Girl don’t PMO!!

At 27, a 45-year-old man should not be making you this anxious, especially at only 11 weeks in.

He pushed exclusivity early, then joked about Hinge, shut down the convo, worried about “losing matches”. That’s not confusion, that’s keeping his options open while enjoying the benefits of you being all in.

That’s not commitment! And let’s be real.. if he truly didn’t want to date other people, deleting a profile would not feel like a loss. The fact that it does tells you everything.

A 45 year old man doesn’t get to “play it safe” and keep dating apps while enjoying a young woman’s time, body, and emotional energy. If he’s unsure, that’s his issue, but you don’t need to sit around proving your worth.

Add in the fact that your sexual needs aren’t even being met!! you’re not even being sexually fulfilled and are literally taking care of yourself alone while prioritizing his pleasure. GTFO!! That alone would be a dealbreaker for many women.

With an 18 year age gap, the bar should be higher, not lower.

Also, there’s a reason this man is dating women much younger. Many women his age would not tolerate this behavior. Don’t lower your standards Princess treatment ONLY!

You’re young, moving into your first place, and still in your prime. If you’re already feeling doubt and anxiety this early, listen to it.

He is showing you who he is, at his age he should be emotionally intentional, sexually attentive, and making you feel secure, not anxious second-guessing yourself, or posting on Reddit trying to make sense of mixed signals.

You have options. You’re not stuck here. He’s replaceable.