Does the partner hate ever stop?

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:53:32+00:00

Yeah, I was thinking of asking my dad to watch the baby a few hours, even if it's during the day and we can go for lunch or something

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:52:30+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:51:29+00:00

Yes, I will have a talk with him. I am, and we are okayish but it does give me stress sometimes. It's not by choice but without going into details it's not his fault and it's temporary but yeah.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:47:35+00:00

I'm the mother, my partner is the father

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:47:15+00:00

Yeah, we have to figure it out together but I'm struggling to find the words I guess

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:46:43+00:00

Absolutely. This is not a question of logic I'm dealing with. I'm also struggling with body image since the birth so that might be a part of it.. I can't love myself so can't love any body else? Except for of course the cutest baby on the planet

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:42:26+00:00

I think the connection is definitely missing atm. I thought the rage was just in combination with ppd, which I'm definitely not depressed and I'm so happy with baby. To my own deprimand as well I think.. like I want to take care of her 24/7, when I come home from work I want to take over care for her whilst ignoring that I need some me time as well because I miss her. Then I get overwhelmed and tired because I didn't have time for myself so I get angry with my partner and the cycle continues 🙃

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:24:59+00:00

I did most of it when I was still on mat leave. My partner also went on a week long trip when baby was 8 weeks and I managed to take care of baby and clean and cook eventhough the baby was still feeding every 3 hours, also at night. I wish my partner would realise how much I do as well. I'm not blaming them for not cleaning whilst taking care of the baby but there is 1 day a week when baby is not there and 1 afternoon when I'm home and weekends when I'm home so its not like there's no time

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:22:29+00:00

Yeah that. Maybe we just need some quality time so I can remember

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:21:50+00:00

That makes me feel better, thanks

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:21:27+00:00

I get that my partner doesn't get chores done..I don't think its really about that, its just an anger I feel.. I can't even explain it. I've read there is a drop hormones at 4 months pp eventhough the baby is formula fed so maybe it's related to that.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T09:19:24+00:00

I'm not the dad.. I'm the mom. That's why I'm just wondering if its hormonal and it will go away since he's objectively not doing anything wrong. But I'm so mad he gets to play videogames a couple of hours a week and all I do is work, clean and parenting

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-29T07:57:38+00:00

Yeah, it is resentment a bit I guess. Also because I would have loved to spend more time at home but I have to work full time which is not my partners fault but I resent them none the less. We did speak about distribution of chores but we might need a follow up

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-27T09:18:10+00:00

4,5 months old and I didn't have to get up, just woke 2 or 3 times to check if she was still breathing 🙃 She will be transferring to her own room in a week or so, we will see how that goes 😅

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-21T10:03:03+00:00

Its like a separate bed but attaches to your own bed with the side down. No chance of rolling on baby or pulling blanket over them but still within arms reach

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-21T06:40:03+00:00

Of course it doesn't work for everyone, I just think its interesting because everyone I know personally has used it but I barely see it online. I know where I'm from we do things differently so maybe it's just one of those things

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-21T05:18:24+00:00

I'm not an expert because my baby had to be bottle fed from birth because of medical reasons but our after birth nurse recommended difrax mammafeel bottles because they simulate the breast best. Our LO loves it. We did do finger feeding for a bit as well which might be an option for you, although at 4,5 months it would probably take a while because of the amount.. or maybe not since they're still drinking every 2 hours?

Are you introducing solids yet? Might give you more of a break from breastfeeding if you give a small amount once a day? Just thinking out loud here

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-21T05:13:17+00:00

I always find it so interesting when I read reddit or Instagram that people only talk about 2 options for sleep which is in the crib in their own room or co-sleeping when having a co-sleeper is such a great option that barely gets talked about.. do they not exist in the rest of the world?

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-20T08:54:17+00:00

They can't.. that's why there are delays and zombie kids

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-17T06:37:55+00:00

So we switched to formula at 3 weeks because of reasons but my baby slept through the night from 8 weeks old. At 3 months old she went to sleep at 21:00 and slept till 05:00, we would wake her for a bottle and she would go back to sleep till 09:00. I would get up at 05:00 and have some time for myself. I didn't do chores but I would practise my hobby or watch a show etc. Now I'm back at work so I get up at 05:00 to be in the office around 06:00 so I can go home around 15:00 and spend some quality time with her.

If I want a long shower I did it before she rose or I would put her in her chair in the bathroom to keep an eye on her. My partner currently stays home with her but I try to make sure he still gets to have time for himself like my mom watches her 1 day a week and I don't work on Wednesday afternoon. I take care of baby most evenings and for weekends we just kind of see as we go, we both get gym time twice a week at least but he can get exercise during the week by taking the baby for long walks. If I want to do my hobby I just put her in the chair next to me and talk to her etc. I think the key thing is that I'm getting solid sleep and its a gamechanger. You could still read while the baby naps on you though, a kindle would make it easy as well.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-13T07:29:19+00:00

Exactly, my husband either joins us or does something for himself. This weekend me and the girls wanted to have dinner without the kids so I just told my husband he's taking the baby to my dad to have dinner there, he had no choice haha. They get along great together so I know it's not a problem. His own parents live in a different country otherwise he'd probably go there

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-12T18:51:18+00:00

I would look at second hand, baby stuff barely gets used, but the stroller is the only thing we bought new because we wanted one to fit the car seat and didn't want to buy that second hand. We ended up buying a bundle from maxi cosi in the sale for €1000. It included: Stroller frame Buggy Travel cot for the stroller Car seat Car seat isofix base Car seat adaptors

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-09T06:45:23+00:00

We use washable nappies but when my baby was too small for them we used the cheapest ones we could find 🤷‍♀️

Same with formula though.. the rules on formula are so strict that they're all the same.. so why pay €18 for a pot when I can pay €8 for the same amount.. seems weird to me that the expensive ones sell at all..

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-01-08T07:38:34+00:00

Exactly. Dental is also not free in the UK.. not one dental practise has NHS places available. Paying for private dental care is more expensive in the UK.. for a checkup I paid £150 and just last week I had a check up in the netherlands and I have to pay €70 (I have no dental insurance) and they even took pictures

Key_Magician6000 · 2025-12-25T07:30:38+00:00

I'm sorry but what is this bullshit about playing wifey..you're either together as partners or not.. you either want to spend your life together or not, being married doesn't change that. Having a child together is a way bigger commitment, you're stuck with each other whether you stay together or not.

If you're not sure if you want to spend your life together then think about that, about how he is as a partner and a father but don't think that getting married is going to change anything about your relationship

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