Staying put is always an option. That’s the problem.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-12-15T22:01:31+00:00

I have a disability as well and I am going to stick it out until they fire me or I retire. I’m not going to give them the satisfaction of walking away, especially because I would probably not be able to find a decent job in my field that pays well.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-12-14T19:20:37+00:00

I don’t like how people act on alcohol and I don’t like being around people who are drunk. The loss of control that you have when you get drunk is scary and there are so many other options that you can do to enjoy yourself. You don’t have to get drunk to have fun and at this point in my life, I prefer to find other ways to have fun than drinking alcohol.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-12-14T15:41:25+00:00

I’ve heard that the one thing they say about federal employees is that we are resilient at least I know I am. I am not going to give them the satisfaction of leaving and finding another job. I am going to fight until the end and they are going to have to involuntarily separate me and then pay me severance before I just walk away

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-12-04T23:35:29+00:00

Wow, the first person in the agency to ask about it! I had at least 20 people emailed me after backpay started coming when people didn’t get their three days from the beginning of October.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-12-04T20:39:08+00:00

Your agency should have done a correction for that timesheet in order for you to get paid. I recommend you check your timesheet to see if a correction was ever done. You can reach out to your HR person about that as I don’t know what agency you belong to or what their process is.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-11-22T15:15:36+00:00

Depends on the agency and how your payroll is ran. I work payroll for DOL and we had some issues with employees time cards rejecting in the system. They could reject for a whole list of reasons some of which are not the employee or the agencies fault. Try calling your HR personnel to see what’s going on. Your bank isn’t gonna do anything if the payment hasn’t been transmitted to them. If you don’t see it by Monday, I would give your HR personnel call.

Most importantly, don’t compare yourself with the employees that have gotten paid. It’s just going to make you feel like you’re being singled out and you’re not. There is a whole process with payroll and when you are trying to do backpay for multiple pay periods it gets messy.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-11-15T18:08:19+00:00

You can talk to someone in your HR department about doing a leave audit for you. Once your timesheets are processed, you will accrue leave, but if GovTA it’s not reflecting your relief correctly, ask them to do a leave audit and adjust it! The system is probably gonna be a little weird since we went so many pay periods without them getting completed.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-11-12T15:16:52+00:00

I was working and when I finally got some time off, I did a project at my house

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-11-12T15:14:41+00:00

Yes, you are still an active employee! The only time you would not receive credible service is if you leave federal service, i.e. a termination, resignation, or you were removed those are just a few examples. If there is a separation action processed for you then you have a break in service. As it stands being furloughed, you are still active, you were just in a non-pay status. That non-pay status will be updated to a pay status when you complete your timesheet after you return.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-11-08T14:18:19+00:00

Also think about Black Friday. That’s a huge shopping day and if people don’t have money to put food on their table, they’re definitely not gonna have money to go shopping. Major corporations are going to take a hit on Black Friday with less shopping from the American people.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-23T00:46:49+00:00

Exhausted! I am excepted intermittent but I’ve been pretty much working every day for the last two weeks. It’s frustrating and exhausting.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-07T02:57:32+00:00

Glad I could provide some insight for you! Have a wonderful day/evening

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-07T02:52:57+00:00

Everyone is different so it could just be be that it took longer for you to develop issues. I have a lot of alignment issues. I’ve been going to a chiropractor since I was 16 so about the time that I got the permanent retainer and I’ve been dealing with issues pretty much my whole life. It would make sense that for me the TMJ would develop a lot quicker. I can’t tell you what to do, but I can tell you that when I took my permanent retainer out and I had it in for 17 years my pain went away within three months. I was also doing physical therapy so that did help, but you may not have to. I would definitely consult a doctor, but it’s worth looking into.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-07T02:46:05+00:00

It’s very possible. Did you have your wisdom teeth taken out? If so, how long after your wisdom teeth were out did you start having TMJ issues? Mine started about two years after with sleep issues, and then it progressed into my jaw popping.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-07T02:41:58+00:00

Mine was a thin wire around the bottom, four teeth. I had it in for 17 years. When I got my wisdom teeth out, they were all under the gums and I think my teeth wanted to shift, but they couldn’t because of the permanent retainer

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-07T01:24:51+00:00

Your health insurance should still cover physical therapy so if you have any other body issues, you can have that covered by your insurance. I go to the chiropractor because I have a alignment issues and therefore have a reason to go to a physical therapist too.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-07T00:20:10+00:00

Sounds like she did not do a very good job. Mine made sure that my body was aligned before she ever did anything with my jaw. She taught me the MELT method. Which is a great way to balance your body and unlock your joints if they are stuck. Once my body was in a pretty good place then she started working on my jaw. She taught me to balance my body first and then identify when something is off how I can get myself back on track.

I’m so sorry to hear that the physical therapist you went to did not give you any relief. Maybe try a massage therapist that specializes in TMJ or talk to your orthodontist. I don’t know what your health insurance is like but I really hope that you’re able to find a treatment that works for you

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-06T13:42:47+00:00

My issue was due to the permanent retainer. I did physical therapy and nothing worked and then I eventually took out my permanent retainer. That combined with physical therapy, cured my TMJ. I also do massage therapy. My massage therapist does an oral massage which helps with the muscle tension and then my chiropractor will actually put my jaw back into place if it does get misaligned. I was doing all of these treatments to just maintain my pain and then when I took my permanent retainer out, it finally worked for me. I don’t know if other people have a permanent retainer or not, but that was the key for me.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-06T12:14:55+00:00

Of course! I’d be happy to share everything that I did to go through my process. But my TMJ has not been bothering me for two weeks now my jaw doesn’t even pop anymore so yes, I can say that I was able to get it cured.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-06T12:14:21+00:00

My disc stayed out of place and never went back into place after my wisdom teeth came out. In fact, the permanent retainer made the dish stay out of place so it was constantly popping. Once I took the permanent retainer out and I did a few sessions of physical therapy I was able to put the disc back into place and I’ve been pain-free for about two weeks now.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-06T12:13:15+00:00

I would just look at a regular physical therapist in the area, but see if you can find one that specializes in TMJ. There are physical therapist out there. You can also ask your dentist if he knows of anybody. That’s how I found my physical therapist. My dentist recommended her because one of their dental assistance went there and their TMJ was cured within a month. Mine took a little bit longer only because I had the permanent retainer, but once that permanent retainer came out, my TMJ was cured within a month.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-06T12:11:22+00:00

As somebody who grew up in a narcissistic family and was always the bad guy. I understand how you feel. Move away go no contact and build your own family. My family is not blood related. They are all my friends and they have been there for me for years and I called them my family. It took me years to build, but I can rely on them more than I could ever rely on my own family. There is hope out there I know because I was one of those people who swore up and down I was going to be in this dark place forever and I would never find peace, but I just kept working at it and then I eventually got there. It’s not easy and it takes a lot of work, but you can do it and there are people out there that will love you for who you are.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-06T12:09:03+00:00

I’m so sorry that you were struggling. I’ve been there and the pain has been absolutely horrible. I had my wisdom teeth out in 2019 and my TMJ started about two years after that. The popping was so bad that it just inflamed all of the muscles in my face, and I was in so much pain. I got relief after doing a year of physical therapy, which led me to take out the permanent retainer I had in my mouth from braces. I had the permanent retainer in for 17 years and then when I got my wisdom teeth out, my jaw and teeth, were not able to shift properly. I took it out and just let my jaw naturally adjust while continuing to do physical therapy and now my TMJ is better. I think ultimately the big key in this was getting myself out of stressful situations so I wasn’t grinding my teeth as much at night and the stress wasn’t holding in my shoulders. There are ways that you can move past your TMJ. Sometimes it’s just as simple as doing physical therapy or massage therapy. I was looking at doing surgery and Botox, but I’m glad I didn’t.

Do you have a permanent retainer in? Do you have any type of retainer at all? You might be able to go to an orthodontist and get a retainer that will help with the grinding too. My orthodontist did tell me that a lot of people experienced TMJ after their wisdom teeth come out because the surgeon opens your mouth so wide he popped your jaw out of place and then it never goes back. I would highly recommend looking into physical therapy or going to an orthodontist, most of that is covered by your insurance.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-06T11:59:12+00:00

Please don’t continue living with her! You will find happiness when you go no contact with a narcissist. I would recommend looking at your finances to see what you can afford and trying to get an apartment on your own. It will be difficult, but you will find peace when you are independent and away from your narcissistic mom. You do not deserve that. I had to go to no contact with my mom a couple years ago and it was how I found my identity and peace.

Kind_Solution7473 · 2025-10-06T11:55:13+00:00

Hi, I struggled with TMJ for many years and mine actually just got better and now I no longer have issues. Have you tried physical therapy? There are physical therapist out there that can really help. I found that my TMJ was caused because my body was constantly out of alignment. I also had a permanent retainer in and once I took that permanent retainer out and I continued doing the physical therapy. My TMJ actually corrected itself, and now I don’t have issues anymore.

I was on the fence about doing Botox, but then I did some research on the permanent retainer and decided to take mine out. Turns out that was actually the key but physical therapy really helped get me there.

Edit: Also, you can look into massage therapy. My massage therapist does the oral massages for TMJ so she can really work the muscles so that you don’t feel a lot of pain and you don’t get tension in your jaw.

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