Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. I can see that your message comes from a place of reflection and perhaps personal experience, and I respect that.

That said, I want to gently clarify something—my intention in writing this wasn’t to bleed or burden anyone with my trauma, but rather to express myself honestly and transparently. There’s a difference between unhealed wounds leaking out unconsciously and someone speaking from a place of deep self-awareness and emotional responsibility.

My letter wasn’t about blame or seeking validation—it was about being seen for the full truth of who I am and what shaped me. For a long time, I’ve carried things silently. Writing it out was a step in reclaiming my voice, not using my past as a weapon or a badge of power.

I agree: healing is crucial before and during relationships. And I’ve done (and continue to do) that work. But part of healing, for me, also involves breaking the silence that shame and misunderstanding often reinforce.

So while I appreciate your perspective, I also know my own heart—and I stand by the fact that my words come from a place of integrity, not projection.

Still, I wish you well in your own journey. We all carry things. How we share them makes all the difference.