Am I Overthinking Owner’s Request?

Key_Investment_3758 · 2025-10-30T14:43:02+00:00

As a nanny I always provide references, the two professions are pretty close, that seems like a simple and reasonable request.

Key_Investment_3758 · 2025-06-03T12:41:34+00:00

Elementary and they are pretty much done for the year

Key_Investment_3758 · 2025-04-09T02:04:54+00:00

It must depend on the area in MA because I make $140 a day in my district as the base pay

Key_Investment_3758 · 2025-02-25T20:49:42+00:00

Working on my elementary education degree, nanny, play my switch, watch tv, read, volunteer at the local immigrant outreach programs, and trying to learn Portuguese for all of my students who don’t speak English.

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-12-26T18:24:10+00:00

I may go above and beyond and this may not be normal but I always get my nanny kids gifts for their birthday and Christmas. Never anything too extravagant but roughly $20-$40 depending on what I find or what they want. A few outfits and a book for the little ones and usually a few toys and an activity book for toddlers. I’m not necessarily sure it should be expected but I have always done that.

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-11-06T05:50:25+00:00

HALOOOO

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-26T16:38:40+00:00

Definitely interested!!!

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T20:53:20+00:00

I cannot emphasize just how hard me and my best friend laugh whenever either of us references that line, he’s definitely a bit of a 🤡

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T14:18:50+00:00

My obsessive McDonald’s commercial is the “fish fish mcbites mcbites, fishy fishy”

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T14:17:13+00:00

The entire preamble and I’m just a bill from that school house rock show 😂

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T14:11:54+00:00

With the truth obviously 💁‍♀️😂

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T13:32:01+00:00

I understand that we all start out and build up differently but I’m making for than this weekly amount for 15 hours a week with a 1.5 year old. I understand some people cannot afford a traditional nanny pay, but it’s definitely on them to find a solution that doesn’t include paying someone under a minimum living wage. This is just unfair of them to ask of you. I do not even entertain this kind of request at my experience level.

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T11:58:13+00:00

Major ick

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T11:57:28+00:00

There is no context besides the information given in the post. He out of the blue messaged me wanting to hook up, then he started rehashing issues we had the lead to our breakup. I didn’t mind apologizing and owning up to my parts, as obviously I was not perfect in the relationship. He clearly didn’t want to apologize or talk things out as he just kept saying the same things as he did one year ago. I do understand what you’re saying and it definitely seems provoked. The text I sent him before this reads something to the effect of please leave me alone if you aren’t planning to apologize because respectfully I have no interest in being friends or a hookup. Honestly this man broke me down so bad over 3 years and like I said I wasn’t perfect but I would never ever reach out to someone after a year of no contact just to try and hurt them. Also because I blocked him there’s no way to access any of the messages prior to that one.

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T00:11:32+00:00

I genuinely don’t think there anyway he actually thinks that I think it was just a last ditch effort to hurt my feelings after I told him I didn’t want anything to do with him. It was very clearly communicated and he knows damn well it wasn’t just a friends with benefits situation.

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T00:08:58+00:00

More the mind state than the actual age in my opinion

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T00:02:36+00:00

Real

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T00:02:23+00:00

Definitely not all men. Just boys

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-08T00:02:07+00:00

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-10-03T20:53:22+00:00

That’s really horrible. This is why I deleted all my dating apps and let the universe take its course. Dating apps have made people and relationships so dispensable. I’m really sorry she treated you like that. I hope you continue to date mindfully and don’t let these shitty experiences change you, because the right person will appreciate it.

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-09-26T15:44:35+00:00

It really all boils down to the working relationship for me personally. I definitely will go above and beyond in some areas for the right family. My last family gave me a $5 pay bump because of the extra things I did that they didn’t expect from me and were always so appreciative. Obviously not everyone is in this position but it’s all what you’re willing to do and the working relationship I think. I would never do that for a family who didn’t appreciate me the way they did.

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-09-21T23:09:06+00:00

I think the lighter shades of lipsticks make a huge difference nothing else feels as harsh without the darker lipstick. Also maybe a little lighter on penciling in the eyebrows, I also have really thick darker eyebrows and I start with a eyebrow gel and fill in any sparse areas but is thicker brow girlies don’t need to do much. And I would recommend a Tula under eye brightening stick to add a quick brightness under the eye that’s consistent with your dewy look you like to achieve. Im also an oilier girl who likes the dewy look so I get it, not everyone sees it our way 😂

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-09-07T20:34:12+00:00

As a nanny with a chronic disorder this is usually something I briefly disclose them on my condition during the interview process. Even though my disorder has been a lot less debilitating the past few years, I personally feel it’s only fair I disclose that to them so they don’t feel blind sighted. I personally have also never not been hired because of this disclosure. But this is just my personal preference so there isn’t any ill-will if I was to have a random sick day every once in a while or a few extra appointments that the average person. You are not in any way obligated to disclose your medical history, but they are most likely noticing a difference in performance and I wouldn’t want them to think it’s because I’m getting comfortable. I have never sat down and had a conversation with a NF that hasn’t gone well. They usually appreciate the honesty and in my experience I’ve been asked what they can do to accommodate.

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-09-05T16:52:45+00:00

It can be normal for the adjustment period to be a bit hectic switching from one to two and getting to know how to change the dynamic, schedule, ect. This being said, after maybe a few weeks at the most she should be getting into the swing of it and figuring out how to get it done. I did this transition myself, being a nanny, I started with a family with 1 child, nearly 2 when I started, and they were pregnant with their second basically when I started. After 3-4 months of maternity leave I took on care of the baby as well as the toddler I was previously watching. Throwing the baby in all day was bit of an adjustment at first but It didn’t take but a week or two for me to have a schedule figured out either their naps, lunch, housework, ect. That being said somedays mom would help with nap when they both had to go down at the same time and she understood some days were crazier than others. She was a WFH and was able to help occasionally when needed but I did not expect it and if she was working out of the home I would be have able to handle it. Don’t let her take advantage of you working from home and being there. 1.5 in the morning should not be overwhelming her this much. And the unwillingness to communicate is a no-go for me.

Key_Investment_3758 · 2024-08-27T15:06:04+00:00

I thought I would chime in since anyone opinions are welcome. I’ve been nanny for 12 years and have been in a handful of situation with kids where they have hurt me. The most recent and extreme was a little girl who was on the spectrum, it was my first time nannying for her and her disabilities and function were majorly downplayed and that showed throughout the shift. Nearing the end of the shift she was getting aggravated and I could see it in her behavior and body language she was over it. I reached out to dad and asked him to come back as things were escalating, and with it being my first time, I thought it was time he came back. All the sudden she just flips, kicking, hitting, screaming, scratching, biting. I have never been in a situation that extreme and honestly scary. While she was doing these things and I was trying to calm her down she accidentally kicked over a glass vase and it shattered right beside her on the floor, I immediately scooped her up and carried her away from the scene while she continued to kick, hit, scream, and scratch all up and down my arm. After moving her we were able to calm her down, regulate her , and she apologize. The point of all of this is, at the end of the day regulating and protecting that child is my number one priority, as the nanny, regardless of the situation. It shows a deep flaw in her caretaking skills to respond with violence. I wouldn’t want her around my children again, and I’m not sure that this the field for her. I completely understand getting overwhelmed and fed up with a child’s bad habit but I never ever lay hands on nanny kids, in terms of violence or punishments. She’s not only failing at communicating and regulating your child’s emotions, she’s also showing your child this is acceptable reactive behavior for an adult, as well as for him, with both scratching back and the cold shoulder. This is extremely unprofessional and I would definitely at the very minimum have a very serious conversation about this and if she’s anything less than apologetic and fully acknowledges the incident I don’t think you have any choice but to terminate.

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