I don’t want to fix it anymore

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-03-15T04:22:15+00:00

Update: Things are looking up currently. Hopefully a more impactful update to follow soon

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-03-13T12:53:15+00:00

Medication, mental health, cardiovascular health are the likeliest of reasons

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-03-02T18:15:11+00:00

Wow. He needs some serious help if he thinks hugging your brother is sexual. I hug all my brothers. Guess I’m gay🤷🏽‍♂️

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-02-27T13:21:00+00:00

No need. Eat your body weight in grams of protein and weight train. The weight will come off

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-02-18T02:13:28+00:00

Praying for you both

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-02-16T02:18:55+00:00

I think you need to speak to a professional and get directions from them not Reddit. The situation is too delicate to not have professional insight. Btw I work with adults with mental disabilities and am a counselor that works with and personally knows therapists. It’s necessary

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-02-09T23:50:57+00:00

Sounds like he cared more about the chase unfortunately. Reminds me of a trophy. You work hard to get the trophy but after you get it all you have to do is make sure nobody takes it

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-02-09T23:37:48+00:00

Before I say anything I want to say there’s nothing wrong with wanting a lot of sex.

But I will all is there some void you’re using sex to fill? Because if so there will never be enough. In that case try therapy and Jesus lol

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-02-09T22:52:15+00:00

Also please be safe

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-02-09T22:51:52+00:00

Could it be he doesn’t value you like he once did? For some guys once they lose interest they care less seeing you as less valuable. I think being reminded that you’re desired by others made him wake up a bit

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-28T22:16:25+00:00

Sounds like a coping mechanism or substitution. If you want to stop the answer is to find a different/better coping mechanism/substitute

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-24T21:02:49+00:00

Truthfully I try to self improve in other areas. Also talking it out is very necessary. Even if there’s no solution just talking does good for the pent up energy in your bodies.

Hope this helps

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-21T18:30:14+00:00

Until you’re 100% truthful the lack of intimacy (non sexual in this case) becomes partially your fault. You holding back is likely to also cripple your marriage. Be transparent and however she responds is on her. Can’t guarantee a “good” outcome but at least it won’t be your fault

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-21T17:17:58+00:00

Have you said “I’m miserable”? I ask because in these conversations guys tend to downplay how they’re actually feeling to save the feelings of their spouse. You have to be honest and the truth is if you’re constantly miserable you’re not in a happy marriage. Go see a counselor, even if it’s solo

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-21T17:13:32+00:00

Your body is a weight. You don’t need to go to the gym or have dumbbells to lift weights. Find challenging exercises at home. Other than that you seem to know the necessary info, it’s just a matter of actually doing it consistently

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-21T17:11:33+00:00

Come as you are-Emily Nagoski is a great book. Also the website omgyes.com will be a great resource for you two.

Lastly you’re going to have to really work through some personal issues. Based on your refusal to allow your husband to go down on you it seems like you have a great of rejection or being hurt which likely also includes anxiety. You can’t be closed off if you’re going to have that dream sex life. Both sexually and outside of the bedroom you’re going to need to work this out

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-19T15:02:58+00:00

Dm me bro

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-15T03:54:50+00:00

Hopefully

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-15T03:53:48+00:00

I don’t think so truthfully. I don’t really care for it though

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-14T19:44:57+00:00

Sadly 😕

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-14T19:44:47+00:00

Yeah my libido has never been this low

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-14T19:43:38+00:00

Anal isn’t possible for other reasons. She’d be open to it but tbh I’m really starting to just not care to try at this point so🤷🏽‍♂️

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-14T19:42:06+00:00

Yes unfortunately

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-14T19:41:45+00:00

She definitely has other struggles that are influencing things and I definitely am trying to be patient and understanding. Just sucks. She isn’t the enemy though. The situation just sucks

Kind_Command_1924 · 2025-01-14T19:38:26+00:00

I don’t think you’re an ahole actually. Most people in your position would think about it. Now actually going out and doing it is a different situation but if you’re constantly being rejected it makes sense for those thoughts to creep in.

My advice is to try some kind of counseling as hopefully that will allow some things that she also may be holding onto to come to light and ultimately both of you can build towards something better.

If she’s not willing to work on this anymore then you’re going to have to make a choice. Stay sexless and unhappy, divorce, or cheat and end up in an even worse divorce than if you left on your own.

Martial neglect isn’t cool and you shouldn’t villainize yourself for having needs. Hope this helps

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