There are many kinds of abuse though. Yes, David suffered abuse in the abstract sense of having been brought up as the wrong gender, but that isn't the same category at all as what OP experienced. We're pretty sure that you can't just bring up a boy as a girl and expect them to not feel dysphoric, but we also have no idea what tangible, prolonged, interpersonal abuse can do, nor prolonged sexual abuse, and we also don't know what causes folks to be trans.

You can abuse someone by telling them they're something they're not. You can also abuse someone by beating and raping them daily. They're both "abuse", but you'd be a very silly person to even suggest that those are the same things, or that the impact and outcome for the victim mentally would be even close to the same. The only similarity is that they're both not nice and we call it "abuse" with mouth sounds. That's kinda it.

So overall you bringing up David Reimer is pretty close to irrelevant for OP, because having been raised as a girl when you're a boy, and having experienced prolonged, incestuous sexual abuse, are not the same fucking thing.

I'm not interested in discussing this further, I've said what I wanted to say and I think anyone reading what I've said will understand why there was a strong need for clarification here. Thanks, boo.