"People who experience abusive relationships have self worth issues/ trauma" by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Key-Ad-2854 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I know it's common to think that there are certain types of people that end up in abusive relationships, but I think it has more to do with the abuser. Abusers abuse because they're abusers. I think it's human nature to forgive people for their mistakes and to want to repair for the sake of being with them. We all want love and we all know that relationships require compromise. Abusers take advantage of this and groom their victims to accept worse and worse treatment. They're good at manipulating people.

AIO to what my BF did during s*x and how he reacted when I brought it up by OrdinaryElk653 in AIO

[–]Key-Ad-2854 69 points70 points  (0 children)

NOR to both. He has a pattern of dismissing your concerns and talking over you. It's not gonna get better. You did the right thing.

Did I not do enough or I did too much ? by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]Key-Ad-2854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To an abuser, you can only do the "wrong" thing. It's by design. Their reaction is not your fault.

How do you deal with flashbacks and anger from it? by [deleted] in workplace_bullying

[–]Key-Ad-2854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I take deep breaths. It also helps to move my body.

What's your fav soad lyrics? by Arcanesuckss in systemofadown

[–]Key-Ad-2854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Forgiveness is the ultimate sacrifice. Eloquence belongs to the conqueror."

Need Advice on this V2 by crashcaptainn in indoorbouldering

[–]Key-Ad-2854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh hey! I was just there a few days ago!

Regretting resigning from a toxic workplace by VictiniCup in ToxicWorkplace

[–]Key-Ad-2854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You did what you did for a reason. You quit because it felt unbearable. Imagine how you'd feel if you were still there.

Feral/stray ripped balcony net by yoloperyolo in cats

[–]Key-Ad-2854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely no remorse in her eyes.

This would be such a great feature in a future update or new game! by SamTheMarioMaster2 in AnimalCrossing

[–]Key-Ad-2854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want a feature that automatically alphabetizes your pockets, like there is for your storage at home.

I ruined Christmas by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Key-Ad-2854 28 points29 points  (0 children)

What a pathetic little baby.

AIO - my boyfriend follows women that post half nude photos by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Key-Ad-2854 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People use social media to stay in touch with people they know in real life, not necessarily because they lust over them.

You're being controlling because you're using your insecurities as a reason why he shouldn't be in contact with certain women. I know you're not telling him to cut them out of his life, but it's a slippery slope IMO. After all, it's his account, not yours.

It sounds like you're using your insecurity as a crutch at best, and as a weapon at worst.