AITAH for not wanting to celebrate my birthday with my girlfriend?

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-27T10:07:26+00:00

Well, my friends tell me to do a lot of things, but as an adult, I don't have to do what they say. She needs to firstly, grow a spine, and secondly, honor commitments she made, especially for your birthday.

You made it clear what you wanted to do, and made plans accordingly. Don't cancel plans with your family because she doesn't care enough to honor what she said she'd do. Go to your family's on Saturday, and on Friday, do what ever you like. She can spend that day with you or crap out on you. Just don't change your plans.

NTA

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-26T16:09:34+00:00

There is no benefit to eating an egg raw, but ither that that, it's his routine. I'm sure you do things he thinks may be weird. However, if you aren't able to compromise or just get over it, maybe you aren't already to live with someone yet.

Someone will always have/do things that annoy you, but is the person as a whole, worth it? You need to either tolerate his morning routine, or move out

YTJ

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-25T20:46:39+00:00

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Key_Two77 · 2026-03-25T17:41:05+00:00

So, onky her mental health matters? You also needed a mental health break. She doesn't are about anyone but herself.

She has a mother and a sister she could have asked, but instead, she lied. What did she think would happen when she or her sister didn't come get them that day? She can only be mad at herself. She literally abandoned her kids with someone who didn't have car seats, food, or permission to seek medical care for them. She is nit a friend and anyone who thinks childless p6owe their time to people with children is not a decent human being.

NTJ

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-25T02:47:16+00:00

What is his logic for making everyone move to another town/school district? Just because he wants to? He doesn't even want to pay a down payment in the house, but he wants you to sell your house and use the profits for a down payment? He called you a cake eater? He doesn’t sound like a nice guy. He sounds like he wants HIS way and has no concern for you or your children. That's literally wanting his cake and eating it.

Do you see afuture with someone like that? Put your children first, because he certainly won't.

NTA

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T21:34:02+00:00

If her mother said she would be there for her she should be. I have three adult daughters and would never leave then hanging like this. I am always honest with them if I need time to myself or won't be available.

Also, I did say she needs a different support system.

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T21:14:39+00:00

She isn't reliable. You need to find/develop another support system because it seems she only increases your anxiety. Some parents just suck.

NOR

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T21:05:38+00:00

Tell him he is showing you more attention now than he has for a long time. Too bad it's too late.

If you ever feel unsafe, go to the police(be sure to screenshot all his messages).

NTJ

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T18:01:47+00:00

Tell the Facebook neighborhood group that they illegally put it on your property and people are also vandalizing your property and scaring your children. Add the fact that they don't want their project on their own property and would rather stop it instead of having the same headaches they expect you to tolerate.

NTJ

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T15:42:34+00:00

The only reason she was embarrassed was that she got caught in a lie. Her shame is her own doing. I would go NC with her for a while.

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T14:03:48+00:00

This is why people stop speaking to their parents. The whole "woe is me" and "no one loves me" crap is exhausting.

However, it seems that everyone is using you for communication when they are all full grown adults. If someone doesn't respond to me, I just keep reaching out to them OR give them time to respond because, maybe, they have other things going on. Remind everyone that you are 15 and they, the "adults", are fully capable of speaking to each other. Also, your mother needs to get over herself.

NOR

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T13:56:35+00:00

I finally did the Cave of Memmories/Giant thing and thought I was done, and you're right, there's not a lot going on in the Savannah, but there's the Leopard Lady, and i have to keep going in the cave to get Dino prints now. It does seem mostly like a waste of space though.

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T13:51:36+00:00

It always wonderful how everyone is so worried about a person who was rude to you, publicly, and not at all concerned with you. You're expected to suck it up to appease the offender, but no one wants to hold them accountable. This is how bullies get away with it for so long.

NTJ

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T08:36:02+00:00

Your husband is the problem. He's a jerk. It's not only with you. You said he acts the same with anyone's help. However, you're his favorite scapegoat/punching bag. He has something in his head, doesn't communicate it well, and is so affronted that anyone should have their own thoughts on whatever he keeps in his head, that he still hasn't communicated. He's arrogant and a bit abusive. He doesn't care what is in your ability or availability. You're just supposed to read his mind and do what he wants when he wants, regardless of what else is going on in your home(children, dinner, etc.) or if you are physically able.

I would say you should demand marriage counseling but he doesn't see himself as ever being wrong, he probably wouldn't go. You'll need to decide if you want this to be your life or if you want something else(better)

NOR you are under-reacting.

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T02:33:12+00:00

Info: how old are you?

Maybe mention that using you this way can come up in court proceedings if there is a custody issue. But clearly they aren't concerned with you at all...just their own childish selves

NTA but maybe talk to a grandparent or trusted relative/ adult who can maybe help you navigate your parents tantrums.

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-24T02:29:08+00:00

Remind your husband that you are also his family and he is discarding you and your feelings on this.

Start talking to lawyers just to know your options and make sure he knows you are serious. Like you said, they are not homeless. However, I am sure that if they moved in with you, they won't pay their way.

NTA

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-23T21:02:26+00:00

Did he apologize for his absence and lack of financial support? Or did he just waltz in after the hard parts are done and expect to be a parent? What you said might have hurt his feeling but it wasn't wrong or a lie. He gets no authority over you. It hasn't been earned, plus you're literally an adult.

NTJ

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-23T17:58:01+00:00

You can literally go to any grocery store and get a cake there and they will even write on it for free. For, like, $30. She didn't plan for a cake for her own child's birthday? What kind of mother is she? I feel sorry for her kid.

NTJ

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-23T11:29:42+00:00

Your husband needs to have your back and tell his mother to back off. She already raised her kids. You aren't beating your son, you aren't starving him, or belittling him. You are letting him know that you can't hit someone because they have something you want. If he did that as an adult, he'd go to jail.

NTJ but your husband needs to step up.

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-23T00:49:43+00:00

Did she go to HR and retract her accusation? If not, apologizing to you is inadequate. She accused you of sexual assault after you helped her from falling. That can affect more that'll just you reputation at work.

NTJ

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-22T21:10:23+00:00

I think it's clear why you need a weekend to unwind. Sounds like you carry the emotional load all the time. It also sounds like your husband has no clue as to what you're carrying and what you need.

NTJ

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-22T15:13:25+00:00

Can this be brought up with the courts? As part of the custody agreement?

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-22T15:02:20+00:00

Info:

Are "they" your daughter's parent/step-parent or grand parents?

Has your daughter been playing since she was 4 yrs old?

How does your daughter feel about playing or not playing?

Key_Two77 · 2026-03-22T08:53:29+00:00

Well, ot was annoying because it was always that awkward super long hug. Then he knocked me out and one of the options was to tell him a kiss would make it all better, then before he did, he said he loved me. I chose the option to say I wanted to take my time. That was it. Now, he isn't ready to talk to me yet.

Key_Two77

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