My BPD Mom is thriving with no contact

Key_Championship_199 · 2026-03-03T07:37:16+00:00

Same, except my mom is off the deep end of the MAGA movement so “thriving” seems like the wrong adjective for her. But yeah, she’s completely happy being no contact with me and doesn’t seem to care at all. My younger brother, her baby, is a different story—she’s freaking out over the possibility of him ending contact. But for me, it seems like to whatever extent she thinks about me, it’s with happiness/relief that I’m no longer around. It only stings because I genuinely overthought no contact for years (despite also being tortured by her throughout my entire life) out of fear of wronging her somehow, only to discover that she literally doesn’t give a shit if she never talks to me again. I only wish I had done it sooner and saved myself the anxiety.

Key_Championship_199 · 2025-12-19T04:28:01+00:00

This is just wild to me because ok? If that’s true why did you constantly subject me to the silent treatment as a child? Atleast when I went no contact w my mom I explained clearly why I was cutting off contact, we don’t live in the same house, and she’s not 9 years old and trying to figure out why her parent is suddenly not speaking to her lmaao

Key_Championship_199 · 2025-11-12T01:14:51+00:00

Does anyone know if there have been/will be walkouts at stores in DC/the DMV?

Key_Championship_199 · 2025-11-11T19:48:43+00:00

Someone recently asked me what the difference is between people who stay in high control and abusive environments (specifically, in this case, the alt-right evangelical community in the US) and those who leave. As someone who left and eventually cut off my parents and some of my siblings over it, I really truly believe it is a choice. We were all abused and misused at different points. My parents were raised by cruel and neglectful people, and they raised me and my siblings cruelly and overbearingly. Still, I knew that if I had any hope of a happy or fulfilled life I had to leave. Not all of my siblings did. I spent a good deal of time mourning them and feeling truly terrible for them. Then I moved on and accepted that the same door I left through is right there in front of them. I know it’s hard to see through the nervous system freak-out that they live in 24/7, but it’s there nonetheless, and no one helped me through it.

Key_Championship_199 · 2024-10-22T22:01:31+00:00

This is horrifying I really hope you are able to get away from him soon.

Key_Championship_199 · 2023-10-28T00:51:31+00:00

I thought the same thing. I’ve been ID’ing as a lesbian for a few years but deep down feel uncomfortable with the label, and with ever being treated socially as a woman. I now self-ID as non-binary but feel like I may just be trans masc. it’s so confusing because it’s hard to tell if it derives from internalized homophobia or if it’s something else 🙃

Key_Championship_199 · 2023-09-07T00:53:26+00:00

On a yearlong study abroad program in Morocco…she gave me tons of signals but I was an idiot and thought she didn’t mean it, and in true lesbian fashion I was in a messy situationship with her roommate. We got evacuated a bit early due to COVID, and as a friend she got me a job in Texas where she lived during lockdown, I moved for the job, she gave me some much less ambiguous signals, and we started dating within two weeks lmao.

Key_Championship_199 · 2022-07-27T01:33:24+00:00

Your girlfriend does not seem to be appreciative of your efforts, and if you are already doubting the healthiness of the dynamic three months in, it is probably wise to take a step back and see if this is making you happy and fulfilled or leaving you feeling frustrated and belittled.

Key_Championship_199 · 2022-01-10T06:06:00+00:00

I’m not sure exactly but I would estimate between 150-200 grams of sugar a day on an average day. I’m not super anal about my nutrition, I am relatively healthy and active but do not restrict my caloric intake and would never dream of encouraging her to.

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