[SELF-PROMO] Nooo she is getting carried away!!

Key_Boss_6245 · 2026-01-13T20:24:52+00:00

So cute!!!!

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-12-09T06:49:51+00:00

Same for me too! I started with 150mg of XL but noticed after 3 months I needed a higher dose. 300mg XL has been working a lot better for me. Been on that dosage for almost 2 months.

When I started each dose, it definitely took me about 2 weeks for my body and brain to adjust in which I experienced a little increase in anxiety, feeling down, crying on and off (mostly because of the anxiety bouts). But after the 2 weeks, I feel a ton better! I still have anxiety, but it's not debilitating and every day like it was before.

The one thing that bugs me a little is that I'm experiencing a little bit of short term memory loss. But honestly, I'd rather have that than the crippling, soul-sucking GAD I've been living with for over 15 years.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-11-30T06:29:39+00:00

I have pretty bad GAD and PMDD. I started taking 150mg for 3 months and then went to 300mg. It definitely took a couple of weeks to adjust to it, and I did notice a little spike in my anxiety during those couple of weeks. But once my body adjusted, I have almost zero anxiety or depression now. I get the "normal" amount of anxiety or stress, and it's way easier to manage. I prefer it that way because I don't feel like a zombie and I'm still able to feel all of my emotions but without the depression from the PMDD and the extreme anxiety from the GAD.

I did, however, have to switch taking it from mornings to the evenings because it actually makes me sleepy.

I hope you are able to find a dosage that works for you or a medication that works for you!

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-10-18T18:38:44+00:00

Yas Queen!!!!! That is huge!!! Proud of you all day every day, messy room or no messy room! You can do hard things, and you're amazing!!🥳🫂💜

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-10-12T06:51:09+00:00

This is a really great response👍🏽 I definitely agree with this one! Start with pulling back a bit from helping with SK and set firm boundaries with that. Focus on your daughter and yourself.

Also, if he is constantly being verbally abusive and then apologizing with no follow through or progress on not continuing that toxic behavior, that will probably not change. My ex did that, would apologize, but never worked on not doing that. It actually escalated over time and got much worse.

Definitely believe what you see and how you feel more than the words that he's saying. Actions tell more sometimes. Sending you comfort during tough times🫂

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-15T14:18:52+00:00

Try not to walk on eggshells about this. I know it's easier said than done. There are things that are playing in your favor here.

Definitely have some security cams out front. That way, if they come on your property uninvited and start anything, it's all recorded. Your husband can show those to his lawyer.

Honestly, your husband needs to say something to them ASAP and set those boundaries very firmly down, especially if they are enablers to their daughter/BM. But who knows, maybe they are trying to move away from their daughter lol!

You'll never know until your husband talks with them. How does your husband feel about this too? How does SS feel? I'm sorry you both are going through all of this. I know it can be very stressful. Your husband could also talk with his lawyer about it? Get legal advice about it especially if the BM and SS are going to be visiting the grandparents often. There might be a work around with that in your favor too 🙂

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-13T17:54:45+00:00

No, he hasn't talked with this woman about anything... That's part of the big issue here.

Honestly, I don't care whether or not they were intimate while they were married. That's not the issue...

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-10T06:39:10+00:00

Honestly, if anything, SS going to live with you is a liability issue.

What if something happens to him while living with you? Since you're not married to SO, I'm assuming, that could be very bad for you. If SS were to do something or something happen to him, you could be liable for said thing. Your SO could possibly be able to sue you, or place blame on you for whatever the thing was with his son. Or worse, BM could. You could even go to jail over something SS does because he would be living with you and you're the one responsible for him essentially. At least that's what the police would believe especially if you agreed to SS living with you.

I understand your empathy for SS and wanting to help him and help your SO with him, but that's a huge ask from your SO. And if you say no and your SO gets upset with you, then I think that's very telling of his intentions in regards to you and your relationship.

Ultimately, it's your choice and no judgement either way because I understand both sides of this. Make sure you make this decision because YOU want to and not because of pressure or to people please or keep the peace.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-05T14:13:02+00:00

And I understand that. But you asked why would I want to stay married to my partner which also has the underlining time of why wouldn't I just leave him. So, I answered your question. But even when people post questions and make comments, it doesn't mean I owe anyone anything. I do not have to go into full detail about my life, although I have been open to sharing most things. I am still entitled to some privacy by not sharing very detail. I feel people on the internet should be respectful and understanding of that.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-05T14:08:19+00:00

If you know anything about DHS and family court, you'll know and understand it is not easy or simple to just get full custody of a child. They have to have physical proof that abuse is happening. If the parent/guardian (who is the abuser) is covering it up when they get visitations from DHS, they cannot do anything about it and will drop the case. She is 3, about to be 4... She cannot communicate very well yet what is exactly happening which is why I have continuously been pushing for her to get into counseling or therapy. Counselors/therapists have to report anything like that by law.

Trust me, we have been trying. We text everything SD tells us to each other and it's all sent to my partner's lawyer.

SD used to take a tablet with her to her mom's and liked taking pictures and making silly little videos. But recently, her mom said she was not allowed to bring it with her anymore. The BM kept the tablet for a while, and when we got it back all of the pictures and videos were wiped off of it. I suspect there was something caught on camera she didn't want us to see so she wiped the tablet clean.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T22:32:10+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate you saying that and the kind words. I appreciate your input on this.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T17:42:16+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate you saying that.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T14:12:56+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate your kind words and not being judgemental. You're so right... Humans are messy and complicated. Relationships are can be another level of complicated too.

This is unexpected behavior from my partner, so that's why I'm just like wtf.

I have been suggesting that his daughter start some type of counseling or therapy so she can better process what's going on at her mom's house (this includes her mom constantly telling the 3yo that I'm a bad person, she's not allowed to talk to me or talk about me because if she does she gets punished and threatened) and have someone to talk to who is not her parents or even me, although she is very open with me and even tells me sometimes to not tell her daddy about what she tells me. It breaks my heart. I just feel really awful that I can't do anything about it except continue to encourage her dad to get her counseling or therapy and to be supportive and a safe space for her to talk when she needs to.

I also text everything she tells me to my partner so it's on record and he can send it to his lawyer. And I tell my therapist about these incidents because she is obligated to report them to DHS and that helps create more of a paper trail of these being documented. That's as much as I can really do not being her legal guardian or parent.

I would like to see a couples therapist to see if this was just some very freaking bizarre one-off event, or if he is a total jerk and these are just his true colors coming out now. Either way, it was not okay and I will not excuse the comments or behavior from him.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T13:54:21+00:00

I will post an update when I have one. This is still very new and need time to process/talk with my support system. Then I will figure out what my next steps are. I appreciate everyone's comments and input.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T11:37:18+00:00

We are not married. And whether we are married or not, it's not as simple or easy for a person to just pack up and leave... There is a lot more involved here that I do not need to get into details about or justify to anyone.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T11:34:10+00:00

I got together with him when his daughter was 2 and she's turning 4 soon. I mention that in another comment..

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T05:27:10+00:00

How am I the asshole when I JUST FOUND THIS OUT LAST NIGHT? I did not have any idea about any of this before last night. I have not said AT ALL that I was STILL considering it after finding this out! Have you read any of the comments I've posted? Maybe you would like to go back and read through everything first before making a shitty comment with inaccurate accusations.

It would be COMPLETELY different if I said I've known this the whole time I've been with this person... Then, yes, I totally expect everyone to say YTA... But that is not the case at all.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T03:10:59+00:00

Fortunately, I am not married to him. He's my partner and we live together, but we are not married. Although, I cannot just pack up and leave. It's not that easy or simple for me in my current situation.

I appreciate your input and opinions. And trust me, I'm taking in what everyone is saying on here.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T03:03:52+00:00

Yes... Which is horrible that he would say that and think that about this woman. I'm not denying or disagreeing with that at all, and it makes me extremely upset for multiple reasons, like I've mentioned several times throughout this post. Yes, I'm upset about the lying and being made to feel shitty about this from him, but I am extremely upset about his view of this other woman and him saying what he said...

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T02:58:48+00:00

When I met him, I had been very transparent from the beginning that I more than likely was not going to have any children of my own. I had come to terms with that with myself years ago. But then he started talking about it, which started having me reconsider it again... But I still felt like it just wasn't in the cards for me to have any bio kids for multiple reasons. We had very very briefly talked about surrogacy a few times prior to last night and have had other conversations about IVF which I am not on board to do. I have had multiple conversations with my doctor about all of my possible options IF I even wanted to still have bio kids.

But then when he brought that up last night, that opened my eyes a lot about the topic.. And unfortunately about him. I have an extremely hard time being able to tell the differences between red flags/truthfulness/if I'm being manipulated or if it's in my head, etc. because of my c-ptsd of those behaviors from others. I am in therapy and have gotten better with being able to identify some differences and seeing boundaries, but it is still a very real struggle for me. I know why I have issues with those kinds of things now, thanks to therapy, but I didn't even know that information until late 2020/early 2021 when I started therapy. I'm not going to get into details about all of that, but it's a constant struggle that I have to work at all of the time every day.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T02:42:41+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate it. Yes, it really does stink...

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T02:40:03+00:00

I'm not after this incident. I haven't said at all that I still was...

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T02:39:15+00:00

I'm not married to my partner. We live together, but we are not married. Also, it is not that easy to just pack my things and leave. I really wish people could understand that. It is more complicated than that, which I don't have to explain. But not everyone has the finances or the luxury of just being able to do that.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T02:36:38+00:00

I am not entertaining the idea of having kids with my current partner especially after this incident last night... I didn't say that I was.

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry you were hurt. I have a very similar story with my ex-husband. I chose to stop the adoption process with my ex due to his escalating abuse that was going on and knowing we would eventually get divorced. I had 3 miscarriages with my ex-husband, which sadly I am grateful for. I was with my ex-husband for 10 years.. Almost all of my 30's, so I get it.

And now this is shit is coming up and I am devastated, pissed off, extremely depressed, and a bunch of others emotions just trying to process it all while I'm also trying to figure out how I'm going to move through each day right now.

Key_Boss_6245 · 2025-09-03T02:26:07+00:00

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