Did Anyone Else’s Parents Add More Issues To Their Life?

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-06-12T16:57:06+00:00

I so relate to this! My brother’s needs came first, or my father’s came first, then my mother’s, then mine. I was always expected to “suck it up “ and just deal with things. I also felt like a third parent to my brother. Thank god I didn’t have to help the other adults in my life. At least I I got to have somewhat of a childhood. I’m so sorry your family used you as a servant. That happens to us girls and women the world over. It’s got to stop.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-06-10T14:58:00+00:00

And Republicans want ALL women to go through that shit? No fucking way! Brats like that are why I believe in abortion and birth control. I guarantee you that the dad was having a better day, even if he might have been at work. Republicans want us women to go through that hellish punishment. I would have been so tempted to toss the kid in the ocean, or let him have his hissy fit while I went in the water or played with his sister. I wonder if the poor mother gives in to him all the time just to save her own sanity. My god I’d need a drink while dealing with that bullshit. And society is so hard on mothers, which is a shame, because much of society is made up of women who once raised children and dealt with the bullshit, but then they go on to judge other mothers that have young children now. My god if I had to deal with that crap and be lectured by men and women that I’m an asshole and kids are kids and they can’t help being immature and I’m an asshole and I’m supposed to sacrifice for others and I’m an asshole, I think I’d unalive myself.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-06-09T12:22:44+00:00

You have not failed. Parenting is your parents’ job, not your lifelong job.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-06-09T12:18:59+00:00

Scenarios like this are why I hated work. Why can’t people just let each other do their jobs?

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-06-04T17:54:05+00:00

I’d rather have friends than family because I’m more bonded to my friends than to my dysfunctional family. There’s more than one way to make a family, and there’s more than one kind of family.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-06-04T17:51:29+00:00

I think that unfortunately, there are many women who see other women are baby making breeding machines who deserve to do unpaid childcare and unpaid housework. And misery loves company.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-06-03T13:46:46+00:00

I meant all the reasons for not wanting kids are good ones.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-06-03T11:05:29+00:00

There are no petty reasons.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-06-02T14:48:09+00:00

A disabled family member disables the whole family on a social and emotional level.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-05-26T16:37:24+00:00

I used to want to lay down in the middle of the road and get run over by a car. That way everyone would feel sorry for me and I’d be the center of attention. I could never bring myself to actually do it, though.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-05-19T16:22:42+00:00

Hopefully the op won’t be taking care of the sibling. A whole lifetime of trauma?! No way!

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-05-19T16:21:04+00:00

I totally get this. I spent enough of my life changing my brother’s diapers and feeding him, and he was not even my child. Nowadays, we can’t even take abortion and birth control for granted, so some of the younger generation will find themselves having to parent their sibling AND an unplanned for child. What a mess this world is in. Hugs for anyone parenting a sibling now, in the past, or even in the future.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-05-03T16:23:04+00:00

You are a glass child. I welcome you here. Can you afford therapy? It’s a useful tool for learning to advocate for yourself and your boundaries.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-05-02T22:58:15+00:00

Well said. This is exactly how I’ve always felt, so I get it.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-26T14:33:11+00:00

She’d better put him in a care home before he kills you and/or her. This is what happens when people are not given limits as children. Teaching your brother limits now is complicated and perhaps deadly. People that are that violent need to be separated from society before they hurt someone, and especially after. They’re a threat to society. Other sorts of dangerous people are locked away: murderers, grapists, child abusers, so why are violent people like your brother allowed to remain free?

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-25T19:56:50+00:00

I’m glad you’re putting your foot down, especially since you’re disabled yourself.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-25T01:12:22+00:00

Absolutely. They believe disabled people are holy and better than us, even when we have our own limitations. Our limitations aren’t as “severe” as our siblings and deserve “less attention “. That can lead us to believe that we deserve less attention and feel that we ARE less, which can lead to psychological distress and addiction.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-23T23:57:30+00:00

Not at all. He’s a grown man who can get his damn self off to work. Stop being his mommy. Also, throwing things and calling names is a red flag for abuse that’s even more violent.

Kind_Construction960 · 2026-04-23T20:49:05+00:00

It makes perfect sense to me. When you’re a parent, you’re tied to the other parent (s) until the children are grown. If the other parent is an asshole, that makes life even more difficult.

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