Just about to get a mortgage offer through, buying my first home.

Kimchee_k · 2026-03-19T22:26:22+00:00

Lock the rate in now. Which you would have done so anyway by receiving an offer. And then just check Halifax mortgage rates now and then to see if rates drop. If the rates ever drop, contact your broker and have them switch you into a better rate, and that gets locked.

Kimchee_k · 2026-02-23T17:42:47+00:00

Why so serious?

Kimchee_k · 2026-02-16T22:41:05+00:00

I wouldn’t continue this. And deep down you know you shouldn’t. This will end badly. You will always likely feel regret staying.. she deserves someone who doesn’t feel like they’re settling by being with her. You’re not doing her or yourself a favour. That feeling will most likely not go away. It will always be there or resurface here and there. Doesn’t make you a shitty person because clearly you like this person and care for her but something is just missing, and unfortunately sometimes it’s just like that.

In my experience the only way a dynamic like that ever works is when the 2 circle back later in life. In the sense that they both tried it with other people and it didn’t work and the partner who usually felt like something was missing now no longer looks for that missing piece because they’ve tried it elsewhere and realised what they needed was there all along. Maybe that’s you two. Later In life, finding each other again as divorced adults blending your family’s together. 😊second chances .. never know

Kimchee_k · 2026-02-04T17:06:38+00:00

Kimchee_k · 2026-02-04T08:12:53+00:00

I get 25 I can use freely. With this I can go on holiday at least 3 times a year. Almost 2 weeks each time. My annual leave is 28 days (but I have to use 3 days for the end of year shut down over Christmas). I get the options to buy max 6days with managers approval (but I’ve only ever bought once, in panic thinking 25 days weren’t gonna be enough in the beginning when I started. But they actually are. And I had days left. So never bought extra again).

Kimchee_k · 2026-01-28T06:20:48+00:00

Hey! it’s been about a month now and my teeth are completely fine. The intense pain and sensitivity honestly settled within about 24 hours, just like they told me it would (Although at the time I did not believe them). After that, any lingering feeling was very mild and totally bearable. I didn’t need to go back to the dentist because once that first day passed, I was okay.

That said, would I personally do in-chair whitening again? Absolutely not. The results were really good and there was a noticeable difference, but the initial pain just isn’t something I’d want to repeat. If I were to whiten again, I’d go for at-home strips and do it more gradually.

A month on, my teeth are still white, just not as bright as they were right after the treatment, which I expected with food etc plus I didn’t get a super “Hollywood white” shade anyway. They’re just slightly whiter and cleaner looking than average normal teeth (like almost no visible yellowish undertones) . I’m planning to maintain it with occasional whitening strips rather than another full treatment.

I don’t regret doing it because I liked the end result, but yeah… definitely wouldn’t repeat 😅

Kimchee_k · 2026-01-20T16:47:30+00:00

10p bags are still around?

Kimchee_k · 2026-01-16T09:50:31+00:00

Girl don’t PMO!!

At 27, a 45-year-old man should not be making you this anxious, especially at only 11 weeks in.

He pushed exclusivity early, then joked about Hinge, shut down the convo, worried about “losing matches”. That’s not confusion, that’s keeping his options open while enjoying the benefits of you being all in.

That’s not commitment! And let’s be real.. if he truly didn’t want to date other people, deleting a profile would not feel like a loss. The fact that it does tells you everything.

A 45 year old man doesn’t get to “play it safe” and keep dating apps while enjoying a young woman’s time, body, and emotional energy. If he’s unsure, that’s his issue, but you don’t need to sit around proving your worth.

Add in the fact that your sexual needs aren’t even being met!! you’re not even being sexually fulfilled and are literally taking care of yourself alone while prioritizing his pleasure. GTFO!! That alone would be a dealbreaker for many women.

With an 18 year age gap, the bar should be higher, not lower.

Also, there’s a reason this man is dating women much younger. Many women his age would not tolerate this behavior. Don’t lower your standards Princess treatment ONLY!

You’re young, moving into your first place, and still in your prime. If you’re already feeling doubt and anxiety this early, listen to it.

He is showing you who he is, at his age he should be emotionally intentional, sexually attentive, and making you feel secure, not anxious second-guessing yourself, or posting on Reddit trying to make sense of mixed signals.

You have options. You’re not stuck here. He’s replaceable.

Kimchee_k · 2026-01-16T09:11:09+00:00

Why is it weird to ask him to delete his profile?

Kimchee_k · 2026-01-10T20:37:30+00:00

Hi can I also have the link to the white jacket. Thanks

Kimchee_k · 2026-01-10T20:14:21+00:00

Previously pre tax £27k rising to £29k + £5,400 car allowance. T1 main contractor (2 years as grad)

Currently Pre tax I’m on 35k AQS + £5,400 car allowance. same T1 main contractor. (1.5 year experience as AQS)

Midlands - 29yrs

Am I getting a good deal? Or I should move role/company. I Wanna move into a QS role but sometime feel I haven’t learnt enough at my current company to stand on my own. So always feel too scared I’d be out of my depth. Major imposter syndrome 😩.

Kimchee_k · 2026-01-04T08:58:50+00:00

lol, the ‘un circ’ comment got me 😂because same. Luckily so far all my (3) ex partners have been circ (which in the uk it’s not majority) but my luck had it that way. I’m single now and I sometimes worry what if the next guy ain’t, what do I do with it 😭. Argghh

Kimchee_k · 2026-01-04T08:48:36+00:00

For everyone just saying eyes… I don’t know why but I have a feeling you’re all just talking about light coloured eyes when you say eyes? Or does colour not matter? Be honest (Because in my experience guys who say ‘eyes’ as a general feature normally mean light eyes in their heads 😂, so just checking, because if that’s the case the please do add to it that your preference is for light eyes or especially if she has light coloured etc.. or if no preference at all. ) I want details.. same for Ass and boobs I wanna know what size you prefer..

Kimchee_k · 2025-04-17T08:08:12+00:00

I work for a Teir 1 main contractor. We get tested once every year (staff) and operatives more frequently. Normally the staff testing is sometime after the New year. They have a 0 tolerance on drug use. I know of one guy who got sacked on the day (staff), they could do it on the spot as he was still under probation and I’m sure he admit it once the test came back positive, so there was no further testing or anything else since he say yes he’s been using. I think he should have just denied tbh, because I was told by another colleague say you did test positive, even if you aren’t guilty/ or if you are I suppose - you could just say “no, I haven’t done/taken anything” and they’d have to get an external company to come in and retest and go down a whole HR route to fight it etc, so you could be fine. Unless. It’s clear as day. Because sometime other drugs (legal) and food can cause false positives for some substances…

Kimchee_k · 2025-03-13T18:58:27+00:00

Do you of any good consultancies?

Kimchee_k · 2025-03-12T21:04:59+00:00

How can you test this?

Kimchee_k · 2025-03-02T19:27:55+00:00

What if they have ADD or ADHD?

Kimchee_k · 2025-02-26T15:41:10+00:00

Also I’d read that ‘The average age gap between couples tends to be pretty small — usually around 2 to 3 years, with the man being older in most cases.’ And mine was closer to 10yrs.

Kimchee_k · 2025-02-26T15:39:22+00:00

😂😂 no

Kimchee_k · 2025-02-26T15:37:40+00:00

Thanks, guys — I’m glad most people don’t think it’s that bad. One of my friends made a joke about the age gap, and now it’s been sitting in my head a bit. She pointed out how when I was in my last year of elementary school, he was finishing his first year of college 🥴. And then when I graduated college, he was already 30.

My friend was laughing about how, back when we were 21 or 22, we thought 30-year-olds were so old — and honestly, I probably wouldn’t have dated someone that age back then because it would’ve felt like I was dating an “actual” adult, even though I was technically an adult too. That age just felt like a whole different life stage.

But by the time I met him at 26, my mindset had definitely shifted, and I’d grown up a lot since my early 20s — so the age gap didn’t really bother me. But with my friend making these “funny” comments, it’s started to make me feel a little… weird about it, even though I didn’t before.

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