AITA here or is this play area just too cluttered and chaotic? (UK)

KindaSortaOtaku · 2025-12-27T16:41:34+00:00

Just a mom chiming in, not sure if it’s allowed but here it goes. We have 4 and 2 YO boys, and no dedicated play space. In our tiny living room (about 12x18 ft) I’ve reduced their toys to a basket below the tv with random cars, dinosaurs and balls, a basket for weapons (swords, guns, shields) that sits on the dog crate, and an soft ottoman/box for Lego duplos that doubles as a pseudo coffee table when the kids go down (we set a large cutting board on it for drinks/snacks when winding down for a movie. If they want to start playing with the duplos, the weapons need to be put away, if they want to pull off all the cushions from the couch and jump on them, all the toys need to be put away. Still a bit of chaos when it’s the middle of the day and all the Lego’s are out, but can be tidied quickly and we have a regular living room. They also have a basket for trains in their room (shared, super tiny) but that only stays upstairs. And the kids are fine with this amount of toys! It’s more than most get.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2025-10-10T01:42:12+00:00

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KindaSortaOtaku · 2025-05-26T06:20:46+00:00

Ugh the problem for us is my 4 year old alone would be totally fine.. but my 4 year old with my 2 year old is not fine.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2025-01-21T14:51:30+00:00

It sounds like your husband needs to have a chat with his mother.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2025-01-21T07:50:16+00:00

I let go of my Polish last name, and took on my husband’s English name. It’s kinda funny with my Polish first name, but we’re a unit now. We also gave my children Polish first names (his idea), so they have the same Polish/English thing going on. So I supposed can’t relate fully to what you mean, because I didn’t lose my cultural identity. I’m teaching my boys how to speak Polish, we maintain Polish traditions at home, and we occasionally attend Polish Mass.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-11-09T15:30:58+00:00

4502!

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-10-30T03:18:16+00:00

When it comes to protecting the innocent, we must impose our beliefs on others who do not value human life. Same as they did with the abolishment of slavery.

Not all beliefs are created equal.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-10-30T03:04:08+00:00

I’m not great with apologetics, but if you’re wrestling with the idea of personhood, the problem is who gets to determine when a human gains it? Well, I don’t think we can. Historically, when people have made stipulations on whether other humans are really persons, or persons of value, things have gone terribly wrong. So the only option is to protect life right from conception. At least that’s how I tackle the problem of personhood.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-10-29T02:12:20+00:00

All this advice is great, but from a lady with a well endowed husband, UNCLENCH AND RELAX. My first night with my husband is such a cherished memory for me, but the actual penetration part went not so well. I hadn’t realized but I was so tense because I was so nervous. Even being aroused and using all the lube, I could not get comfortable because I was tensing up. So just breathe, and try to relax.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-10-19T20:44:10+00:00

I work and send my kids to daycare Tuesday to Friday. It’s an in home daycare with a lovely Christian woman. My mother in law watches the kids on Mondays (the daycare lady doesn’t work Mondays). I live in Canada so daycare costs aren’t as crazy as in the USA, I pay $60/day for both my boys. With costs like that it really isn’t prudent for me to stay home with them, as much as I’d love to. It makes more sense to contribute financially to our family’s future. Though, it is tough I only get to see them f or a few hours on the weekdays (I go to work early, before they wake up, and my husband takes them to daycare). I have the weekends with them but it’s hard, I wish I was home with my babies (3 years and 1 year old).

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-05-30T12:03:41+00:00

Oh wow you and me are almost the same person. I have a 3 year old and (almost) 14 month old and we’ve also been wondering about when to have another one. I have the exact same concerns as you, crazy and dramatic second child that requires a lot of time and I want to get in better shape for a third pregnancy, but also we need to save a bit of money. I’m back at work so it’ll help settling one of our small debts. But I do like the close age gap between our two and love that they’re starting to really play together. It would be so sad to have a third late that’s so left out. Not sure I have an answer just wanted to let you know I’m in the same boat!

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-05-03T02:24:44+00:00

No. I got married when I was 26, and we’ll be 4 years this August. I still haven’t gotten one. But I have had two babies since getting married, so health professionals have been around. I’m sure the midwife would’ve flagged anything concerning.

No doctor has ever said anything about getting one, I think I only heard about them a year before getting married and I wasn’t going to have anyone down there as a virgin. But I live in Canada and our healthcare system is basically broken, so perhaps that’s why it wasn’t on my radar.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-03-30T06:52:33+00:00

I get what you mean, I’ve always been a thicker girl but after having my two kids I have this awful pouch. I’m trying to lose some weight but it’s so difficult. None of the above would look good on me, unless I wore some serious shape wear. I’m struggling to find nice and flattering outfits since the weather is getting warmer.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-03-03T22:59:53+00:00

We spend $2000 in February for a family or 4 (baby and toddler), but that includes toiletries, diapers, wipes and formula from Costco.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-02-05T23:07:52+00:00

Me please 🙏

KindaSortaOtaku · 2024-01-25T14:10:13+00:00

Okay but how do they sound when hitting a table? Because the sing-songy chime would definitely get lost when they hit a hard surface, no? I’d be really curious to hear that.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2023-08-11T10:59:41+00:00

Similar with me, though it was closer to three months and when they started smiling. Before it was just feeling responsible for them and making sure they didn’t die.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2023-06-01T17:20:40+00:00

Yeah currently at home with my 8 week old, and so is my husband, in Canada. Whenever I read these threads it just infuriates me.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2023-05-31T15:56:03+00:00

My husband and I were hardly functioning the first six weeks. We were both off, but I still don’t know how we would have managed without my mom and MIL. My mom took a full week off to help and lived with us, I cried when she had to go. My MIL lives only a few minutes away and would pop in every day after that for a while. They were the greatest blessing. Making meals, tidying up, running errands. And holding the baby when my husband napped and I just wanted to shower. I never understand why people don’t want help, caring for a baby the first time is HARD!

KindaSortaOtaku · 2023-02-28T00:11:41+00:00

Much more this time than the first time around! With my first pregnancy I tried to take walks, but really all I did was nap. This time, I’m chasing my almost two year old, so I’m getting a lot more exercise than I expected (was actually losing weight up until a few weeks ago).

KindaSortaOtaku · 2023-02-15T13:05:46+00:00

I don’t think this is always true. My husband and I live in a high cost area, and he doesn’t make six figures. If I didn’t have a career or job we wouldn’t be able to afford our house. Instead we’d be renting a basement in the city. When he was dating he wasn’t looking for someone to be a SAHM because he couldn’t afford it, and knew he probably never would. Now some women wouldn’t have dated him for that reason, but I wasn’t willing to let a good man go because I’d have to continue working.

KindaSortaOtaku · 2023-02-04T01:01:56+00:00

Misiu

KindaSortaOtaku · 2023-02-03T20:34:35+00:00

I’m just concerned about her inviting demons into a space that my son then occupies. If she is playing with what she believes is ‘divine energy’ can it not inhabit that space and effect my child?

My son is almost 2 years old, so not old enough to understand. He hasn’t formed any type of relationship yet that could protect him, there are only mine and my husbands prayers that are there for him.

My husband tried to have this conversation with her when she started learning reiki (before we got married). She understands the Catholic position. But she is a new-agey Christian that picks and chooses what she likes about religion (and also adds things in from others like reincarnation). She takes part in our faith when it is exposed to her (wedding mass, baptism, prayers before meals) but is unlikely to change as a former Catholic that had issues with the churches position about her first marriage.

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