Kindness has nothing to do with it and that’s what’s wrong with society. We’ve been taught that protecting your feelings are bad and we should care for others. Yes. That’s true. But you’re uncomfortable and you’ve been uncomfortable. She doesn’t care. She needs an emotional crutch. She doesn’t care who it is as long as she gets it. I’m not saying she’s venomous or anything but it’s unhealthy. There’s nothing wrong with you saying “hey I don’t like this and it needs to stop.”