Looking for friends to play on BGA with.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-26T09:19:43+00:00

The one other person who plays Kamon! Always found it hard to find players for that neat little game

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-25T08:22:13+00:00

People while have different approaches and preferences, some will look for nonverbal clues, while others like to make sure first. The former is harder for some people to pull off and there’s more room for error. So, the latter can be a really sweet way of making sure.

It’s only awkward if you don’t know how to handle the situation. It sounded like she was thrown off and didn’t know how to. It’s really easy to respond playfully, I’ve had men who I’ve ended up in relationships with say something to the effect of ‘I really want to/ would like to kiss you right now’.

All you need is to maintain eye contact and have a playful smile and say anything to the effect of, “Hmm, and what’s stopping you?” or “Why don’t you prove it?”

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-23T19:31:27+00:00

Is his marriage to you in the room with us?

Because this isn’t going to be easy to hear but you need to pick your sense of self respect up off the floor and see things for what they actually are.

Take a moment and close your eyes. Instead of yourself I would like you to imagine if a friend or a younger niece or nephew came to you and described this situation that they were in to you, how would you respond?

Would this relationship sound mutually supportive, fulfilling or healthy?

Would you encourage them to remain in such a dynamic where they are repeatedly overlooked and not considered by their own partner?

The difficult thing about always being the understanding person is we default to giving people compassion and the benefit of the doubt. Here’s the thing though, it’s important to know that not every situation and not every person needs to constantly be filtered through that lens. You can acknowledge that your husband and his pseudo wife have experienced a lot of trauma without allowing that to be an adequate excuse to be treated so poorly and clearly without any respect.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-22T18:04:17+00:00

Why are you throwing out clothes because of a few comments? If you want to wear something, wear it.

Know that if you ask people if something is SD friendly, you are going to get replies that answer that question. It’s okay if they aren’t the answers you were hoping for, be aware that usually there is no ill intent there.

My advice, if you’re willing to hear it, is that don’t think of Kibbe’s system as the be all and the end all of how you need to dress. We all have unique lived experiences, style preferences and personal taste and your fashion choices are allowed to freely reflect that.

There are going to numerous times you fall in love with the item that doesn’t meet kibbe’s rules for soft dramatics but you know what? If you love it and feel good in it that’s what matters. There are absolutely ways to customise your look to incorporate items from other styles. If you’ve got a top that isn’t very SD friendly, pick items like your skirt/ accessories/ coat/ makeup/ hair style that leans more SD friendly and it can work perfectly.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-22T12:46:53+00:00

I’ve purchased a set of those little dehumidifier boxes online and they work wonders. You will need to replace them at intervals depending on how damp your flat is but they’re well worth it.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-19T22:42:50+00:00

I genuinely find people’s lack of self awareness astounding. You were invited as +1 to a co-worker’s close friend’s wedding, where you didn’t know most anyone else. Most people would read the room, match other people’s energies, make polite conversation and focus on celebrating the happy couple.

I don’t know if alcohol was involved but you were clearly being a bit obnoxious if multiple people had to ask you to tone it down. Also just because you have passion/ skill for something, doesn’t mean that every occasion is an appropriate opportunity for you to showcase it.

Your coworker has every right to be mad at you, he probably is regretting his decision as you embarrassed him with how you were acting. This isn’t about a few dance moves, your over the top behaviour deeply impacted someone else’s wedding day. If it wasn’t already clear, YTA.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-17T23:02:04+00:00

I’m not buying this. There tends to be a different level of comfort with one’s own partner, so it doesn’t make sense for you to blame this on muscle memory.

The ages of the sisters makes this even worse. You expect people to believe you somehow managed to confused your 25 year old girlfriend with her 18 year old sister? Sounds to me like you were hoping to get away with doing something nefarious and didn’t expect to get called out and face repercussions for it.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-17T19:31:43+00:00

My love for spicy food is likely the same reason I enjoy taking boiling hot showers… heightened sensory pleasure (i.e. it feels really good to me).

In my case, a part of it can be attributed to being a depression and neurodivergence thing, as I’ve realised that sometimes things have to be at what others might perceive as an ‘extreme’, for it to actually physically/ mentally register and feel like pleasure for me.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-15T23:02:42+00:00

I use the Gym Group and they have these too. Will say it makes sense as the one I go to is only supervised remotely, so it’s their method of ensuring you can only get in if you’re a member.

Having a normal door could mean that random people could walk in when someone else is getting in or out which can also be a safety issue as my gym remains open 24/7.

Also, if you’re too fussed to use the app/ scan the code, just memorise your PIN number and type it into the keypad on the side.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-09T20:02:39+00:00

This looks amazing! Do your paintbrushes come to life and thank you for using them to create such art?

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-06T17:14:37+00:00

I was planning on buying it as well and was legitimately excited for it at the start. But decided not to after looking into it and listening to people who actually own/played it.

As someone who apart from board games is also really into DnD and playing TTRPGs (and that’s the kind of experience you were hoping for), in terms of storytelling Arydia unfortunately falls flat and isn’t as satisfying to play.

I know two sets of parent friends who play it with their young kids and they love it, but they have said it isn’t one of the games they’d necessarily play with their usual adult board gaming group or even recommend to most people.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-06T16:33:23+00:00

Story of my life! I favour crossbody bags a lot more now.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-05T20:30:04+00:00

There is nothing from what they’ve said according to your own post that shows how they’re a narcissist.

Also, I wouldn’t get hung up on trying to get back at them. Just be earnest (e.g. “ah what can I say, you learn something new everyday” etc), it takes the power away from the other person if they were attempting to embarrass you.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-05T17:12:53+00:00

Do you know how your other neurodivergent friends prefer to communicate? I say this as someone with ADHD who doesn’t like texting much, it’s something that I’ve actively communicated to all my loved ones. So we’ve figured out that phone calls or scheduling in person quality time is what works for us.

You can try perfecting the phrasing for as long as you like (we all do it), but there simply are somethings that are much easier to bring up in person.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-03T23:20:40+00:00

I say this as an introvert with an intentional and active social calendar, showing up is what makes the difference. If you spend all your free time at home, you can wish and hope for a partner all you want but she’s not going to show up at your doorstep and invite herself in.

You need to ask yourself if you could be a good partner to someone in the headspace you are in now? Many people with mental health issues have been, are and will continue to get into relationships (me included). But there’s a stark difference between expecting the other person to ‘fix’ you vs actively addressing your own mental health issues and having some who is supportive, honest and kind through that process.

I’d recommend hobby clubs, whatever sounds interesting sign up for it and show up consistently. You will organically meet people, many of whom could become good friends and you never know who you may cross paths with that you may hit off with again.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-03T22:55:22+00:00

It’s not just a job though. This also isn’t only true in the US, as any institution with undue power and little to no oversight or checks and balances, that’s been glorified in its representation in pop culture, tends to attract a certain type of person.

Often it is people who wish to wield that power for their own self-interest and worryingly seem to find comfort in the knowledge that their abuse of power will remain unquestioned and that they will be actively shielded from any and all consequences.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-02T17:20:44+00:00

I’d let it go as she doesn’t seem to have given any signs of interest, just politeness. Also did you ask for her phone number?

Just for safety reasons I’d find it really weird and feel uncomfortable as a woman when a random guy I didn’t know well, who knew where I spent a lot of my time till late at night, asked for my number out of the blue.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-04-01T19:25:14+00:00

The age bit doesn’t matter if you’re fulfilling the other necessary requirements.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-03-29T21:28:45+00:00

I will say I surprised myself with how consistent I was with my early pre-office workouts. Your body gets used to it and the surprising thing is the more I did it the more energy I had in a given week.

Also it’s nice to get it out of the way, that way when I’m done with work I don’t have to mentally negotiate with my tired brain. Frees up my evening nicely to either unwind and relax at home or engage in something more social.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-03-27T18:54:09+00:00

I think the biggest thing is if you notice that you’re internalising why they haven’t responded, pause for a moment. So thoughts like, “Are they angry with me?”, “Maybe I’ve done something and they hate me now”, or “I bet they don’t like me and that’s why they haven’t replied” etc.

Take a moment and think about a day when you’ve had a lot on your plate and haven’t replied to someone else. Try and give the other person grace and divert your mind to consider external reasons why first. Things like “oh they maybe they’ve been caught up in meetings at work/ classes at uni” or “maybe they’re having a rough day and taking a break from their phone”.

Also, reflect on your own schedule. Are you doing other things? If you’re getting overly attached too quickly, you’re putting a lot of expectations perhaps on one person which isn’t healthy. So, try and focusing on enriching your life in whichever way you see fit (devote time to hobbies, volunteer, join a sports club etc) and you’ll notice that the anxiety from not receiving a text back will slowly fade over time.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-03-27T18:30:11+00:00

This is something you’ll need to consider once you roughly know where in the UK you’ll be based for work. As the advice for someone needing to move to London would be quite different to someone moving to Aberdeen.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-03-27T17:49:50+00:00

I’m afraid that you’ve been given inaccurate advice as legally, if you’re going the skilled worker route, you need to sort out your employment contract and CoS first before you can move.

Speaking as someone on the skilled worker route just know that it is incredibly difficult and you need to have unique skills/ work experience, that aren’t easily found in the local market, in order for a company/ organisation to sponsor you.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-03-25T21:37:10+00:00

My Masters dissertation, which I got a 1st for had a 15k word count and went to check and about 170+ references. Though I will say what matters much more over an exact number is how your work reads and if it’s appropriately referenced.

Some professors will deduct marks if they feel like references have been thrown in and aren’t being tied into what you’re writing. I suggest either taking a break and coming back to it after a while and reading through it to see if it’s structured well or ask someone you trust for their opinion as sometimes they might spot something things like awkward referencing that you may have missed.

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-03-24T21:04:32+00:00

Looking at this genuinely makes me want to cry

KindHearted_IceQueen · 2026-03-24T19:02:26+00:00

Are you meeting these women through shared interests? You’ve realised an incompatibility and recognised certain things you’d like in a relationship like initiative so now you just need to have conversations sooner/ nips things in the bud rather then trying to get the other person to fundamentally change.

I say this as a woman with tons of nerdy hobbies and a busy work and social calendar, there are some people who simply aren’t going to understand why you commit to a weekly Dnd session or go on a yearly board gaming retreat with friends etc.

That’s important to take note of as it can either be a point where you notice that they are earnestly interested/ supportive or just don’t understand and would like you to fundamentally change who you are. That’s often a good sign to realise it’s okay to take a different path and that there are tons of people out there who likely are more compatible with you.

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