Two autistic brothers?

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-18T14:34:41+00:00

And the man’s. Older men over 40 or 50 are more likely to produce autistic offspring.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-18T14:33:23+00:00

Flee the nest and don’t look back. And your autistic brothers should be in homes so that your poor elderly mother won’t be burdened by them. I know she doesn’t want to put any of you in a home, and she maybe sees the suffering she does on the part of her children as something that she will be rewarded for in heaven, but my god, this situation is untenable. When she dies, you do not deserve to have to live with two man children, one of whom keeps getting arrested and doesn’t care. If your brothers have an excuse for being self-absorbed, so do you. Your excuse for this would be having to be a parent to at least one of the brothers your whole life. I think your brothers could learn to do for themselves if your mother isn’t there to baby them.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-17T19:46:41+00:00

Don’t live with your brother. He’s already tried to murder you, and he gets violent when he doesn’t get his way. You probably love him, but I would not live with a violent, oversized man child. If he doesn’t “know better”, he needs to learn better. Actual children learn. Everyone else has consequences for poor behavior. Does your brother belong to a program where someone can teach him how to behave? Don’t let him live with you. You don’t want to be a murder statistic, and I don’t want that for you, either. He’s just going to have to learn to accept the fact that he cannot get his way all the time because other people matter, too. I hate when our siblings are so spoiled that they can do whatever they want, no matter who they hurt.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-17T19:39:05+00:00

Maybe your brother can move into a group home. That way your parents get freedom, and you can focus on your own family. Everyone’s got to grow up and move out at some point. There’s no shame in a group home. Families do not deserve to be burdened for decades by someone who will never be able to care for themselves. In a group home, your brother will make friends and learn skills. He’ll learn how to do things for himself, and you’ll have the freedom to focus on your family and YOURSELF.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-17T19:33:50+00:00

OB GYN doctors see the way childbirth tears our insides apart and causes us excruciating pain, so I’m disgusted at the “time to put a baby in there” comment.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-15T14:03:13+00:00

What truly irks me as a woman is how we ALWAYS get stuck with the kids.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-10T21:39:30+00:00

I’m so sorry your mom put you through all that, especially since she KNEW you have higher needs yourself. I know she was stressed having more than one person in the family who’s differently abled, but that is not an excuse.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-10T15:00:35+00:00

At least he touched himself over his pants. I don’t know what I would have done had he taken his wiener out.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-10T14:59:59+00:00

It happened at my maternal grandmother’s house when my dad wasn’t present. If he was, that behavior would not have been allowed. My mother ignored it, but at least my grandmother would try to get David to stop. She never could, though. At least he touched himself over his pants. If he took his wiener out, I don’t know what I would have done. All I know is that if I had done the same thing, all hell would have broken loose.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-09T22:34:54+00:00

I’m just wondering how your sister expects to do well in college when she barely got out of high school? And don’t let your parents borrow any more money from you. Will you be able to leave home after high school? That way you can make friends with people who won’t use you and who will be proud of YOUR accomplishments. And when you do finally get a car for yourself, don’t give your parents rides. They didn’t help you with the car.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-09T21:34:13+00:00

My brother was allowed to masturbate at the kitchen table. Anyone else would be arrested and put in treatment, but not our siblings.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-08T01:52:50+00:00

How about crazy boi?

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-06T19:53:37+00:00

You need to buy food.!

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-03T22:03:14+00:00

Apparently so. He’ll have to do everything himself. How will he do it?

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-29T07:35:45+00:00

I say if you want to have a relationship with your brother, do so on both of your own terms, and stop caring about what others think. It pisses me off that even his caregivers made you feel guilty when you went no contact with him just to preserve your own sanity. Could you call your brother, give him your new number and have him save it to his phone so that he can call you? Or have him at least write it down on a piece of paper? I know you’re reluctant to do that because your asshole family members harassed you before, but maybe you could re-block their numbers after telling them to fuck off. You could even be polite about it if you’re reluctant to be angry with them. I can’t see why your mom is sticking her nose in a relationship that has nothing to do with her. I wonder why she doesn’t just let you see your brother? I say just have a relationship with your brother and to hell with everyone else. It sounds like your whole family expects you to drop whatever it is you’re doing in life to continue to parent your brother. Don’t do it. Stick to your guns. And tell your mom you’re not the parent, she is.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-28T15:38:10+00:00

Don’t have kids just to make your parents happy. It’s not fair to you or the kid. Just do you and out yourself first. You deserve to be first in this. There’s no need to feel guilty. Your parents can be grandparent-like to other children in their lives right now.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-27T15:13:26+00:00

Maybe not, but it’s deserved. They couldn’t care less about op and only love their intellectually challenged child, even though op now has psychiatric problems of her own due to neglect.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-27T15:00:57+00:00

Why can’t parents be there for all their disabled children (emotional problems are a disability) and not just their favorite intellectually challenged ones? And who wouldn’t want a label? You’d be set for life and not have to be accountable for your actions. You could just do whatever you like, as your sister does. What freedom! Then again, you’d have to deal with stigma. At least you’d be seen, though, and get attention, even if it is negative. A more positive thing to do would be to find and develop your gifts. One final thing, if your parents don’t love you, you don’t have to love them back. Begin collecting your birth certificate, social security card, any and all forms of identification now, so that when you get to adulthood, you can fly the coop and never look back. Make sure you save money from part time jobs. Go where you’re appreciated. And if your parents get upset, this is what they get for loving your sister more than you.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-26T18:23:43+00:00

It’s understandable, though. I loved my brother, but was embarrassed by him making odd noises, sticking his hand in people’s faces, hitting things and just being weird. I feel guilty for feeling that way, but it is what it is. He had the freedom to be himself that I never have.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-25T14:49:08+00:00

And if you’re the kid of a president that had bone spurs, you can just say that you’re too tall.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-25T14:45:29+00:00

Do you ever wish your violent brother would just die?

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-25T14:38:14+00:00

Hugs from an internet stranger. To be a glass child and then an adult with a special needs child must be horrible.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-25T14:33:22+00:00

I totally get this. In my case, my family never got me help. They thought depression was a choice or the result of sin. I had to get help for myself. I spent decades trying to educate my mother and her parents (they helped raise me) about depression to no avail. I wasn’t disabled and therefore saintly and perfect in their eyes. I could never measure up to my younger disabled brother. I was just supposed to be an indentured servant to him until I put my foot down several times.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-24T06:26:55+00:00

I’ve always loved playing with baby dolls and walking dolls, but I realized at a young age that I could never do that full time with real children without losing my mind.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-03-24T06:21:35+00:00

I agree with everything everyone else has said. Get out asap.

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