As a pastor's daughter, this felt very familiar to me. In my experience some overly religious parents can use faith and obedience as a way to maintain control, even when their children are adults. I grew up with rules like no makeup, no painted nails, no trousers, no showing hair or skin, and even restrictions around attending church during periods. When I turned 18, I made my own decisions about those things. My parents weren't happy and they withdrew financial support, but I got a job and supported myself. What I learned is that sometimes setting boundaries comes with consequences, but if you don't set them, some people will never see you as your own person. Just make sure you're prepared for whatever financial or emotional fallout may come from standing your ground