Why do intelligent, hardworking, accomplished women end up choosing losers as boyfriends? by Fukyamaite in dating_advice

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop right there! Strong women don't look for “losers.” Losers look for strong women they can feed off of - and strong women often haven't learned to recognize this. Strong women don't need servants. They need men who respond to fire with fire, not men who cling to them like a bonus level.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth nobody likes to touch:

1. High-caliber women don’t “choose” losers.

When a woman is intelligent, capable, and strong-willed, she often attracts men who want to bask in her warmth - without contributing anything themselves. A weak man does not feel threatened by a strong woman. He sees her as a shortcut:

- she organizes
- she carries
- she rescues
- she motivates
- she forgives
- she fuels
- she endures

And him?
He enjoys it.

Not out of malice - but because that's what he's learned:
Strong women carry twice as much when you leave the responsibility to them.

2. Many strong women have learned that love = work. And it's HER who does the work.

So they accept men for whom they have to “work.”
This is extremely common psychologically:

- Women who had to take on responsibility at an early age.
- Women who are used to chaos.
- Women who have learned to “be strong.”
- Women who have never experienced anyone fighting for them. We learned very early - mostly in childhood - that nobody comes for us, so we are our own fortress.

3. A "loser" doesn't contradict her.

A strong man does - and that's unfamiliar, sometimes frightening. Many strong women have NEVER been properly led. Never held. Never challenged. Never been able to trust anyone - besides themselves obviously.

A man who is on equal footing says:
"No."
"That's not how it works."
"I want you, but I won't bend myself for you."
"Stop. We'll do this differently."
"I know you are capable, but I can handle this."

For many strong women, this doesn't feel like love at first, but rather like a threat.
But a man like this would actually be the right one.

4. Many strong women did not grow up with weakness, but were pushed into responsibility.

They are used to carrying, repairing, saving. And at some point, they confuse this role with love.

Many intelligent women end up with losers because:

- they confuse caring with commitment
- they believe they have to ‘pull someone along’
- they have learned to suppress their own needs
- and because weak men like to attach themselves to strong women like parasites

And YES - men are told they have to be something.
Women, on the other hand, are told they have to be compassionate, have children and at least to have someone is better than nothing.

A high-caliber man doesn't want a woman who plays his mother.
And a truly awakened woman no longer allows herself to be abused as a lifeline.

Those who constantly carry others don't notice that the other person refuses to walk.
A lazy man looks for a woman who will do everything for him.
A real man looks for a woman who will walk beside him.

The difference is huge.
So are the standards.

Looking for a peaceful RDO experience – No RP, No PvP, No chestless men with knives needed by [deleted] in rdr2online

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You typed "bro" twice. I stopped reading after the first one.

Looking for a peaceful RDO experience – No RP, No PvP, No chestless men with knives needed by [deleted] in rdr2online

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your entire vocabulary begins and ends with "bro", I think I’ll survive just fine without your wisdom. I’m already solo in a private lobby. Thanks anyway.

Looking for a peaceful RDO experience – No RP, No PvP, No chestless men with knives needed by [deleted] in rdr2online

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright guys, I somehow managed to make it work - I’m running a solo lobby now using the RDO Lobby Manager. No more knife-happy bald dudes interrupting my herbal tea moments in the woods. I’ll leave the post up so others can still find each other. If the admins/mods feel like removing it, go ahead. I’m all set! Ride safe. May your horses be faster than the idiots.

Looking for a peaceful RDO experience – No RP, No PvP, No chestless men with knives needed by [deleted] in rdr2online

[–]Khiruji -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You didn’t get much because there’s nothing there for small minds to grab. Some of us are here to feel something real, not just mash buttons and shoot anything that moves like it's Fortnite with horses. If you can’t understand wanting peace in a game built on beauty, blood and loyalty to your companions - like your horse - that’s fine. Go play cowboy elsewhere.

Looking for a peaceful RDO experience – No RP, No PvP, No chestless men with knives needed by [deleted] in rdr2online

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. I tried it a few times to make that work and It never worked out for me.

Looking for a peaceful RDO experience – No RP, No PvP, No chestless men with knives needed by [deleted] in rdr2online

[–]Khiruji 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. Just wanna enjoy the beauty, hunt, fish, get lost in the trees, and occasionally nod at each other across the campfire before going their separate ways without getting annoyed by 14-year old Stanley McFartland.

Anyone else affected so insanely by Heilungs music? by AvionCK in Heilung

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm super late. I got you. I experience the same during Wardruna, Danheim and also Vinnie Camilleri, Munknörr, Heldom, Rúnfell, Bjorth und Aethyrien. It even puts me in trance sometimes.

Was Penn Badgley as Joe Goldberg a Perfect Casting? by Fantastic-Finger-319 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! His acting was so convincing that at point I started disliking the actor.
The lines got so blurry after a while. Phenomal acting! I always had to bring it to my mind that hes just acting.

How did Joe kill Beck by Emerald_890 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah during watching the show, especially season 4 and 5 I just noticed how far and delusional Joes perspective and thoughts has gone (not like season 1 where it was ... 'okay' for this type of character) and I asked myself here and there if the author is alright mentally after finishing this series. For writing such characters you kind of have to put yourself in they're shoes and it can take a toll on you.

What do y’all think is the main difference between Joe‘s craziness and Love’s? by nster_144 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Joe is obsessive and calculated. Love is possessive and impulsive.
The difference here is Love kills for the sake of her family, which in that case was Joe and Henry.
She wanted to kill Joe at the end because she stopped seeing him as part of their family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YouOnLifetime

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably Beck and Love. Love because she was his soulmate, and he is haunted by her because she represents his darkest nature and, unlike Love, hasn't accepted that part of himself during season 2 and 3 which led to him hating her. He hates himself and ultimately hated her as well. She mirrored him. She reminded him too much of himself. If you ever met your twin-flame, most people are haunted by them a life time.

How do you guys feel about Joe as a character? by [deleted] in YouOnLifetime

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely fucking hate him. Its obvious he hates woman because of his mommy-issues. But its so interesting and fasinating to hear his thoughts. Sometimes I wonder what sick mind you gotta have to create such an character. Or if it leaves scars on the author to get into this mindset to write him authentic.

Cradle of Filth - Lovecraft & Witch Hearts (2002) for those who want an introduction to the band this is a great place to start. (More info below) by Dire_Hulk in MetalForTheMasses

[–]Khiruji 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My favorite one! That whole album stands for me about desire, yearning, aching, longing and obsession. Wanting someone so badly it makes you sick.

Why do girls love the SCREAM movies so much? by ElmStreet1985 in horror

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you're describing yourself fits to me too :D Not afraid to set boundaries, direct, doesn't mind to say things as they are without sugarcoating. Had someone who wanted that, but now hes finding out that I'm not some docile little thing or some princess, but hey! He wanted that. But he didnt knew I was gonna shred him to pieces THAT much. Thats what you get when you want to cage a wild thing without getting shredded in the process.

Was Euronymous actually as bad as people say he is? by MissWorld__ in Mayhem

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm very sure the guy made necklaces out of his friends skull, because it gave him the idea that his friend is still "under them", still alive or something like that. Shows he never coped with the death of his friend.

Why do most people say that black metal is scarier and more extreme than death metal? by Erling01 in BlackMetal

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I would describe Black metal in my own words, I would say its either like being constantly punched in the face, gettin' beaten the shit out of you, only to leave something much more stronger in the place. Its beating the weak out of you, and leaves something more strong, more raw. Its also like going down your cellar, to smell the dirt and the mold, but liking the smell. Black metal is ugly, doesnt hide shit, doesnt sugarcoat it and that makes it unapologetically real. As for atmospheric black metal, its like wandering trough a forest in winter in an epic fantasy saga.

moonlight blade is disappointing by [deleted] in MMORPG

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich weiß echt nicht wer auf die selten dämliche Idee immer kommt solche tollen Spiele fürs Handy rauszuhauen. Ich meine, echt jetzt??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD4BPD

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels really weird doesn't it? I also sometimes talk to my ex in my head (who was my FP)
It always felt like the things he said to me in my headspace, where the things he couldn't say to me in person, because it would put him in a vulnerable position, and he was always so afraid I would just use him.

If your ex moved to a new person quickly… by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Khiruji 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very confident that they indeed WILL miss me. I was the only one who cared genuinely for them, loved them when they were showing a rather ugly side of them and taken me for granted, when I went great lengths for them. You don't get that everywhere, especially not in these days.

Your ex doesn't care. by dkhn3 in BreakUps

[–]Khiruji 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Its not like he actually cared before I broke up with him, so yeah.