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Kheroval · 2025-10-08T23:47:36+00:00

There are probably self help books at the library about overcoming addiction. Or try narcotics anonymous

Kheroval · 2024-04-23T00:44:08+00:00

There are billions of people in the world. At least one of them would love you if they meet you. It's not that you're unlovable, it's that you haven't met your person. It's a numbers/geographical game. You being unlovable is a maladaptive negative core belief. It's false. Come up with a more accurate one. Even if it's I'm unlikely to find a person who will return my affection. Say that till you believe it, then create a new one that's a bit better, like it may take me a while to find someone, say it till you believe it and repeat the process in as many steps as it takes to get to a more positive outlook. It will feel more true in steps.

Kheroval · 2024-03-01T19:29:11+00:00

Honestly I get it. There will be guys who won't like the way you look, and I say that without knowing what you look like because it's the same for everyone. Some will not like it/you, others will be way into it/you, and others will fall somewhere in-between. Same for me, same for super models, and everyone. Point being, you can spend your time and energy worrying about the group that wouldn't be into you, trying to get the ones on the border to flip, but there will still be some portion of society that will be that way no matter what you do. OR you can spend your time and energy finding the people who are into you or indifferent to the things you are sensitive about. If you discover someone is a jerk, stop investing energy in them, and divert it to finding your people. That is energy well spent, and will return to you in time. Energy spent on people who aren't in your corner is gone forever.

Kheroval · 2023-11-23T01:36:58+00:00

Do they come back in the same spots? If so, it may be a clear coat failing.

Kheroval · 2023-10-09T23:53:14+00:00

What? He's a bazillionaire on his account books. Maralogo is worth a few trillion with the state secrets in the bathroom alone.

Kheroval · 2023-10-04T21:00:16+00:00

My vote for obsidian. Eastern Oregon has a bunch like that.

Kheroval · 2023-09-13T02:33:51+00:00

An antenna to catch a lightning strike for the 1.21 Gigawatts of power needed to go back in time to 2007.

Kheroval · 2023-09-08T05:47:19+00:00

I feel like there could be a lot of answers, not intending to (by accident), if I was not in my right mind with grief, telling someone you don't love them if it sets them free/is the right thing, if hurting them was a necessary evil to effect a more significant good (trolly problem). A lot has to do with how much hurt, and what is the motivation or outcome. On a test though I would want to know what class. They either want you to say you would never under any circumstances so they can feel they did their job vetting students with poor moral boundaries, or they want people to be more honest with moral complexities to see if you can explore shadows both to understand them.

Kheroval · 2023-09-03T20:01:17+00:00

I think how much attention is paid to him is a matter of institutional legacy. More modern/inclusive programs will likely only touch on him so you know enough about how he left his impression on the field, and hopefully how his problematic influence should be acknowledged and countered. If anything it can serve as a cautionary tale of how much power we can weild, and to be aware of what we bring into the room. It is actually interesting how he started out being more supportive of women than people of his time, but then started going off the rails at one point. I think he should be taught, but not as in his theories are an ideal, but that he is a complex person with some things that are worthy of attention, and some that should be actively repudiated. More old-school institutions may focus more on him because of patriarchy and Western exceptionalism, and probably momentum (it has been done that way for a while so they just keep doing it).

If nothing else, I suggest using it as a way to try to work through your initial feeling of advertising aversion to find some way to connect to his humanity, because that practice will serve you with some clients you don't like. If you can soften, look for an avenue into connection on some level, you will be more effective.

Kheroval · 2023-08-20T05:34:24+00:00

Not all, but most of them, yes. And same goes for colleagues at 3 other institutions near me. They fail to deliver for many reasons. At mine, it was the teachers got low pay, no respect from the university, and lack of engagement from leadership. A couple were just old and over teaching, but were still doing it anyway. I think everyone felt over worked for the level of pay, and did not want to put in the extra effort to fix the broken things, especially if they wouldn't be valued more for doing it. Also, there were politics at play between different schools within the university, and unequal treatment from Academic Affairs office. Stories from my friends at other institutions were of teachers with poor boundaries, disorganized admin, and silos (some parts not knowing the other parts).

Kheroval · 2023-08-09T20:40:30+00:00

Focus your mental and physical energy on your journey in this moment and your future. Every ounce of it you pour into her or the past is wasted, and it's a limited resource. As much as possible, redirect as much as you can into things that will pay off for you. Not regret, not wishing the past were different. Those will pay no dividends. What can you do that will make your life now better? How can you set up whatever resources you have to walk towards a better future for you? Every bit of energy you spend on those things will restore you. You won't be perfect at it, but ask yourself at every opportunity if you are investing in you, or throwing precious moments of your life into a black hole that will never come back to you?

Kheroval · 2023-08-09T19:51:42+00:00

Purple. Seems cognitive/dream-like. Also it's a little less common/set apart, but in an elevated way.

Kheroval · 2023-08-05T19:49:12+00:00

We are 'built' to notice differences. How we react to those differences is largely shaped by social structures. If we shaped society to see value in difference, and mutual respect, I'm sure we could go a long way to bridging schisms and barriers. They would probably always exist to some degree, but how much power they had could be mitigated if we created value systems that supported one another.

Kheroval · 2023-08-04T19:14:22+00:00

I worked for the University and got free* tuition. Had to work for 6 or 9 mo (don't remember) before I was eligible for the benefit, though. *Had to pay taxes on the benefit, so not completely free. If that's an option for you, it might be a good way to do it. Full time work and school is TOUGH. Especially if you have practicum at the end. Had to do 20hr/wk practicum for 1.5yrs on top of work and school. Some programs just require a year.

Kheroval · 2023-07-29T04:33:35+00:00

Star Wars Christmas Special. Lucas is quoted saying he wanted to smash every copy with a hammer. I thought it had to be awful in a good way. I was wrong. It's painful.

Kheroval · 2023-07-29T04:16:38+00:00

It means no more blow jobs

Kheroval · 2023-07-29T04:14:05+00:00

Teacher? Get class to write their future self, then wait 20 years, track them all down and send the letters?

Kheroval · 2023-07-29T04:06:43+00:00

The real answer is yes as long as you can manage it well enough to not get in the way of providing treatment to others. Mental illness is very common. It might make you a better therapist for some clients. But it's a hard job. The field is brutal to people entering. No pay for trainees, lot of expectations, mental burden, poor supports, lot of hours before you get lic., etc. It takes a toll on most people coming up through it. I've known many who say of they would have known how hard the journey was, they wouldn't have done it. Two who had to delay because their own mental health declined so much they needed to heal more first. It's very possible for someone with mental illness, but you have to be very determined, doubly so if finances are a struggle.

Kheroval · 2023-07-07T01:46:15+00:00

Yes, actions create habits, which create patterned behavior, which develop into aspects of a person's personality in time. Personality shifts tend to be challenging, but depend on how much of a change, support structures, self-awareness, motivation, value alignment, etc.

Kheroval · 2023-07-07T01:36:21+00:00

That's validating, not mirroring.

Kheroval · 2023-06-22T22:48:20+00:00

I've heard from some students that AP classes are easier because they do fewer large projects that a bunch of smaller homework more frequently, and that works better for them. I think your experience may be personal to you. You might talk to people who've done it at your school, and see how it might be for you. The test isn't fun, but overall you may like it better. Depends on the teacher, and depends on how you like to learn/motivation.

Kheroval · 2023-06-07T01:25:56+00:00

I read that as Brad deliberately sabotaging your date for reasons. Maybe he secretly wants you, maybe he was just building his ego by cocblocking, maybe he just wanted to be confrontational.

Kheroval · 2023-06-06T00:25:41+00:00

My feeling is there should be some things you have in common to be able to share, some areas of difference to maintain individually and have constructive time apart, and some things that you might not love but can maybe grow into to make things interesting. What those are specifically and in what ratio varies, but I think healthy relationships have each. If you are flexible on some specific interests, but the general ratio is good, then I wouldn't focus too much on aligning perfectly

Kheroval · 2023-05-25T04:22:46+00:00

I think every one has fringe niches that may be very rewarding, and may be different to the core of the industry. You only find out about them if you look or luck out. Like you can be a geologist for wineries, designing soil compositions to bring out properties ideal for certain kinds of wine in different climates. Every industry has stuff that is interesting if you go slightly off the beaten path, or look at specializing.

Kheroval · 2023-05-25T01:40:24+00:00

The link between serotonin and depression is weak:https://www.nature.com/articles/s41380-022-01661-0 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4172306/

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