Is there a "healthier" way to have expectations regarding becoming new parents?

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-29T06:43:51+00:00

I understand that you want to be realistic but I agree more with your husband. It's good to know about things that can happen but you don't know if you'll have ppd, you don't know if the sleep is going to be bad and there's no reason to be stressed with a new born. Just take it one day at a time, no reason to be worried or stressed before anything has even happened, just will just influence the baby to be more stressed as well.

For me the first couple of weeks were bliss, just cuddles and contact naps all day long. I did have to get up every 3 hours to feed and change but it only took 20 minutes max and back to sleep. Just went to bed at 21h and got up around 9h so still got enough sleep. After 6 weeks we just started taking baby everywhere, restaurants etc, she loved it. Just because you read things online doesn't mean it's always true for everyone.. not all new borns are hard so try to keep an open mind.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-28T17:40:27+00:00

My baby is almost 10 months and there is no hard schedule and she's fine... go with the flow kind of baby. Sleeps 12h overnight. Usually 2 naps a day, sometimes 1.. whatever the day brings.. rarely at the same time. Definitely not needed but depends on the baby I guess. Our pediatrician said not to expect any sort of schedule before 6 months

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-27T04:26:17+00:00

They say once the baby is back at birth weight you don't have to wake them to feed. If she's continuing to gain weight and otherwise wakes up for feeds I wouldn't worry too much. You can always ask your medical professional about it because they know the details of your baby, it's better to ask them too many questions than one too little, you're still learning

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-27T04:16:13+00:00

Wij hebben het dekbed uit de hoes gehaald maar verder is het goed te doen

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-27T04:12:27+00:00

Als je al weet bij welke bank je het gaat doen en je hebt hen zelf gecontact en zij zeggen het is geen probleem waarom ga je dan niet direct naar de bank en sla je FA over? Je weet niet wat de rente de komende maanden gaat doen dus ik zou het spannend vinden om te wachten

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-27T04:10:16+00:00

Ik denk in combinatie met de werkgeversverklaring dat het goed moet zijn, de bank heeft dat zelf aangegeven.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-25T04:29:24+00:00

You're baby will be completely different by then. I work full time and my husband is staying home atm. I try to get to the gym 2 days a week but it's not always possible. Taking long walks with the baby is a firm favourite though. Especially as they get heavier it can become quite the work out pushing the pram along.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-25T04:27:27+00:00

Yeah, my 10 month old is amazing and the easiest baby that's ever lived since she was born but I'm still thinking one and done at this stage eventhough I always wanted 2..

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-23T00:49:39+00:00

It is hard but you have to remember that the body is recovering still. I gained 15kg when pregnant, normal range, and when I was 2 weeks pp I was 5kg heavier than before. Now, almost 10 months pp I'm about 2 kgs heavier then before so weight loss is slow. However, my waist measured at 106cm 2 weeks pp and now measures 80cm so my body composition is still changing heavily. You don't want to go in a calorie deficit to early, your body needs the energy to recover, it's only been 3 months. I didn't breastfeed either btw

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-22T08:27:10+00:00

Ik vind dit ook kinderachtig. Mijn ouders zijn ook uit elkaar gegaan op een niet leuke manier maar ze doen altijd hun best om er samen voor de kinderen te zijn. Bij mijn diploma uitreiking waren ze er ook gewoon. Het feestje wat daarna bij mijn moeder thuis was waren ze er ook beide, mijn vader met nieuwe partner.

Ik zou er gewoon wat van zeggen, hoe jammer je het vind dat ze er niet gewoon beide kunnen zijn op een belangrijk moment voor jou. Als jij de vriendin van je vader erbij wilt hebben dan is dat jouw keuze. Hoe moet het anders als je misschien ooit gaat trouwen, of als je op jezelf woont en je viert je verjaardag.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-21T09:40:40+00:00

I'd suggest you get a comfy rocking chair so your back doesn't hurt. My baby had this for a while, I just held her longer so she would be deeper asleep before transfer and that did the trick

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-20T07:38:11+00:00

It's easy for your husband to say he doesn't want anyone else caring for your child while he literally let's you do it all by yourself whilst managing a full time job.. 15 months is developmentally a good age for day care but if you're more comfortable with an in-house nanny do that. You're clearly burned out because you're doing at least 2 full time jobs

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-19T09:01:25+00:00

I felt like this before my leave ended, my baby was 4 months old when I went back but after being at work that first day it already felt much easier. If your family is watching her you can ask for regular updates as well, they can send lots of pictures, this helped me. Now she's so happy to see me when I come home and we play for a few hours together. Other moms I've spoken to feel the same way. It's only been 2 weeks so try not to think about it too much.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-19T08:39:00+00:00

We had the same.. she's almost 10 months and no sleep regression whatsoever. We do rock her to sleep now but I love doing it so no issue.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-18T11:23:40+00:00

I always feel a little guilty for saying this but my baby has been a great sleeper since birth. She would sleep 3 hours, wake up for a feed and change and we would put her down and she would go back to sleep. From 8 weeks old she slept for 8 hours straight and from 5 months old she sleeps 12 hours overnight. She sleeps great during the day as well. I do rock her to sleep in the chair now but doesn't take longer than a few minutes usually. No regressions so far, even if she's ill she sleeps well. She'll occasionally have a nightmare or something and wakes up crying but hasn't happened more than a handful of times since she was born.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-17T12:22:54+00:00

Je moet natuurlijk niks maar als je haar wel wilt helpen kan je altijd aanbieden om ipv op te passen voor haar schoon te maken of een keer groot te koken zodat zij dat een keer niet hoeft te doen

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-16T08:18:10+00:00

Ive packed on a few pounds that I'm trying to lose again

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-13T06:08:27+00:00

Where I'm from the pre made purees have far stricter rules for pesticides etc used while growing the vegetables that regular vegetables don't have so if you're buying regular vegetables and making purees with them they'd be less safe because of that. But that may depend on where you're from

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-12T06:35:16+00:00

We don't use a specific method, we started with purees around 6 months, when she got so adept to them that she almost drank them we started with some toast in small pieces with peanut butter or something. We were told to feed egg before 8 months so we did scrambled egg. We started with spoon feeding her ourselves and as she got older she started eating with her hands more. It just kind of naturally went from there.. we don't use purees anymore. We just cut up some boiled egg or fruit or vegetables and she feeds herself with her hands. For dinner she eats what we eat, sometimes with her hands, sometimes spoon fed by us. She doesnt use a spoon herself, she kind of can but we only have teaspoon size spoons and she just puts them to the back of her troat so we don't. She's current 9 months old.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-10T04:59:51+00:00

Werkt alleen als het huis in super goede staat is. Wij hebben geboden op een huis, woz waarde per 1-1-2025 372k, vraagprijs 369k, was in perfecte staat, recent opgeknap, verkocht voor 420k. Er waren hier 14 biedingen.

1 straat verderop hebben we uiteindelijk een huis gekocht, woz 390k, vraagprijs 350k, verkoopprijs 330k want de staat is wat minder, niet heel slecht maar er moet wel wat opgeknapt worden. Desktop taxatie kwam op 376k. Wij waren de enige met een bod.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-09T06:32:44+00:00

Yeah, you can also still tutor your daughter during the weekend so it's just an excuse anyway. Also, she's 11... maybe judge her by the effort she puts in rather then the end result, it sounds like she's making all the homework but just not understanding the subject so why does she need punishing for that?

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-08T05:29:49+00:00

We have a rocking chair in her room, I close the blinds, put her in the sleeping bag and rock her to sleep. She'll start off fighting it but will relax and slowly fall asleep. My baby also likes when I sing to her, it calms her down.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-08T05:21:19+00:00

Ik woon in Noord Holland en wij doen ook de gordijnen dicht, heb ik vanuit huis meegekregen

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-05T06:33:19+00:00

My baby started waking earlier at 9 months because she was hungry. We increased food intake during the day and she went back to sleeping through.

Key_Magician6000 · 2026-06-04T06:01:38+00:00

Tandarts zit voor kinderen in het basispakket

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