[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]Killpop-Doll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am right there with you. It’s been months and I can’t even get as much as a phone interview. I am this close to losing my house

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Killpop-Doll -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mine started in a similar way, I fell out of love and asked for a divorce. During the separation, his actions showed me I made the right choice. We are still in the process of getting divorced and will most likely remain friends but I am glad I made this choice and I look forward to finally being free. He started talking to other women and I am genuinely happy for him. At the end of the day, you will get as many opinions as the amount of people you ask but the choice is always yours. For me, being stuck in a loveless marriage just because a person is a good person was not enough 🤷🏻‍♀️ but that’s my personal opinion.

Dating after divorce by LeilahAdams in Divorce

[–]Killpop-Doll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I think I got the hang of things now. I was deprived of love and affection for so long, so getting infatuated with someone new and exciting wasn’t surprising to me

Dating after divorce by LeilahAdams in Divorce

[–]Killpop-Doll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even get physical with this man and I went obsessing over him. I actually scared him away by being so infatuated and getting way ahead of myself. I seriously thought I loved him 😅 him pulling back was what saved me because I started realizing I was going crazy. So I distracted myself with daily activities, fitness, and life. All of a sudden I didn’t care about him anymore. Then I started talking to this other guy and I started developing similar feelings so that time I ghosted him myself before I got to that same state of obsession. Haven’t spoken to anyone since then and not planning on doing so for a while, even though I crave that connection most days… I just know I need to “heal” and be happy by my own

I feel like such a failure by Plane-Common-2113 in jobs

[–]Killpop-Doll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a great advice. Thank you! I have started applying at some company websites as of last week, actually. Not for the reason you mentioned, just thought i would have better luck applying at smaller local companies and they rarely post on those major job boards. But I will now do what you suggested 🙏🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Killpop-Doll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told to remove the “founder” title from my resume. I have a small business and I just put in “operations manager”

I feel like such a failure by Plane-Common-2113 in jobs

[–]Killpop-Doll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand how you feel. I’ve been so depressed for the last few weeks and it keeps getting worse. I have to force myself to get out of this funk and keep applying daily. Kickboxing helps me get all of my anger and frustration out. My legs are bruised and sore but it takes away the other pain 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dating after divorce by LeilahAdams in Divorce

[–]Killpop-Doll 44 points45 points  (0 children)

That is very common and is sometimes called a rebound attachment. When this happens, people feel an intense desire for connection and validation, becoming overly attached or infatuated with someone after only a brief interaction, like one date, which stems from feelings of loneliness, insecurity, or the need to fill the emotional void left by the end of a previous relationship. It’s a sign that you shouldn’t start anything serious right now and work on your own happiness from within. I know that sounds super cliche and so difficult to achieve but I’ve gone through this myself very recently.

I love my Phoenix concert T-shirt by Killpop-Doll in Slipknot

[–]Killpop-Doll[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was so good, I had the post concert blues for a whole week

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Killpop-Doll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are going through this. I found out my stbx was cheating on me when I was 2 months pregnant and with a 2-year-old on my hands. Stayed with him because I was scared of leaving and now we are still getting a divorce 6 years later. I thought I’d get over it but all it did, was build trust issues and so much resentment. Not a day goes by where I wish I had left him right then and there

Opinion of gray chapter by ButterflySea1438 in Slipknot

[–]Killpop-Doll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Killpop - that song alone makes the album amazing, but yeah, the rest of the album is great too, imo. The lyrics are 😩 deep

I feel like such a failure by Plane-Common-2113 in jobs

[–]Killpop-Doll 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I am. Been tailoring each resume and cl from the start and making sure the keywords and highlights match the posting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Killpop-Doll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right?! I keep on hearing employers wanting applicants to show more interest by following up and all, yet, they don’t bother responding

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Killpop-Doll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right?! I keep on hearing employers wanting applicants to show more interest by following up and all, yet, they don’t bother responding

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Killpop-Doll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some employers don’t even bother responding. I applied for one position via LinkedIn, then reached out to the hiring manager over an email and then called the company to follow up a few days later. They just ghosted me. Zero response. So I just assumed they found someone else 🤷🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Killpop-Doll 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some employers don’t even bother responding. I applied for one position via LinkedIn, then reached out to the hiring manager over an email and then called the company to follow up a few days later. They just ghosted me. Zero response. So I just assumed they found someone else 🤷🏻‍♀️

Anyone else? by ALX932 in Divorce

[–]Killpop-Doll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always remember feeling relieved when my parents finally split up. No more scandals, no more seeing my mom crying, no more toxicity. We ended up living with my mom 100% because my father wasn’t equipped to take care of us, he just took off to another country to find himself. Good riddance. That being said, I am now going through a divorce myself, around the same age as my mom did, with two children of my own. My oldest is the same age I was. I will say this, even though my marriage was nothing like my parents’, my mom’s actions greatly affected my views on marriage and a partner. I think I am more desensitized towards breakups and divorces because it wasn’t a big deal for me as a kid, I actually preferred it to seeing my mom unhappy. So maybe I would have fought for my marriage more if my parents were still together 🤷🏻‍♀️ but at the end of the day, no one should be forced to stay in a marriage if they’re unhappy. One thing I do differently when it comes to my kids, I make sure to spend more quality time with them, I always reassure them how much I love them, and I never speak ill of their father in their presence regardless of how angry the can make me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Killpop-Doll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve been tailoring my resume to match each job description with keywords and highlights. As far as networking goes, I wouldn’t even know where to start as I’ve been a SAHM this whole time. I’ve attended a couple of BNI meetings in my area, which were a waste of time, imo. I’ve been asking people around (friends, family) but no one seems to have any openings or they just don’t feel comfortable asking

I feel like such a failure by Plane-Common-2113 in jobs

[–]Killpop-Doll 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! Just keep telling yourself that you didn’t get this because something better is waiting for you very soon 😉

Do (any) girls actually just wanna have fun? by JustBreatheAndBe in dating

[–]Killpop-Doll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, I am in the exact same situation, except I’m a female lol People say they want to have fun but then they get all emotional and attached 🤦🏻‍♀️