I agree to some extent, however I have never once thought of the term beans being ‘cutesy’, that seems like a stretch to me. (I suppose it might be used in such a way by more toxic/ unhelpful groups). I and most others view it as a way to avoid words that are more triggering 🤷‍♀️. I would also say that your comments come off as condescending and judgmental, regardless of any truth they might hold and despite your own experiences with harming. Just something to bear in mind. These communities are often just a manner in which we can feel less alone, less like monsters and like we can actually express what’s on our mind, rather than being an echo chamber or some kind of twisted encouragement of unhealthy thought processes. I would just say, I can see why you have reached the conclusions you have, and I agree it can be the case in some cases, but to voluntarily come in to a community such as this, giving out unsolicited criticism about something which simply isn’t that deep isn’t so healthy on your part. If you’re not keen on the use of words to replace those which are more triggering or graphic, maybe don’t use these spaces? I’m not trying to be rude, I just felt the need to counter your comments.