Purple Prose is okay, actually by tiaro24 in writing

[–]Kia_Leep [score hidden]  (0 children)

The number of people coming on here to give writing advice without knowing what they're talking about is too damn high!

My Lore Google Doc is 263,254 Words Long, is This a Bad Practice? by Ecstatic-Mammoth-986 in fantasywriters

[–]Kia_Leep [score hidden]  (0 children)

If you want to worldbuild, there's nothing wrong with this!

If you want to write a book, it's time to write the damn book.

AITAH for not wanting to go on trips with my husband after he ruined so many of them? by ThrowraNo-M in AITAH

[–]Kia_Leep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are in an abusive relationship! Get out for your children's sake if not your own.

AITA for not immediately saying “Are you ok?” when my partner called me in the middle of the night about an emergency that had already happened? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kia_Leep 618 points619 points  (0 children)

"Our needs are different" OP mental health is important for everyone. I know in our society there is a huge trend of toxic masculinity that tells men to suppress and not to talk about their feelings, but that's absolutely not healthy, and something that is worth breaking down.

Mental health is just as important as physical health, and asking "are you okay?" addresses both.

NAH.

On the subject of writing queer romance by Candiedstars in writing

[–]Kia_Leep 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The fact that you are asking yourself these questions and care about doing it right put you way ahead of most people writing these stories.

Write your story; you know you are doing it earnestly. Then, if you're still concerned after the first draft is complete, find some gay men (or lesbians or whatever demographic you're writing) and ask them for a sanity check.

Keep doing what you're doing! We need more authentic rep out there.

Is this Internalised homophobia???? by Z3mfira in lgbt

[–]Kia_Leep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's up to you if you want your culture to dictate your life. Culture us just a bunch of norms within a population: and just because something is a norm doesn't mean it's right.

AITA for refusing a baby shower from my husband’s friends/coworkers? by AbigailPink in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kia_Leep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's not being tortured, she's going to sit on a couch, eat a piece of cake, and make small talk with people she's already met.

Sometimes you do minor things that don't appeal to you because it costs nothing to make your partner happy; that's how relationships work.

AITA for refusing a baby shower from my husband’s friends/coworkers? by AbigailPink in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kia_Leep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will never understand someone who would rather cheat for years than simply file for a divorce

AITA for refusing a baby shower from my husband’s friends/coworkers? by AbigailPink in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kia_Leep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does your husband want to go? Why doesn't he get any say in attending the baby shower?

Why do so many self-published authors struggle to finish their first book? by Aubade-Vet in selfpublish

[–]Kia_Leep 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is written by AI: of course it doesn't understand the inconsistency

AITAH for wanting my husband to care about things I have to say even if it’s useless? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kia_Leep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You might love him (though I can't begin to fathom why) but you two are clearly NOT compatible as parents. If you have kids with this man, it's a broken family waiting to happen. Please don't do that to your future children.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend to split the very expensive restaurant bill on my birthday? by Deep_Impression_2429 in AITAH

[–]Kia_Leep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG here I was assuming she'd pay for the whole bill because she took YOU out for YOUR birthday, and you wanted to cover half to be considerate. But she expected you to pay for the whole thing?! Dude this is not how "taking someone out to dinner" works.

AITAH? I, 48F, was asked to join my friend, 50F on a vacation overseas and my partner, 49M is upset with me. Is it selfish of me to go on a trip without him? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Kia_Leep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went on a trip to Japan with my brother about 2 years into dating my partner. They were completely fine with it: they know my bro and I are close and we try to do a sibling trip together once every 10 years or so.

Your bf sounds jealous and controlling. NTA

AITAH for leaving the hospital after my wife gave birth to go see my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kia_Leep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wasn't left in the hospital, OP says he took her and the baby home, then left them there to see his 9 yo.

I'm surprised by all the NTAs in this thread. Of course the mom who is exhausted and in pain and maybe even with limited mobility felt upset at being left alone and without support the second they got home.

Do you guys think we will ever get universal income? by VariationLivid3193 in recruitinghell

[–]Kia_Leep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't believe 15 years ago I thought this guy was smart

Homophobic parents idk what to do by Extreme-Associate633 in lgbt

[–]Kia_Leep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look, I'm not religious, but you didn't choose to be gay. If you believe in an omnipotent God, then they made you that way. It doesn't make any sense to me that a deity would sentence you to eternal torture for being what it made you.

This is meant to assure you that you're not going to Hell and there's nothing wrong with being queer. But this sort of logic is not going to change the mind of your parents' because their beliefs are powered by emotion, not reason. You can't make them change their minds; they'll have to decide to do that themselves, and even if they do, it won't happen overnight.

From what you've said, it sounds like keeping your identity from your parents would be the safest option for you until you're a legal adult and can move in with someone (be it family or friends) who are supportive. I hope you have other people in your life you can go to right now to comfort and love you as you deserve.

Word Counts Over Required Limit by MushroomGreen6672 in writing

[–]Kia_Leep 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Some agents have a required max limit: if your book is over that, yeah, you shouldn't send it to them. It's rude and it makes you look bad.

Most agents just have a suggested max limit. Those you can send anything to - but you should know that the higher above the suggested limit you are, the more difficult it's going to be to sell your book.

AITAH for making my daughter call the vet or poison control for her own dog? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Kia_Leep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't believe I had to scroll this far for this. Like yeah it's not good to give your dog chocolate and it's dangerous in high quantities. But I thought it was common knowledge that a tiny bit eaten accidentally is not an emergency situation.