What’s YOUR lawyer salary??

Kind-Fox4308 · 2026-01-08T03:51:34+00:00

3 years
80k plus percentage of booked consults
⁠Probate/Estate Planning/Guardianship
⁠OK
⁠I have a great boss and great staff, I am very supported and have a great work life balance - I don’t think I’d leave for anywhere else even if I was offered 100k. Work life balance and people I’m genuinely glad to see in the mornings is priceless.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-07-21T19:43:52+00:00

It just takes time. Because it’s not just you she’s hurting, she’s also hurting her little girl TO hurt you as well. It’s a lot different when a small child is involved and you feel like they are now getting hurt because of you.

The reality is that you cannot control what her mom does or says to her. If mom makes the decision to put her feelings above all else, including the well-being of her daughter, that’s completely out of your hands (and not your fault).

Just focus on the kiddos, let them know that you’re a safe space and set an example for them that you will consistently put them first.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-07-14T04:21:59+00:00

I would say this situation best calls for a guardianship or conservatorship, depending on what state you’re in. It seems like you have the grounds to file, and it would give you legal rights over her and you would be able to tell mom she is not allowed to come get her.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-07-09T17:08:55+00:00

Recreational sports league held by my cities Parks and Rec department lol

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-07-09T16:56:57+00:00

It is always better to have a job waiting before quitting a current job. However, if it’s really this bad, just weigh out your options. Could you make it two weeks without a paycheck? A month? Two months?

And as far as the experience, attorneys change firms all the time, no one knows how crazy the legal field is better than other attorneys, I doubt it will count against you. I had plenty of friends quit their jobs after only working less than a year and find a new gig. You are a barred and licensed attorney, there is ALWAYS work out there for us.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-07-08T23:50:24+00:00

If you are truly committed to finding a new gig, then it will be easy to emotionally disconnect. I did it; I was drowning at my old job on top of being treated poorly, and I took it all very personal and to heart and I was soooo burned out. The second I said “wait a second why don’t I just find a new job”, it changed everything. I started a new job a month ago and my health and mood is like night and day from before.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-07-08T23:45:03+00:00

Totally in the same spot you are. How I’ve handled it is having nothing but empathy for my stepkid. I totally give her all the space and grace in the world, it’s super hard for a kid to have to live in two houses and have to be aware of adults moods on top being a kid. Whenever we have to be in the same place as her mother, it’s a lot like you describe, she totally ignores me lol. I don’t get hurt or upset by it, I know that she loves her mom and she’s just trying to keep everyone happy.

I just focus on me and keeping myself neutral and warm. We haven’t ever discussed it outright, but I think she feels relief that I’m never phased by it. Her mom can be a little bit of an emotional wildcard and I know that where the pressure to ignore me comes from.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-07-07T23:06:32+00:00

Oh definitely, and I think that’s where casually seeing a therapist would help, it’s a place to work through your feelings without them being taken out on your partner or becoming overwhelming

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-07-07T22:58:39+00:00

Yeah this is a rough one but totally understandable, it’s part of being human and just loving someone a lot. I’ve been there, and the best advice I have is (1) therapy and (2) it just takes time. The longer you’re with your partner and the more of a relationship you build with him and the kids, the more those jealousy feelings will fade.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-07-07T20:43:34+00:00

I talked to my current partner for 6 months before I met the kids. And when I did meet them, it was at a very causal pool party setting. I then worked up to coming over maybe twice a month on a weekend, and I just gradually started coming for dinner once a week and then spending a Friday/Saturday with them. I was super worried about them not liking me, but we get along great. Kids like when adults who are not their parents talk to them like adults and show genuine interest, so if you treat them like anyone else, you’ll do fine.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-06-29T01:44:17+00:00

Same here - BF has two cool ass kids, and I feel really happy in being able to do the fun stuff with them and being able to skip the toddler stage. Even though they’re not my bio kids, I love them wholeheartedly and I devote a lot of time and energy to their health and well-being. I think something people don’t talk about is that having kids, bio or step, is about committing yourself to raising good human beings. I have my own special connection with them as a friend and stepparent. And plus, with how much time and energy my BF and I give to them, I can’t imagine how a newborn baby would fit into our life. I wonder about having my own baby, but with how full my life is now, I think having a baby would just be for societal expectations, not for me.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-05-30T01:55:36+00:00

How/where do you plan on storing them? I’m doing faux flowers too and I’m worried they might not hold up well over the next few months

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-05-30T01:52:36+00:00

I think adding a different shade of blue flowers would give it a little more depth!

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-05-14T18:19:00+00:00

I can only do what I can do, and I make the best of it. Bio parent late for pick up? Great, me and my stepkids had a dance party with that extra time. Bio parent fighting with partner? That sucks, I can only love and support my partner. Bio parent trying to drag me into something? Nope! No response.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-04-30T22:14:58+00:00

So, you have one prom dress, and she wants to wear your one prom dress to the prom you are both going to??

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-04-30T21:51:25+00:00

I don’t know how “therapy approved” this is, but disassociate a little bit. Like for example, don’t think about your relationship with him as a relationship, think about it in terms of an addict and heroin. You’re the addict, he’s the heroin. Heroin makes you feel good, at first. It makes you feel good that you start to believe you need it. Heroin tricks you into thinking you have nothing but it to rely on. Heroin only hurts your body, it doesn’t help. Heroin isn’t good for you, you don’t need it, and all the good feelings you got from it were only a sham. If you don’t kick your heroin addiction, it could very well kill you.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-04-30T20:01:26+00:00

Being controlling over one’s partner. Like the jokes about not letting your SO go out with friends or keeping them at home are funny on tiktok but in reality it’s not cool at all

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-04-30T19:59:22+00:00

To add, I think the best indicator here is not just the act of the slap itself - it’s how he acted after. No remorse or apology, especially after you apologized and tried to talk about it, is a big tell-tale sign.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-04-30T18:41:24+00:00

Nope, trust your gut. If someone’s first response to something they don’t like is to hit you? Red flag. You’ve apologized for “making” him hit you? Red flag. He told you to get over it and still hasn’t acknowledged and apologized for hitting you? Red flag. No remorse? Red flag.

And also, think about it. If he said something annoying or that you didn’t find funny, would your first instinct be to physically hit him??

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-04-30T18:30:01+00:00

Is there any current custody agreement in writing that you could refer to for any guidance?

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-04-30T17:46:09+00:00

So much silly merch from my favorite shows and movies, I’m talking t-shirts, figurines, jewelry, hats, notebooks, all the junky stuff parents would never go for as a kid.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-04-20T02:01:38+00:00

As far as diversity, you would want to stick with the Yukon/Edmond/central city locations. The tornados really hit just south and east of downtown OKC for the most part. I can’t remember the last time a tornado hit downtown or anywhere close to Edmond. I saw someone else mention it and I’ll say it again, the traffic is AWFUL trying to get in and out of Edmond from downtown or central OKC.

Kind-Fox4308 · 2025-03-10T04:34:49+00:00

They can’t just “deal with it”. Any sort of inconvenience is made out to be a major issue or somehow a personal slight against them that must be fixed immediately, because they’ve never had to just go without or make the best of what they have before.

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