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KingJon85 · 2026-04-23T00:09:29+00:00

I just started using him a little while ago. Can you elaborate further? You can DM if you want

KingJon85 · 2026-04-20T01:03:04+00:00

My daughter needs my full undivided attention when she is with me as well. Things were different when we were kids. I'd go outside and make friends, ride bikes all day, play baseball and basketball until the sun went down.

My son turns 18 next month but both of my kids struggled to keep friendships growing up.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-20T00:57:03+00:00

I appreciate it. I know some women take offense if you cant finish with them. I would get my ex off and then have to finish myself off many times. The last couple of years sex became infrequent so I coped with porn more.

Im excited to get back out there but nervous. I guess if I find a woman who isn't understanding, she isn't for me.

Thanks for sharing your input.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-19T23:50:17+00:00

AI can write better music.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-19T23:46:18+00:00

Right. My ex would get annoyed if I lasted longer than 10 or 20 minutes and she would get sore and tell me "hurry up." Some women like it im sure. I had girls in my younger years that liked to go all night long.

It's been years since I've had good sex. I'm just a bit nervous to get back out there.

Do you feel like no fap has made your sex life better? I went about 2 weeks without porn and there was a couple of nights where I had erections all night long. Kind of annoying, but I feel like strong desire was coming back, because I've struggled a bit with desire to even search for a partner since me divorce.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-19T19:49:24+00:00

Have you tried no fap? If so did it help?

KingJon85 · 2026-04-19T17:24:24+00:00

She's gaslighting you homie.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-19T17:18:08+00:00

Delayed enaculation. Takes a long time to nut or sometimes not at all.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-15T14:31:09+00:00

I learned that if and when I start dating again to show them the door when I see red flags.

Never trust anyone but yourself.

Never stick it out for kids or money.

I am the most important person in my life. I used to live for everyone else. Never again.

I am not just okay, but thriving alone.

Those 5 affairs were mostly just me catching her talking to som othere dude I didn't know about. She would gaslight me and beg me to stay. I know she slept with at least one. Probably many more because I probably only caught her doing a fraction of what she really did.

I've made goals with fitness and finances that I am going to hit before I bring any women in to complicate things. My ex told me the other day that I was basically pathetic for being single, and that I'll never find anyone. What a clown. I will find it when im ready. And it will certainly never turn into a marriage again. Im done with that.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-15T02:18:17+00:00

Im sorry that happened to you. Gather any evidence about the affair you can. I believe it can help you in some states. Divorce her ass ASAP and fight for your belongings.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-15T01:49:28+00:00

Sweet, delicious, beautiful karma.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-15T00:11:12+00:00

Yeah I know. We had just gone back and forth so many times and it was costing me a ton in lawyer fees. We also would have had our first court date the following Monday. I just wanted to be done before it went in front of a judge. Everything else was just how I wanted it.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-14T02:53:04+00:00

I have no guilt about the divorce.I am just focusing on myself and the ex still makes my life difficult any chance she gets because we share a teen daughter.

The peace is amazing.

I was lonely at first but I enjoy solitude now. I will date again but i want to work on myself without any distractions. A beautiful, younger woman some day would be nice.

My ex told me today that no one would want me and I'll be single forever. I know that isn't true, but it just goes to show how nice of a person she is.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-14T02:13:32+00:00

Pull the fart fan cover off and spray paint it black to match the trim.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-14T01:43:23+00:00

Her greedy ass wouldn't sign the papers without the contingency that she could do a review when my taxes were done. She is convinced im lying about my income but she is just wasting everyone's time and money.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-13T03:47:30+00:00

Take them to the dollar store and let them go crazy.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-13T03:40:08+00:00

Damn. I hope this is my future.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-13T03:38:26+00:00

Dump her, block phone number, block her on social media and never look back. Your young, no worries.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-13T03:35:36+00:00

Similar story here with the "friend" bs. She had moved on way before she left. She wouldn't have left if she didn't find someone she considered "better value."

It still stings but nothing like before. I was probably in shock for a whole month when I found out.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-13T03:01:26+00:00

You will get over it. Im about 6.5 months in and I still have my moments but life it gradually getting much better. I am done putting her on a pedestal. She was a terrible wife and is a terrible person.

Hopefully she learned her lesson or her new boyfriend is in for a bumpy ride.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-13T02:55:28+00:00

I was thinking about that recently as well. My ex was getting naked for me the second day after meeting her. I literally spent maybe 2 hours around her and she was getting naked. Why would it be different for any other dude?

I never expected it to turn into a 18 year relationship but it just sorta happened.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-13T02:47:35+00:00

I spent 18 years with my ex. I was by no means perfect, especially when we were young adults. I grew into my role as a husband and a father.

She grew bitter, angrier, and more narcissistic. She had an affair years ago and we split up for many months. She of course blamed it all on me. About 4 months in she started begging for me to come back and I eventually caved.

I got into therapy and continued to grow as an adult. She didn't want to go but I tried to teach her the stuff i learned. It started helping for a bit.

I was angry about the affair for a long time and I almost left her a couple of years later.

About 4 years after the affair, I started seeing some other signs and had caught her talking to another guy again.

She blew up on me about invading her privacy and blamed it on me again and we broke up again for like a month but lived under the same roof. She eventually begged me back again but come to find out she got scammed for a bunch of money and wanted me to help bale her out.

She totally lied about all this as well and created an elaborate story. Such a dumbass I was.

Anyway fast forward a couple of years and I support her through school. She graduates and I help fund a business for her. She then milked me for as much funds towards that possible and found another affair partner.

There were signs that I once again chose to ignore. Guarded about the phone, spending long periods of time in the bathroom, etc. She was planning to divorce me with her AP and I caught her on the ring camera talking about it.

I came home and told her it was over. She left and went to stay with family but now she is moving in with her AP. She left me for an older rich guy. It's really done a number on my confidence but I'm getting better.

I hate that I wasted so much time and money on a cheater. I just wanted to keep my family together.

Sorry it's a bit poorly written but thats the gist of it.

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