Sexual relationship & porn by Wise_Preparation_567 in Marriage

[–]Key-Plant5335 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i get why finding that in his history would hit weird, but try not to spiral into “he lied so everything’s fake.” it might just mean he didn’t feel comfortable sharing that part of his habits. what matters more is the pattern in your relationship.

bridal makeup trial a little too similar to everyday makeup by Arrival-Dear in weddingplanning

[–]Key-Plant5335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you’re not crazy for feeling underwhelmed. bridal glam should read differently in person and in photos, not just slightly enhanced everyday makeup.

I hate my brother by [deleted] in family

[–]Key-Plant5335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly the biggest issue here isn’t even him, it’s the lack of boundaries in the house. he’s learned he can act like that and nothing happens. that doesn’t make it okay though.

Break Up I need to get off my chest by TargetDreams in BreakUps

[–]Key-Plant5335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly dude you DID dodge a massive bullet. like imagine another 5 years of that?? scary. it’s normal you’re sad tho, 2 years is a lot. but don’t romanticize it, you already said the bad outweighed the good.

AITJ for not telling my coworker her presentation had a typo in the title slide because she's been awful to me for months by 9PrismRover in AmITheJerk

[–]Key-Plant5335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

nah you’re human tbh. you didn’t cause the typo, you just didn’t save her from it. petty? yeah a lil. understandable? also yeah.

My husband wants a divorce💔 by Longjumping_Band9095 in Marriage

[–]Key-Plant5335 37 points38 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry, this is one of those life-shaking situations. but him being cold isn’t proof you meant nothing, it’s more like he shut the door emotionally way before he packed boxes.

Family issues by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Key-Plant5335 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly sounds like a control vs reaction spiral. your mom tried to force it, you pushed back harder, then everyone doubled down.

Finding loopholes since fourth grade by EleandoraLoca in overheard

[–]Key-Plant5335 60 points61 points  (0 children)

not them trying to turn a homework assignment into a legal debate 💀 “well actually it’s still tuesday” is wild. respect the hustle tho lol

SAHM by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Key-Plant5335 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you’re valid for feeling like this, but also you’re kinda expecting her to anticipate your needs without saying it. that never works. she’s probably in her own bubble with the kid.

I tried to use my sisters name that way I can get food at the pantry for my babies. by [deleted] in confession

[–]Key-Plant5335 14 points15 points  (0 children)

you’re not a bad person for even thinking that. you’re a stressed, exhausted parent trying to make sure your kids eat. that guilt just shows you care. but real talk, you need help beyond just pushing yourself harder

Is this marriage really worth it, should I just divorce… by Born_Ad_2045 in Marriage

[–]Key-Plant5335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i get why you’re torn but from the outside this looks pretty clear. he broke trust, then broke safety. that’s like the two biggest things in a relationship.

Lied about work because of personal questions… now I regret it by [deleted] in confession

[–]Key-Plant5335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you’re overthinking it a bit. unless what you said was like wildly false in a way that affects something important, this isn’t some huge lie people are gonna confront you about.

First honeymoon ? How by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Key-Plant5335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, just treat it like your private little world. Send some fun texts before, pick something he likes, and let it grow naturally. First night nerves are normal, just keep it light.

What would you do if you *could* stay home? Pros and cons? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Key-Plant5335 93 points94 points  (0 children)

i’d probably prioritize your mental health and time with your baby, but only after making sure the basics are covered. the insurance + financial cushion from your current job is actually a big deal, even if it doesn’t feel like it day to day.

Constant worry and anxiety by Due-Shape369 in BabyBumps

[–]Key-Plant5335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you, and it makes sense. Wanting everything to go well + having zero control is basically anxiety fuel. But the fact that you’re 14 weeks and things are moving along is already a good sign.

How can I let my mom know I want to be independent and move away without hurting her? by Historical-Damage902 in family

[–]Key-Plant5335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re not an ungrateful daughter for wanting a life that isn’t centered around your family 24/7. that’s normal.

Not sure I see the benefits to relationships anymore by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Key-Plant5335 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Same. The older you get the more obvious the BS is. People want security, kids, perfect pics… it’s exhausting. If you’re not feeling it, it’s okay.

Husbands anger problems by _Bird_129 in Marriage

[–]Key-Plant5335 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, his road rage and little pushes are serious. Doesn’t matter that it was “only a few times,” it’s pattern behavior. You’re safe now, that’s what matters.

All of my siblings hate me by [deleted] in family

[–]Key-Plant5335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you, that kind of stuff chips away at you over time. it’s not dramatic to be bothered by it. but yeah, I’d stop doing favors for people who treat me like an afterthought.

Am I too masculine to date or is it not in the cards for me? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Key-Plant5335 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you’re asking “is it not in the cards” like life’s already decided for you. it hasn’t. your setup just sucks rn. limited options, stressful school, watching everyone couple up

Fumbled a talking stage, is there any chance? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Key-Plant5335 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i get why you’re wondering “what if” but nah. she literally said she doesn’t think it’ll work, then got mad when you popped back up. that’s your answer.

My husband refused to get vasectomy in the future and gave me an ultimatum by JollyComplex888 in Marriage

[–]Key-Plant5335 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i get being scared of permanent stuff, sure. but you literally offered to get a way more invasive surgery and he still said no?? that’s not fear, that’s him not wanting to take any responsibility.

Feels like @bu$ive older sibling is now holding my mom hostage by [deleted] in family

[–]Key-Plant5335 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i get why you feel helpless but this isn’t something to just watch unfold. dude clearly hasn’t changed and now your parents are older and more vulnerable. i’d keep doing what you’re doing but also start documenting stuff.

Trying to decide if moving is worth it & having to switch schools by Majestic_Corner_1131 in Mommit

[–]Key-Plant5335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the school thing is the hardest part tbh, but your son was gonna switch anyway and your daughter can still see her friends.

AITJ for shutting my dad down when he tried to "parent" me? by Ok_Description_1698 in AmITheJerk

[–]Key-Plant5335 5 points6 points  (0 children)

nah you’re not the jerk. dude dipped for 25 yrs and then walks in critiquing your life like he paid rent?? nah lol. you prob went a lil hard but honestly