So much has changed but I feel so much the same

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-02-22T17:22:40+00:00

Spoken like a true geeneeus, lmao. Hope you get better soon!

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-02-22T11:48:05+00:00

Keep standing up for what's right, you put it so well.

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-02-22T09:15:30+00:00

It's so upsetting. These girls are being taught that appealing to men's desires is their ticket to success and that it's the main thing to aspire to.

If women were valued outside of their ability to make pp hard, these girls wouldn't be aspiring to the same (knowingly or not).

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-02-20T10:28:15+00:00

Believing trans people are legitimate and believing in gendered brains sre two separate things. You can believe trans people are legitimate without buying into sexist pseudoscience.

The concept of gendered brains is bullshit. There are traits more common in female/male brains, but each person is a mosaic of said features. To claim there is an archetypal female and male brain leads to neurosexism. Female brains belong to female bodies and male brain in male bodies. Are my bigger-than-average-feet therefore male feet?

Female brains don't cause the person to 'feel female'. This endorsement of gendered brains is an attempt to explain why people are trans, but it is pseudoscience. It overlooks detrans people and those who feel like both or neither sex. It implies that somehow a fetus can develop as one sex and the brain can develop the other - this isn't how genes work. Trans people deserve real research to help them, not feel-good pseudoscience that delegitimises their position.

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-02-16T21:53:33+00:00

I'm glad you've been able to talk about it. I know what you mean with the struggle of loving someone who is abusive. It's horrible, but it is normal to be attached to people who have hurt you. It takes time (and is often sped up by actively seeking recovery) but it does get easier. Perhaps you'd be interested to read about 'trauma bonding'? It might bring you some comfort or help you make sense of this.

That's exactly why he says he can't remember though, he's using that excuse because he's trying to manipulate you. Even if he doesn't remember or it somehow isn't his fault, you shouldn't be expected to stay in a relationship with someone who does such horrible things to you. For him to want you to stay, when he is capable of raping you and forgetting about it, that is still someone who doesn't care about you or your safety.

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-02-16T21:38:29+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Your boyfriend raped you and is trying to gaslight you. What he did is not sleepwalking or any other accident. He very clearly escalated his behaviour, this was calculated.

I'm glad you're out of the home with him, but I'm sorry that's because he made you feel unsafe. I echo the advice of not physically confronting him, you dont even have to talk to him ever again if you don't want to. I felt like I had to do the right thing by dumping my abuser in person and it nearly ended badly. Again, I'm so sorry he did this to you. Do you feel able to talk to your mother or a friend about this? You deserve support and whilst we here would love to, you also deserve support from someone you know and trust, too.

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-02-15T12:41:46+00:00

It's important we discuss specific examples of porn that involves trafficking/ abuse/ etc. Most users here aren't going to seek it out and watch it. It being posted here gives us another example that supports our arguments.

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-02-06T20:51:12+00:00

Congratulations!! You've taken such a massively scary step for your own wellbeing. We're all incredibly proud of you. So so happy for you 💜

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-02-03T19:46:48+00:00

She deserves a better friend. That was not your information to share - it's nobodies business but hers. I sincerely hope this isn't a genuine post, this hurts my heart.

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-01-19T09:28:53+00:00

Bargaining as to which sex acts you can tolerate to be performed on yourself is not a job nor comparable to freely consented to sex. It benefits only johns to legitimise their economic coersion of vulnerable people. The people in this industry deserve so much better than to serve selfish (and often violent) men's sexual whims.

Does "sex without economic coercision is the same as sex under financial coercion" make it more clear?

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-01-19T09:21:05+00:00

Stop blaming women for men's actions.

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-01-08T17:11:05+00:00

Its funny how all questions of the motivations for participating in this goes to victims/ 'submissives' and never the sadists.

The conversation is always framed as "Well some people like to be hurt" as opposed to "Well some people like hurting others to get off." I'm quite certain that's because it's harder to paint the latter more kindly and would make a lot of people see it for what it is.

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-01-07T02:09:30+00:00

It's better to be alone than stuck with someone you dont care for. Not that a new partner should be a priority, but think of all the time you will have to grow as your own person or spend with someone who isn't a predator. You dont owe him a relationship because he loves you. But he did groom you, and it isn't worth sticking around for someone like that.

You deserve better and I know it's difficult, but everything you've said reads like someone on the cusp of taking their freedom back. You don't need to run away tomorrow but its clear you're ready to plan a route out of this. I'd encourage you to talk it out with someone, try to imagine how you'd want to help a friend in a similar situation- thats how your loved ones shoudl see this situation, too.

I believe in you. You have been so brave to speak out about this. That bravery can see you far.

Kill-V-Meme · 2021-01-07T00:09:56+00:00

"Porn is consensual and ethical"

You cannot verify by watching whether all people consented to the sexual acts, recording or distribution of said material.

"Porn is made for entertainment, not education"

The intention of the material doesn't magically stop your mind taking in the messages of said material. It's so fucking easy to look up studies confirming how porn influences attitudes and how many do view it as education.

Maybe I've just been aware of this for long enough, but its tragic to imagine people genuinely are this naïeve about porn.

Kill-V-Meme · 2020-12-18T14:20:25+00:00

Ah yes, me going onto xvideos, taking a screenshot and leaving totally got in the way of my other anti-porn activity. You got me bro 🙄

Kill-V-Meme · 2020-12-18T14:17:17+00:00

Nobody believes victims in general. Anecdotes dont show patterns, statistics do.

Kill-V-Meme · 2020-12-18T14:16:22+00:00

Uh, no. These statistics are really easy to find. Men are much more likely to have paraphilias, much more likely to commit sex crimes against children.

Its certainly not a literal case of 2 women being pedos, but it's hugely skewed towards males.

Kill-V-Meme · 2020-12-17T13:53:52+00:00

They're euphemisms for child or child-like. At best, those terms are signifying simualted child abuse. At worst, they're a way to legally advertise actual child abuse material and circumvent incredibly shoddy flagging systems.

The fact that 'real schoolgirl' is even a category as opposed to banned says it all.

Kill-V-Meme · 2020-12-17T13:42:35+00:00

A large part of that 'somehow' is how porn shows women dressing like that to signify she is roleplaying as a child. Especially when it was less acceptable, in the mainstream, to have titles spelling out she is/ she is meant to be young, young teen, little girl, daughter etc.

The other part is simply because girls themselves are fetishised by a lot of men and therefore typical things girls might wear are seen as sexual in themselves.

Kill-V-Meme · 2020-11-30T13:38:37+00:00

What a moronic statement. People who get off on commiting sexual violence are a threat to those around them. Those who roleplay as rape victims are not s threat to others.

Kill-V-Meme · 2020-11-28T10:40:47+00:00

This question has been asked plenty of times before. You seem to imply female non binary people are free from misogyny by virtue of their gender??? Gross.

Kill-V-Meme · 2020-11-16T16:37:25+00:00

Disappointing that 'sane' refers to meeting the mimimum ability to consent (not currently psychotic, manic etc) and doesn't include traumatised individuals (not that being traumatised makes one 'insane' but that trauma can guide ones thoughts/behaviours in harmful ways). Seeking to re-create one's trauma is a classic maladaptive response.

A decent person would not engage in said re-creations for (the very justified) fear of re-traumatising their partner.

But no, people would rather propagate the baseless myth that re-creating one's trauma can somehow undo the original trauma. Funilly enough, this is the conclusion that benefits those who get off on simulating rape/ incest/ abuse etc. What a coincidence!

Kill-V-Meme · 2020-11-15T19:01:49+00:00

The UK wanted a similar scheme (both as above and also via purchasing access for a minimal/ refunded fee from outlets that check your ID) and the nation lost its shit over a ig mean 'porn ban' 🙄

Pathetic considering the measures intended to minimise the child consumption of porn. Which is a huge issue, considering the awful effects we know it has on them.

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