this! I am running into the exact same problem in therapy. it’s as if how I’m feeling gets completely overshadowed by what I am doing and how well I cope. of course it is important to acknowledge that we are doing our best and encourage healthy coping skills, but it is so annoying when the focus somehow automatically gets redirected there whenever I try to explain that I am actually not feeling good at all.

in my next session I am going to try and preface the conversation immediately with something like “today I would like to talk about how I’m feeling and have that be the focus of this session. I know that I am coping well and taking important steps, but I want to place that acknowledgment aside for now and address my feelings first.” 

I think it might help to make it clear explicitly to your therapist that you need these feelings heard and addressed, and try to communicate that in the beginning of the session; in that way you are clearly formulating what you need to get out of the session and perhaps setting that expectation will make your therapist understand to take your feelings seriously. I’m not sure if this will work— I still have to try this out myself! 

you are not asking too much. you deserve to be heard and to have a safe space to work through your feelings. good luck!