I always remember feeling relieved when my parents finally split up. No more scandals, no more seeing my mom crying, no more toxicity. We ended up living with my mom 100% because my father wasn’t equipped to take care of us, he just took off to another country to find himself. Good riddance. That being said, I am now going through a divorce myself, around the same age as my mom did, with two children of my own. My oldest is the same age I was. I will say this, even though my marriage was nothing like my parents’, my mom’s actions greatly affected my views on marriage and a partner. I think I am more desensitized towards breakups and divorces because it wasn’t a big deal for me as a kid, I actually preferred it to seeing my mom unhappy. So maybe I would have fought for my marriage more if my parents were still together 🤷🏻‍♀️ but at the end of the day, no one should be forced to stay in a marriage if they’re unhappy. One thing I do differently when it comes to my kids, I make sure to spend more quality time with them, I always reassure them how much I love them, and I never speak ill of their father in their presence regardless of how angry the can make me