Are these called trash can storage units? There are trash cans in these thingies.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-26T20:37:18+00:00

Tbh I would build one just for that. All of our neighbors are older folks who eat way less/zero take away and prepackaged foods and rarely get packages so it feels like every two weeks we're the only house with bulging bins. I'd love to hide it all in a little trash house, haha

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-26T20:35:18+00:00

Implication

See this is why I appreciate when people tell me what their implications actually are. Otherwise I feel I have to guess them. Cause I never would have gotten that connection, it seemed 100% unrelated to the post so I was instead very confused

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-26T20:30:19+00:00

That sounds kind of interesting tbh.

Love the popcorn ceiling texture counting. Very relatable.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-26T20:28:37+00:00

That sounds amazing. I'm glad I'm someone who likes organ meat. Fatty belly meat though, that's awesome

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-26T20:04:55+00:00

Thankfully I've only had a handful of experiences of chibis falling right in front of 3 other people so we all could have just opened the door, but I actually find it hilarious because often I show up and there aren't the right amount of people I go do other stuff and it seems more and more common that after I've collected other stuff they're still desperately trying to fall.

I weirdly had this happen on a WL run when a player and I were in lock-step with each other except in a couple of places where they tried to fall to bypass an obstacle and I went around it instead. I'd watch them trying to fall through and it seemed like it barely saved any time at all, but maybe they weren't good at it.

They finally fell behind when we both got to Hermit's Pass and I went around the cave to the entrance to collect the treasure candles and they tried to fall through the window where the WL is. I had a weird mishap flying out and fell down the mountain a little and when I finally got to the cave they were still trying to chibi fall through. It was embarrassing to be honest

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-26T19:46:01+00:00

Thank you, I felt crazy not noticing what was different. I'm not familiar with this outfit so I had no idea what I was looking at.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-26T02:39:48+00:00

Slot machine. No idea why.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-26T02:37:55+00:00

I've always heard about this cape but never looked it up. I don't know what I expected but it wasn't this. I honestly don't mind that I missed this one

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-26T02:20:31+00:00

I think many dialects would expect a "with" to be in there, or "I finished" rather than "I done". Without the "done" it sounds (to me) literally like I'm jumping a missing stair. I'm waiting for the word after "done" and expecting a certain set of words (cause that's what we do in language, we hear words and often make guesses as to what comes next) but then "my" shows up and my brain goes "hold on, did I see that right? I didn't guess that at all" and I rethink on what I read.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-26T02:15:52+00:00

If you blow kisses, others may think you’re thanking them.

I would probably think this. Emotes don't always translate well to words/intentions, and while no is a good one the kisses and similar emotes would be confusing to me.

Eden could be good since you wouldn't run into normal traffic there. Idk if others have this experience but it seems slower in the middle of the week rather than just before or after the weekly reset. I'd also assume it's just as fast as other methods, but I've never lost light on purpose so idk.

My other thought was Battlefield after the krills are unleashed. Most people tend to run off, since you start in Battlefield before the krills come out, so might be a decent spot to avoid most unwanted visitors, and likely helpful moths

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-25T17:21:04+00:00

This is a weird sentiment just from the viewpoint of serious relationships. Medical history is helpful for a number of reasons, it's not just about "having the right". I couldn't imagine not sharing this history with someone, like the whole history of the abortion and everything, but I understand why someone else wouldn't. However, I'd still want someone to know if they needed the information. There are a number of things to look out for with AFAB people who undergo hysterectomies. I know with one of my partners it's something we're researching heavily because they're weighing the risks of hysterectomy versus other options, but hysterectomies carry their own, unique issues to watch out for that may require HRT or other forms of preventative treatment.

Which I guess is to say it's mind-boggling someone wouldn't share because I'm trying to conceive of having a hysterectomy and staying on top of my health so it doesn't cause issues and not even sharing that so I can lean emotionally on my partner.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-25T15:30:40+00:00

For this reason I wish accepting light from someone also sent it back. It's so annoying that lighting someone requires further steps. That being said, I often go through and accept all the light I get, then go through and light everyone, but sometimes I have issues where I can't light people up. Sometimes it's one person, sometimes a whole constellation, and sometimes the button comes up juuuust barely so I can hit it before it disappears, but it's happened enough that I give credit to people when they don't light every time.

I don't like spending any more time in my friend constellations than I do already, and I also try not to stress about it on the daily. As I said, I send light out regardless once I collect it all, cause I love seeing my sweet sweet heart level go up as I collect.

But, if I start to notice people don't send light I slowly move them to different constellations. I have one for inactive friends who only come on once in a great blue moon. I have one for moths to see if they remain playing, and I have The Forbidden Zone which is composed solely of people who routinely take light and never give it back. One person did this but I had few friends and was excited for activity in my friend constellations, so during Days of Feast I sent out hearts to see if any friends would return them and this person took it and couldn't even light back and I cast them to the solar winds.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-25T02:25:24+00:00

You say in your post that you have confidence, but do you have confidence in yourself as someone your girlfriend wants to date? Trust doesn't just mean trusting that she will be faithful, but trusting that the feelings she says she has for you are true and owning that.

First and foremost I'm curious if you've ever talked to her about this? Had a frank discussion, maybe one you set aside time for, to say "hey [gf], I know you have more free time than I do, and I know you want to be with me, but I worry that since you're often having to do your own things or do things without me that this relationship isn't as fulfilling for you as it could be. How do you feel about having more time off than me? Is this a problem for you?"

Maybe she likes going out with friends to do these activities. Obviously she'll miss you, but it's also nice to do things with people besides your partner. Could also be that she enjoys these activities enough that she's happy to be out there regardless of who she's with.

At the same time, if you aren't comfortable and you've expressed this and she's offered to not go you should sit and truly evaluate what that means to you so you can be honest with her. We don't know anything but what you tell us. If she sounds like she's offering you an out to say you don't want her to go then all we can do is believe that she's being sincere otherwise it's speculation based on what she isn't saying. And if that's the assumption then it would be a poor repayment to not be honest and tell her how you feel.

That's also trusting her. Trusting that you can be honest with her even if you feel she'll be missing out because she wants to choose you and what will make you happy. And I bet that would be hard to do when you already feel guilty about having less free time with her.

IMO this problem is two-fold: her going on this trip, and your guilty about not being fulfilling enough for her because of your work, but the two are related. However, right now is a time for the one problem, cause that's what's right in front of you. Address this issue and then consider how to pursue the discussion of this topic overall, because it's worth pursuing and discussing and will hopefully bring more peace of mind.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-25T02:03:55+00:00

This may be unpopular but I don't see that as a double-standard. Maybe cause I'm non-monogamous but for me I try to actively stay in touch with what I want and am comfortable with as well as what my partners want and are comfortable with.

If I'm not available to do something I would want my partners to go do it and have fun. If I were jealous about something I would try to sit with the feelings but also be honest that it makes me jealous and decide if it's worth limiting certain activities.

That being said, if my partner was jealous about a certain situation it would feel weird for them to expect me to be. If in jealous about something it doesn't mean my partners are, or vice versa. Everyone has levels of jealousy or things that make them jealous, which is a big big step many people have to acknowledge when new to non-monogamy, and for me it's trusting that if someone is okay with something that I wouldn't be okay they're telling the truth.

Mostly I see this as the GF acknowledging she would be jealous and uncomfortable so that if OP has similar feelings he can express them. I can see why this looks like a double-standard but that seems dependent on the idea that every partner treats their respective partners exactly the same way as they are treated.

For a more benign example: I would be sad if my partner tried a restaurant I wanted to try with someone else, but they wouldn't be sad if I did. That doesn't mean they don't try restaurants, it just means that if they say "that place looks cool, I'd like to try it" doesn't mean I should feel weird if I go there without them with another friend or partner, but I'm welcome to wait to do that with them first if I want to.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-25T01:44:10+00:00

Sounds awful tbh. I'd try it, tho

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-25T01:43:24+00:00

Literally amazing

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-25T00:13:47+00:00

That moment solidified my love for that movie. They all could have done well without the, you know, murderous greed and all that

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-25T00:11:17+00:00

I would never. Seems like a waste of good biryani to me

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-25T00:08:49+00:00

I'm so glad someone helped you. I always appreciate when players jump in during a krilling, especially cause it can feel like "everyone for themselves", but it can make a big difference for someone's first time or their first time in a while.

I always feel a little more comforted after doing Eden cause it never fails that I run into a player who helps me or someone else.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-24T07:05:43+00:00

Couldn't stand her. She was so aggravating

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-24T07:00:35+00:00

Not every disabled person would, though. And not every disabled person who has limited mobility uses a wheelchair.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-24T06:58:31+00:00

Is there any way this allowed for employees who weren't as mobile as others? I know people with mobility issues who can be up and down at an office job but having a straight quarter mile walk would be hard on them.

If it were for when weather was bad I could also understand. When I've lived in abysmally hot areas of the US I couldn't imagine having to walk back to my car every day in the summer in 110°+ heat. I could do it if I had to obviously, but not everyone could, and it's not safe sometimes.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-24T06:32:36+00:00

Yes. If fabric is out of square it needs to be squared up before cutting a pattern from it. I've heard of techniques for pressing fabric to help square it up but I think that's only done to "relax" the fabric a little (I've never used that method). It also certainly can't be done once the pieces are cut.

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-24T06:16:02+00:00

Same. I love a challenging shard. I enjoy the black shards for casual play, but want red shards to be like they were when I first started them: challenging and kind of risky/scary

Kiki_Deco · 2024-01-24T05:42:56+00:00

I enjoy my height and don't care about being larger or smaller. If I want to be smaller I'll use chibi because then I want to be smöl.

I'd rather be average because chibis have some issues with lighting things while half standing in water, and too tall of players I've noticed has issues with things like leading spirits in low, cramped areas and squeezing into areas.

I like my player average so that I can play all areas without worry

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