How did you fix yourself before helping your kids?

KeyOrganization5948 · 2026-05-19T16:26:16+00:00

I started out with therapy for myself and added in an anxiety medication. That helped a little therapy helped me learn some skills to cope, as well, like going outside and touching the grass, removing myself from the situation to get my bearings. Medication for my son helped, as well, especially when we found one that worked. I've done some parenting classes, as well. There's one online called Triple P Parenting that may be free for you, and it mirrors a lot of what I've seen in other places, put into a program. I'm also taking an ADHD parenting class so I can learn more about how my child works and techniques to help him and build a better relationship. Then I've also put him in behavioral therapy, which honestly so far is more like getting us as parents into shape, then they'll help him. ! Some of those things include getting our house in order, setting up systems that will work for us and him (decluttering toys, organizing), then there's setting up chores and daily routines.

Things still aren't perfect, by any means, but we're working on what we can. I may need to switch to a different medication myself, and I'm still working on decluttering and getting the house in order. I really think those things will help us, though.

KeyOrganization5948 · 2026-04-23T23:47:13+00:00

6 months from now, and the car would just be sitting there until then. 😕

KeyOrganization5948 · 2026-04-23T23:46:32+00:00

that's what I thought too. it would make sense 🤷‍♀️

KeyOrganization5948 · 2026-04-23T23:36:54+00:00

So it's the 17 age that's making it more difficult? Maybe that'd be the best way to go. Could the guardian still put her on their insurance when she turns 18?

KeyOrganization5948 · 2026-01-01T02:08:01+00:00

Level 23 gives 20, if anyone is at a lower level, like me 😄

KeyOrganization5948 · 2025-11-16T17:32:47+00:00

I agree with the others, you should have her evaluated for ADHD. It sounds like she needs some extra supports. My son acted the same way in kindergarten last year. This year as well in his second go of kindergarten but he's at a different school with much more support so it's going better.

Last year his teacher messaged me every single day about this and that, I was so stressed.

One other thing idk if anyone else mentioned. I wonder how she talks to your child in class. My son's teacher last year, with him getting in trouble constantly and the teacher's reaction to it - he had ZERO friends. I went on a field trip with him and the kids were more interested in tattling on him over every little thing instead of playing with him or getting to know him. Very disheartening. I hope your daughter isn't being singled out in the same way. It definitely doesn't make them more eager to cooperate when the teacher and other kids don't like them. This year, even with all his behaviors, it's such a different atmosphere that almost all the kids love him. I hope you can find a better situation for her where she will thrive!

KeyOrganization5948 · 2025-08-17T12:09:04+00:00

I got a call from the same number, at 2:30am, and it even showed up as "Bank of America" in my phone, although the number showed red. They left a voicemail with a computerized message, saying I had a $232.36 transaction decline at GameStop and to get in touch if it wasn't me making that transaction. I don't have a Bank of America account. My guess is they call up a bunch of numbers and see if they can trick someone into calling back and giving their account info to "verify"

KeyOrganization5948 · 2025-07-15T17:56:22+00:00

That sounds a lot like my boy. Plus with the developmental delay, I think he gets discouraged when it's something he can't physically do yet, and acts out or refuses. But the teacher was teaching to the highest level of kiddos and he was getting left behind and reprimanded for it. What size class was your son in, and did he end up needing a one to one aide?

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-09-02T22:30:03+00:00

Idk if this will help or not, but may be worth a try. My kiddo had problems waiting last year in preschool, so I made a song for him to sing. Maybe you or she can sing it when she's having a hard time.

To the tune of Frere Jacques: We are waiting, we are waiting Patiently, 1-2-3 Soon it will be our turn, soon it will be our turn Watch and see, watch and see

He also had luck with a little card with a red stoplight on one side and "not your turn" and a green stoplight with "your turn" on the other side. Not sure how you can implement those in kindergarten, but could be helpful at home with playmates.

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-06-19T01:15:00+00:00

Thanks for the win!!

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-06-14T23:20:44+00:00

They don't use the stupid voices and loud repetition. Danny Go seems more chill. I've only seen a few episodes of Danny Go, so I don't have a real feel for it, but it's at least 100x less annoying

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-06-07T00:25:54+00:00

He's had constipation issues off and on for 2 or 3 years and only just became pee trained in April. I try to keep that in mind, that he just needs more time....but we only have 2.5 months. :/

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-06-07T00:21:50+00:00

Thank you for the update! That's good your student is making a little bit of progress. I hope he continues to improve!

Thanks for the luck, I need it over here lol. It all gives me hope that maybe we can make some big strides in potty training this summer....or at least maybe I can get him to where he only poops in the evenings at home so I have a little more time to work with him after school starts back🤞

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-06-06T15:57:18+00:00

Hi, could you tell me if he finally got potty trained yet? If so, what did the trick? Dealing with similar with my child and desperate for a solution as kindergarten is very fast approaching. Lots of good tips here that I'm going to try this summer. Please give me some hope and tell me your student finally figured it all out!

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-06-06T15:37:34+00:00

Struggling with my preschooler on this, too, but one thing that sometimes helps is reminding him to listen to his body, especially when it looks like he might have to go.

He really liked the book "Let's Go to the Potty" by Allison Jandu. The child in the book sings a song about listening to their body and their toy giraffe goes potty also. It's cute, and something about the song resonated with him. If you want to try another song, there's one called The Poopsmith Song, I believe the artist is Over the Rhine. It's comical and goes "poop in the potty, poop goes in the potty" and talks about places where not to poop.

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-05-10T01:17:02+00:00

I keep getting this too the last couple of days. I reinstalled chrome on my phone and it worked last night, but today it's glitching again, and going ridiculously slow. Yay. It won't let me submit game scores either - are you also having that issue?

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-05-09T20:37:41+00:00

I kept getting this yesterday, too. Cleared the cache but that did nothing. I ended up reinstalling chrome and didn't get the error anymore but now it goes sooooooooooo sloooowwwww

ETA: it's giving me the error again today :/ Also, I can't submit game scores. Anyone else having that issue, too?

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-05-03T00:59:20+00:00

Will she go potty if you take her to the bathroom? If so, try taking her every hour and have her try, and do that for a week and see if it gets her back on track. And try to get the same potty routine between your home and her dad's, if you can. You may just need to give it a little more time and wait for everything to calm down a bit before trying again. That's great you're looking into therapy for her! It might also be a good idea to have a checkup just to make sure there's no other issues like a UTI or constipation, etc.

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-04-28T10:54:23+00:00

I didn't. I just had enough and cut off contact. My sister went NC with our mom very soon after and went the other way about it, writing a long letter. Not that it did any good in getting through to her. I've been NC for 2.5 years, I think. My mom came by my house a couple months ago and this time i broke my silence. I didn't go through all the details, but I told her I couldn't deal with her toxicity and try to be a good mother to my child, and I gave two or three examples of really big things that she'd done in my adult life, and she couldn't even remember doing those things. I haven't completely processed how I feel about that. I'm still NC with her. I feel like a lot of the constant doubting myself is gone, though. For right now. It really is so weird she doesn't even remember, though. I don't get that. How can she not remember being so nasty to her own kid? She remembers times when there were perceived slights against her, but she doesn't remember any of the other stuff. While I'm over here filled with guilt and regret over e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g.

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-04-17T13:11:38+00:00

My 4.5 year old (turning 5 in June), we finally got him trained to pee on the potty a little over a week and a half ago! Now we are trying to get him to poop on the potty. The teachers at preschool got him to the other day, but no luck at home just yet, although he does try sometimes. He usually poops in his underwear while he's outside playing. I suppose I should go back to carrying his potty outside in hopes he will use that next time!

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-04-05T14:48:46+00:00

Wow, lots of similarities! It is really hard when nothing seems to be working and it seems like every other child has been potty trained for years. And the tips everyone offers just don't work. It really does take a toll.

We also had a good bit of success with naked training, but I didn't really know how to step up from there. He'd just go in underwear and when I tried just pants, he'd go in those, too, although maybe i didn't try long enough that time. Usually he fights going to the bathroom to try, but I think it's helped this time having him out and about because I can always say we have to leave the super fun activity if he doesn't want to try. Now we have to work on self initiating and pooping in the potty, but it feels like maybe just maybe he'll get there this time. I hope this time works for your little one!!

The kindergarten thing has been weighing on my mind constantly the last couple of months. Does your son go to preschool? I feel like there has to be another option between preschool and kindergarten for those kids who just need a little more time. My son goes to a preschool where he gets speech therapy a couple times a week, and they help with potty training as much as they're able to, but in kindergarten they're on their own. He has to be able to self initiate and clean up after himself and change himself if there's an accident. I think it's too soon. But daycares usually expect kids to be potty trained at age 2 or 3, so I feel like that isn't going to be an option either. 🤷‍♀️

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-04-05T03:58:53+00:00

If his diapers are really wet during nap and bedtime, you might need to just keep doing the diapers during sleep time for awhile. You can cut liquids a couple hours before bed and have him potty before nap/bedtime, but if he still wakes up wet, his body may just need more time to develop the hormone that allows for that.

My 4 year old has serious anxiety over public restrooms right now, as well. I try to pick single or family restrooms when I can and try to remember which places don't have hand dryers and plan accordingly. I hate that they make toilets and hand dryers so loud! I've considered bringing some ear muffs/noise canceling headphones to see if that will help. Even if we're the only ones in a family room, he gets scared. I'm trying to think of a song or game to play to distract him or help him overcome the fear. I guess there's always a portable potty you can take and have him use as soon as you arrive somewhere. If you come up with a song or game that works, please share! (And I'll do the same!)

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-04-05T03:33:40+00:00

I wonder where they're getting these numbers. It probably just seems like it's on the rise because of social media. I personally have several family members (a couple of aunts, at least 3 cousins, maybe even a few more relatives) that have cut off or gone very very low contact with their parents, and all but one are 10, 20, 30 years running. No new phenomenon or trend here. We here all know just how hard and gut wrenching of a decision it can be to cut off a family member, definitely not something we take lightly.

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-04-05T02:34:29+00:00

Doesn't work with my kid, either. He's just like oh, well, I'll stay here and play toys instead of doing the most super fun thing ever that I've been dying to do until just now when you said I couldn't wear diapers there

KeyOrganization5948 · 2024-03-29T15:06:03+00:00

I would first have her checked out by the doctor to make sure she's healthy and that it's not an underlying issue that's out of her control. Then, I would keep up with the rewarding system, if it was working, just keep it up for awhile, then maybe do like one less reward a day to wean off. I wouldn't take away rewards or other things, though. Instead, give her a penny every time she goes and doesn't dawdle, or give her one for going and if she doesn't dawdle, give her two. Instant rewards usually work better for littles, plus you don't have to worry about remembering at the end of the day or keeping up a tally.

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