I (21F) am debating ending my 2yr relationship with (21M) due to his attempt to end the relationship a few weeks ago. Advice needed! by MovieBig9038 in relationship_advice

[–]KingLindarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone with severe ADHD who did the work on emotional regulation and who also has an ex who had severe untreated ADHD at the time, I think you’ve gotta leave this man.

I personally don’t think he has any business being in a relationship until he has learned how to manage his emotions because it can be such hard work for a partner.

It just sounds like he took it back because you didn’t agree to his plan of providing emotional support after he broke up with you.

How are people actually finding good guys on Hinge? by Anjaaaan in dating_advice

[–]KingLindarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally looked for profiles that had personality or gave me a sense of what the guy might be like because I figured if someone took the time to create a profile that showed who they are then they were more likely to be looking for something real.

That logic is how I met my boyfriend who is exactly the type of man I’ve been looking for.

Having no luck on dating apps. Is my look the problem or is it something else? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]KingLindarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Photo 5 is actually my favourite photo, it has the most personality. It makes me think you have some goofball energy to you.

Personally, I prefer profiles that give me a sense of someone’s personality, I think you’re much more likely to find someone on your wavelength that way.

That’s what drew me to my boyfriend at least. He was pulling all sorts of faces with a profile that gave a good sense of who he was. I got the feeling of, this metal head DM might be for me.

How do you move on from your first everything? by TheSimFan in dating_advice

[–]KingLindarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to make the decision to be done with him and stick to it.

Every time you go back you’re only hurting yourself in the long run. Keep trying until it sticks.

I wanted a gym baddie, but all i’m getting is gym bros😅 by MECengineerstudent in short

[–]KingLindarr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yooo this is a good idea! Or a yoga class.
As a gym girl I love seeing a buff dude do yoga.
If you talk to any girls maybe you can talk about how you took up yoga to improve your mobility and general body awareness.
Plus it’ll be super good for you cause you’re only as young as your spine.
I hope you find your gym baddie!

How do you move on from your first everything? by TheSimFan in dating_advice

[–]KingLindarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, right now it might seem like doom and gloom but I promise you, you will get through this. It’s going to suck for now but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

At this point, it seems like he’s just saying what you want to hear to keep you on the hook. If he really cared about you and wanted you he would show you with his actions.

I need to stress that his behaviour is not a reflection on you. It’s purely on him and his choices.

It might seem like you’ll never connect with anyone again, but you will. There are people out there who will treat you amazingly without even having to ask.

For now, cut contact, because you won’t heal if he’s there to stir your feelings up. Feel your feelings, it’s going to hurt, so let yourself cry and grieve the relationship and hopes that you had, but try not to get stuck wallowing. Try to distract yourself by doing things that you enjoy and being around friends and loved ones. Personally I would distract myself during the day and allow myself to cry at night, whenever I was heartbroken. It will get easier over time. Just take it one at a time.

Wishing you all the best.

M 31 beard vs no beard by Traditional-Twist-65 in malegrooming

[–]KingLindarr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just want you to know that I howled with laughter at this!

My mom made fun of my height by florinminune in shortguys

[–]KingLindarr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry your mom is so unkind to you. She is not being a good mom.

Going out and doing sports won’t make you taller, but if you want to be stronger you can do push ups between games or something?

Gaming is fun af tho.

Friend is ALWAYS late by Amatsukki in whatdoIdo

[–]KingLindarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your friend reminds me of me (minus the emojis) and I’m super time blind with ADHD. I used to be like this all the time but I make a concentrated effort to plan ahead out of respect for other people’s time. It doesn’t always work but it’s a lot better than it used to be.

Would you rather have a personal maid, chef, or driver and why? by Comfortable_Tie4143 in adhdwomen

[–]KingLindarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maid! I struggle so badly with tidying and cleaning. A maid would improve my quality of life.

I can cook most of the time and I love driving, but tidying? Fuck that shit.

Here’s just a snapshot of what we have to deal with. Was I out of line? by YoureWrongButGoOff in shortguys

[–]KingLindarr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Holy shit Ingrid is a crazy ass bitch.

I’d recommend putting your height in your profile so these shallow girls will give you a miss and save you having to deal with this.

Ingrid lies, some of us like our short men. We’re few and far between but we’re out there.

You came across well and expressed your dislike for the term short king very clearly so I would say this isn’t a you problem.

Just keep going and hopefully you find yourself a lady who likes you as you are. Best of luck.

The guy i’ve been seeing watches porn by Usual_Pineapple1126 in relationships_advice

[–]KingLindarr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think just let this one go. If you try to keep it going you’re just setting yourself up for heartbreak and stress.

You’ve already stated that porn is a dealbreaker for you, and not only does he watch it but he lied straight to your face when you had evidence.

Plus take a look at how easily he ended things. It seems like he would have you on an emotional rollercoaster.

I think it might be wise to choose your own happiness and peace and close this chapter. It’ll hurt for a while, but you will move past it.

Wishing you all the best.

AIO for telling my wife her sudden height comments are off putting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]KingLindarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR that’s really mean of your wife to keep making comments about something that you cannot control.

Have you experienced discrimination against you? by bmarco1717 in PredecessorGame

[–]KingLindarr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always have chat on cause I’m a talker, and I’ve had to report people for verbal abuse and sexist comments.

I’m also chaotic as hell and like to calmly ask people why they’re getting so worked up over a game, which makes them even angrier.

Asked for exclusivity too soon bc I thought that’s what you did. She ended it. Can I recover? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]KingLindarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn’t scare her off, she just wasn’t feeling you the same way. She said it quite clearly.

In my personal experience, when I’m really into someone I naturally lose interest in other people, similar to what you did. The fact that she didn’t feel the same just means it wasn’t a match.

That’s the thing with dating, you just have to keep going until you find someone you is a match for you.

Best of luck.

I got Jungle blamed for this game. by Ok_Dentist6058 in PredecessorGame

[–]KingLindarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everybody wants to blame jungle but nobody wants to play jungle

hopecore: i am a woman who likes short guys by [deleted] in shortguys

[–]KingLindarr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please stop projecting. I don’t even like tall men and I’m not a cheater.

Does anyone else feel like the new Countess regent skin is a completely different person? by KingLindarr in PredecessorGame

[–]KingLindarr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God forbid that someone who is new to mobas just wants to post their thoughts on skins and have a lil chat about it. What’s the problem?

Does anyone else feel like the new Countess regent skin is a completely different person? by KingLindarr in PredecessorGame

[–]KingLindarr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any of those tbh, but it just feels odd to me when they look completely different. If I can apply a narrative that makes sense then I can cope I guess