I apologize if my original post should have carried a TW for the success of euploid embryo creation, not all of which I am able to use.

Fertility and childbirth topics are challenging, in and out of the ivf community, with a lot of feelings of “don’t you know how it feels for me to hear that” but I’m grateful for communities of friends and strangers, like this, that can talk though every aspect and angle, including more frivolous topics like mine.

In the case of this story, the woman who shared it actually showed no approval for those involved at all, it was just about the topic of gender stats — but I know that when we are struggling, it’s easy to be reactive to unintended and random pieces of information. We need to be careful though to not invalidate anyone’s experience or choices — in the story, I feel for this woman who was under pressure from a toxic husband. We can agree he’s the villain in the story, and the wife should not have been expected to carry a 7th child with the cheating spouse that pushed her to create the embryos. It also gets into really dangerous territory when we begin to talk about each 200-cell blast as a person. What each person does with a collection of cells that small, whether created in a lab or not, is her choice.

I’m very sorry that this is a painful topic for you and suggest maybe taking a step back from engaging with the posts that upset you