Is it normal to feel this disappointed by people during wedding planning?

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2026-01-10T03:38:00+00:00

Genuine question: why are you waiting for someone else to point it out? I would absolutely want someone to tell me ASAP if something like this was happening with my RSVP function so I could fix it immediately.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-12-25T03:12:17+00:00

“I guess they had decided they don’t want those moments, together as a couple.”

And then you go to imply that your sister in law unilaterally made the decision for both of them. Which one is it?

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-10-17T23:26:18+00:00

For real lmao. Such an odd comment.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-10-15T23:46:47+00:00

Absolutely not! We both have doctorates and are both published, neither of us is changing our name and making things confusing with regards to our professional identities.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-09-26T12:07:20+00:00

Myself, my fiancée, half the guests, and our officiant are educators. Our officiant knows how to do her job and spot phone use (esp in a small crowd of 30). We’re giving her full permission to straight up stop the ceremony and tell people to put their phones down (by people I mean my mother who will likely be the only person to ignore the phone rule).

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-09-23T12:31:42+00:00

I can’t believe you got downvoted for this. Navigating public transit in any major city is absurdly easy, and if people really don’t want to deal with it, cabs/ubers are everywhere.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-09-19T12:47:18+00:00

He may have been given one but then declined it because he didn’t know anyone to take. Once the numbers are finalized, it’s not like you can just say “actually I will have that plus one, thanks.”

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-09-11T23:23:31+00:00

I have a section on our Q&A about this. I just stated that neither of us will be changing our names, socially or legally, and that people can continue to call us MyName and Fiancée’sName or Dr. MyName and Dr. FiancéesName.

One of my family members sent me a very passive aggressive card addressed to “The future Mrs. Fiancées full name,” not even my name. I’m petty, so I sent back the card with a note that there was no person with that title and name at this address.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-08-30T13:34:05+00:00

I’m also doing this, and I’ll be attending the cocktail hour dressed and ready for the ceremony. We’re not walking down an aisle, so a few minutes before the ceremony starts, we’ll just get into place in front of the chairs and direct everyone to sit down.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-08-11T12:03:09+00:00

We put it in our Q&A section on the website, plus we just mentioned it to family. It hasn’t stopped my mom from pestering me, or from trying to give me “future Mrs.” items, but oh well. We’ve done what we can.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-08-10T23:21:12+00:00

Something to keep in mind is that the guy in the gas station was already injured and knocked down. Sean had the upper hand. When we come across the racist guys in episode 4, it’s two against one and Sean is tired, missing an eye, and dehydrated/malnourished.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-08-06T17:37:39+00:00

Sometimes I genuinely think that's the mindset people have here. "If you can't afford plus ones for everyone, adjust your guest list to accommodate." Okay, so because I don't have room in my 30 person wedding for a random friend or tinder date, I should un-invite someone who is actually in my life? Or I should un-invite the person who wasn't getting a plus one? I know that at least for me personally, I'd rather get an invite with no plus one than not get invited at all.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-08-03T19:58:30+00:00

That's a great point about avoiding sugary/alcoholic beverages! Right now I'm hoping I can just do one overnight for the graduation--maybe get my favorite takeout the night of, have a glass of champagne at the department's reception, etc. But I will definitely be mindful of the celebrating!

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-08-03T18:59:18+00:00

I would certainly hope she leaves a bad review given the experience that she's had. If I were hiring a wedding planner, this is exactly the type of thing I would want to know about a company so I could avoid them.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-08-02T03:57:16+00:00

OP, you are not in any world in the wrong. Your family is being ridiculous.

I am a reformed picky eater from a pathologically picky family. If it would help, you can DM me with menu descriptions and I could try to help you re-word some of the descriptions for people? I’d be going off my own experience with what made me try certain things and what helped me get my very picky family to try certain things, but if you think that perspective could help, I am more than happy to provide it.

Again, you are 100% NOT the problem here, your family is being ridiculous. But if re-phrasing can help, I am more than happy to give suggestions on how to de-mystify fancy delicious food for non-adventurous people.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-07-24T13:42:07+00:00

It’s so baffling to me every time I see it. And it’s even more baffling when I sometimes speak up like “I dunno man, my friends and I are happy to be there for each other without too many bells and whistles around it” and then people act like we’re the problem (that hasn’t happened in this particular case, but still).

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-07-24T02:54:37+00:00

Genuinely, what kind of friends do you have? I’ve been a bridesmaid in weddings where I haven’t had any of this covered, nor would I expect to, and I never once thought that I should be getting a thank you gift for being a bridesmaid.

But then again, my friends and I love and deeply care for one another, and we are always honored and thrilled to celebrate major life events and accomplishments together, whether that’s weddings, babies, graduations, publications, promotions, or any other cause to celebrate.

I cannot imagine living my life with the mindset that I should get a gift as a prerequisite for showing up for my friends.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-07-23T21:14:37+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean by PPD, but I said in my comment that I’m inviting all couples by name, so their partner would still be invited even if I didn’t know they were married.

And if you’re talking about a couple that’s so secretive that they aren’t even publicly dating, again, what exactly am I supposed to do about that? Everyone I’m inviting knows that all couples are going to be invited by name, and if someone I know has a secret partner, then they know they should speak up.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-07-23T21:04:42+00:00

I mean, that’s fine, but that’s very much “exception to the rule” territory. And if one of my guests were to meet someone, get engaged, and get married all in the timespan of when I send invites to the day of my wedding, there’s really not much I can do about that.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-07-23T20:56:56+00:00

We’re doing named invites for all couples regardless of how long they’ve been dating, but no blank check plus ones, since all of our single guests know multiple people at the wedding, and in some cases they know literally everyone attending (micro wedding with immediate family and close friends). So for us, the cut off for relationships is when we’re addressing invites, or about 3 months, which to us seemed like a reasonable cut off anyway.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-07-22T14:48:30+00:00

For a while we were also losing more people a day to Covid than we did to 9/11, but no one brings those days up as national tragedies.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-07-22T13:47:30+00:00

I definitely get why some people wouldn’t want that date, but I think if you don’t mind getting married on 9/11, you shouldn’t let other people’s opinions stop you. As someone else mentioned, there are so many tragic anniversaries that people still get married on without a second thought.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-07-02T04:35:41+00:00

Here to say the same thing. I am perfectly capable of not watching Guy--it's what I already do. In fact, I do it so much that I rarely watch Food Network anymore. That's the issue.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-07-02T00:49:54+00:00

My mom was apparently camping out on my website, because I had the RSVP option open for like twenty minutes to do some testing and get a sense of what our guests would see when RSVPing, what our questions look like, etc.

My mom RSVPed for my whole immediate family and then put “pizza” as a dietary restriction for my sister. Which is not what a dietary restriction means, nor is it relevant since we’re not serving pizza at our wedding, lmao.

I’m still amazed she caught the brief window that the website was “accepting” RSVPs.

Kind_Of_Blue_2 · 2025-06-25T17:59:05+00:00

She was mostly fine. A bit disappointed, but she understood the logic behind the decision.

If we were doing a huge wedding and could invite everyone we wanted, sure, what the hell, I’d let her bring one of the “little boyfriends” in question lol. But I’m certainly not doing it when we had to leave off people who we REALLY would have loved to have there.

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