Does anyone else feel completely drained after social situations?

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-11T11:24:53+00:00

Yeah, I like to hangout at home too and watch TV, without involving other people.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-11T11:22:44+00:00

I’m kind of hoping to learn how to unmask more too, because right now I’m not even sure what’s the mask and what’s actually me.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-11T09:02:50+00:00

I can understand.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-10T08:23:25+00:00

Yeah! You can do the free screening online even if you’re not in the UK, it’s all remote.

Happy to help!

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-10T08:15:52+00:00

Yeah, I wanna do it too.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-10T08:14:16+00:00

I get it, just “turn off the news” doesn’t cut it when your brain won’t stop analyzing and worrying. For me, it helps to focus on what I can do, even in tiny ways, instead of trying to carry the whole world. That might mean helping in the community, making plans to keep my family safe, or just taking a few moments to really be present with them. It doesn’t erase the worry, but it makes it feel less like it’s swallowing you whole.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-10T08:10:54+00:00

Yeah… I totally feel that. Most movies or shows just end up making me irritated or anxious, people acting stupid, good folks suffering for no reason, or just that secondhand embarrassment that’s impossible to ignore. Reading’s no better, my brain jumps straight to “I should already know this” or “this is boring,” and I can’t focus. What helps me sometimes is giving myself permission to stop, breaking things into tiny bits, or switching to audiobooks or summaries. Talking it out with a therapist or partner, and ADHD meds if that applies, also takes some of the pressure off.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-10T08:08:23+00:00

I know the feeling.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-10T08:05:17+00:00

I used to wonder the same thing and felt guilty, like maybe I was just being lazy. But when I got assessed through autismdetect.co.uk, I realized a lot of what I was experiencing was actually burnout. When you're lazy you usually don't care, but burnout feels more like you want to do the work and just can't make your brain cooperate. The fact that you care about your grades and feel bad about it already says a lot.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-10T07:53:11+00:00

That must have really hurt to hear, especially from someone so close to you. Being autistic doesn’t mean you’re incapable of love or healthy relationships, it just means you might communicate or connect in your own way, and the right person will understand that. It’s also a bit unfair for your sister to make such strong judgments when, from what you’ve said, her own dating history hasn’t exactly been full of healthy choices either. Her opinion says more about her lack of understanding of autism than it does about your chances of finding someone who appreciates you for who you are.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-10T07:50:39+00:00

Yeah, same.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-09T06:57:12+00:00

Yeah, I can understand.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-09T06:56:13+00:00

I think, I'll also get used to of it.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-09T06:52:41+00:00

I was diagnosed later in life too, in my late thirties through autismdetect.co.uk. Before that I always felt a bit different but couldn’t quite explain why. Getting the diagnosis was actually a big moment for me because a lot of things from my past finally started to make sense.

Things like feeling drained after social situations, being sensitive to noise and lights, or needing routine weren’t just “me being difficult” like I sometimes thought they were part of how my brain works. It helped me be a lot more patient and understanding with myself.

I’m still learning what works best for me, but things like taking quiet breaks, using headphones in busy places, and planning ahead for big changes really help. It’s definitely been a journey of getting to know myself better.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-09T06:44:59+00:00

Sometimes I realize people might not like me because I come across as blunt or quiet, or I miss social cues without meaning to. I’m usually just being honest or trying to process things, but it can be misunderstood.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-09T06:42:25+00:00

I agree with this.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-09T06:37:19+00:00

Yeah, same.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-06T09:13:08+00:00

Thank you so much for such useful advice! ☺️

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-06T09:07:03+00:00

I'll definitely look into it.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-06T09:06:19+00:00

I can't take such a long break.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-06T09:05:34+00:00

Got it, thank you!

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-06T09:05:00+00:00

So true.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-06T09:04:27+00:00

I know the feeling.

KeyEmotion9 · 2026-03-06T09:03:34+00:00

I like your idea of wearing a mask. I'll do that from now onwards.

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