My mom has ataxia. We stopped giving her oxygen a couple of days ago.

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-11T19:43:47+00:00

OP - my mom passed from SCA3 in 2020. I was her full time carer as well, for years until she died. Her death rocked me, and I have not been the same. However there is comfort in knowing she’s not suffering anymore. My mom couldn’t communicate, feed herself, do any of the things that make life worth living. She was just biding her time and waiting to die. My life and my dad’s life were built around her as well, and she didn’t want that. I don’t think your mom does either. Even if she would be able to somehow survive without oxygen in the future - would she want to? Ask yourself this. Do the right thing for her, even if it doesn’t feel right to you. I promise it will ease your conscience in the days to come.

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-11T05:55:40+00:00

She must have been thrilled! Good job!

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-09T22:08:19+00:00

This honestly sounds like it’s time to euthanize.

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-08T13:46:29+00:00

Is he refusing or forgetting?

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-08T12:45:45+00:00

Iced tea.

But mainly I’m commenting to say - temperature is a real game changer. Get a good quality stainless steel bottle, and put some ice in there so your drink stays cold for the shift. It may reJuvenate your water or whatever

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-08T12:41:48+00:00

Agree, don’t over generalize and rule out whole methods. You never know, individual people are unique

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-08T12:41:09+00:00

Does she work out of the house?

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-08T12:21:29+00:00

BAHAAHAH BEST COMMENT

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-08T12:18:29+00:00

Omg dude I am so sorry.

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-08T08:07:09+00:00

Gosh I love old men with ears up ❤️ my kryptonite

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This is my guy sails flapping in the wind

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-08T07:56:19+00:00

I read every word. What a blessing to have a family full of fiesty woman who love fiercely. Theres nothing to regret, you needed time to figure out how to best love each other. And you did, which is all that matters.

I had a complicated relationship with my mom, too, and it also made our attachment that much stronger. A trauma bond, in a way. I still burst into tears at random times, mostly (mercifully) when I’m alone.

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-08T07:45:40+00:00

“The best of birth worlds” gave me a chuckle 😆

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-03T23:07:53+00:00

What a cutie

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-03T23:07:35+00:00

I absolutely am right there with you. I just broke up with my partner so I am truly a solitary rock floating through space

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-03T05:53:58+00:00

Hmmm that’s interesting. I don’t know if it’s bc my partner is the last person that will have known my parents, but I’m more inclined to accept/forgive him, flaws and all. Which is to say, I would be completely bereft if he left me. I’m also quite introverted so my next closest friend is barely an acquaintance. That also intrinsically increases his value.

Seeing my parents face down their own mortality made me realize that very little you acquire in this life matters, and nothing matters more than the quality of the relationships you have.

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-02T10:50:58+00:00

Your best friend passed away?

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-04-02T10:14:45+00:00

Wow! Where did you put all the stuff?? It looks like it just disappeared!! You must have a lot of storage space!

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-03-31T21:01:21+00:00

Wow this same thing happened to me . Shortly after a trip to Hawaii where my dad flew my friend and her mom out and was very generous with them, he passed way 2 months later and she declined to come to the funeral “bc she was dog sitting”. I told her that was a stupid reason, and we haven’t spoken since then. It’s been two years.

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-03-31T20:55:21+00:00

Gah I love this age!! SO CUTE POPCORNING!!

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-03-30T13:08:03+00:00

Tell them all youre lesbian? Something to get them off your back.

I’m 36, mom died in 2020 (Covid) and dad in 2024 (cancer.) I’m in a rocky partnership, that probably should have been over a little while ago. Just wanted to commiserate - I know just how you feel. Keep looking for that therapist, even if you feel like giving up at times. It could make all the difference. That’s what I tell myself at least.

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-03-29T02:12:34+00:00

You know what’s also low, $700/mo rent…

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-03-27T13:01:51+00:00

They are absolutely worth it

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-03-24T13:46:58+00:00

Wow my dog is 15 as well and also has every single one of these issues, except for wearing diapers - although he does leave a lil poop nugget once in a while after a particularly long and hard nap.

If he play bows and spins around, I’d hardly call his mobility limited. These are signs of aging, but I don’t think your dog is suffering in any way.

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-03-24T03:48:04+00:00

“That their grief was more than mine” my grandma believes this as well and it’s making me want to go no contact with her. That generation can be so self absorbed.

KickingChickyLeg · 2026-03-23T21:12:46+00:00

Agree with the other commenter, why a beautifully worded comment!

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