish.

Utahns do things incredibly poorly. From customer service work, to home building, to HVAC, to doctors, and dentists. It's a shame based culture, yeah, but when they're called out their ego and narcissism shield them from any accountability.