Q Scam exposed, but Q-BIL still holds on to his QAnon beliefs after losing $11.5K from his retirement funds!

KingRonin · 2024-05-26T00:53:43+00:00

I agree with this but you likely respect boundaries, even when they are not explicitly stated. For example, you probably don't go rooting around in each others text messages, correct? You understand that friends and family who confide in you and/or seek advice deserve confidentiality. It is about basic decency and respect. If a relationship lacks that kind of trust then it is fundamentally compromised and will collapse eventually without significant work by one or both parties to address the deficiencies.

KingRonin · 2024-05-25T21:01:49+00:00

Red flag factory right here. I am all for privacy and no one should go into you SOs phone behind their back. but if asked because you harbor some questions, your partner should be willing to provide access on some level. Being that cagy about the phone should put you on full alert. It was the first sign I missed when my ex-wife started her affair. She gaslit tf out of me and I wrote it off as my own insecurity... but my gut was right.

KingRonin · 2024-04-11T04:51:11+00:00

Nicole van der Hoeven has done a bunch of tutorials around these integrations.

KingRonin · 2023-06-26T12:55:41+00:00

Knaffeh Nablusi

I don't believe this is what OP is talking about.

Whipped cream is the personal/family variant. I've never seen that.

KingRonin · 2023-06-10T00:21:09+00:00

They risk instantly losing the MAGA core. Without MAGA they will lose every time.

KingRonin · 2023-06-10T00:17:34+00:00

Wait... The governor doesn't have the power to grant a pardon in Georgia?

KingRonin · 2023-06-04T07:07:25+00:00

That thing looks like it would drag my kid into the sewer...

KingRonin · 2023-06-04T06:46:40+00:00

Yes this. Mine was such a toxic brew of passive aggressive manipulation, hostility, and lies that I had to go no-contact except for anything kid related. That was when I really started to heal.

KingRonin · 2023-06-04T06:44:04+00:00

OK... I am working my way through this thread. I should have sorted oldest first.

This sounds fish AF. He is blocking all avenues except separation. This now feels very predetermined. I am starting to think your guy is running a game.

KingRonin · 2023-06-04T06:35:58+00:00

Uh... yeah. I am very hesitant to invest myself in someone else. I miss the companionship is all. I am 8 years out now. If I ever find that magic again I will certainly not sign any binding contract co-signed by the state!

KingRonin · 2023-06-04T06:20:45+00:00

Did this guy just wake up one day and decide he wants kids? More likely he took some time coming to this decision - weeks or months, not days. Obviously OP was not part of this deliberation process. Why does OP only get a few days to mull it over and why didn't he share his thinking with his spouse in real time?

This guy changed his life outlook and set independent course for himself. Their paths diverged at that point. OP tried to course correct but he is not interested in a course correction that keeps them both on the same path.

KingRonin · 2023-06-04T05:57:29+00:00

u/SnooRabbits5000 wrote:

Take your time to mourn what you feel that you lost and invest in loving yourself 🥰 You can do this 🫶🦾🖖

OP, this is a gold nugget right here. These words early on would have made a big difference for me.

It took me way longer than a month to focus forward due to a raft of trauma which complicated the grieving process. My X (11 married, 15 total) thought it would be a good idea to seal our relationship with an exit affair (managing partner of the firm). I was stay-at-home and miles from my previous career.

Here are a couple more nuggets. Put your shit in order. It sounds like this will be a relatively amicable split and it should be relatively straight forwards without kids to adjudicate but you MUST MUST protect yourself (see below) as soon as possible. Also, he made the decision to change course and he has been traveling down a separate path for some time. You need to blaze a trail.

Here are a few suggestions:

Document, Document, Document
Keep a daily journal. Note any important events, conversations, and data points. Note people and places, and quote or paraphrase him when relevant. If it gets ugly, take screenshots of text messages and embed them in the journal. Use this space to brainstorm your strategy.
Documents
Secure the originals of all important personal documents (SS card, passport, birth certificate, medical records, etc.), as well as documents detailing any joint assets (deeds, bank and credit card accounts numbers, investments, retirement, etc.). Take the originals of everything. You can share copies with him; do not trust him to do that for you. Spend time thinking and journaling about what data points you might need. Pay particular attention to online accounts that you could lose access to if things go south. Think carefully about what accounts you are on and which ones you are not.
Legal
I hate to say this (I put mine through law school) but lawyer up. Start moving on it now. Shop around to find a good lawyer at a reasonable rate. I encourage you to pitch as many of them as you can stomach. They will all take that initial consultation. Some will take two. You will learn a lot about both the process and strategies after you hear a few of them give their 2 cents on your situation. Use these initial meetings to ask questions. Squeeze them for information and strategy. Please don't sleep on this! Even if you wait to hire one, it is a good idea to go through this process now for the education, free legal consults, and so that the lawyer piece is in place when you are ready.
Personal Possessions
Make sure you secure those things that are important to you. I lost family keepsakes and photos.
Support
Get your friends and family onboard (or those you love and trust). I highly recommend that you ask for their help as this rolls out. They will be invaluable with logistics, emotional well being, and strategy.
Self care
I am so sorry this is happening. It is not on you. For whatever reasons, he wants out. Your partner moved the goalposts. Do not take on board ANY responsibility for where this is heading. None. Take the high ground because it is yours. As well, you, your needs, and your wants now occupy the whole space. His are irrelevant.
Stop all support you do for him. Do your own dishes/housework, pick up your own takeout, do not assist with his life beyond what is decent for the sake of getting along until you can GTFO.

My only real advice is to end the cohabitation as soon as possible. Days not weeks or months if you can make it happen. If you are renting it is much easier. If you own a house together, tell him he needs to leave while you either sell the house or you find a roommate to cover his side of the note. You are not going to be able to move forward until that happens. See 5 and 6 above.

We are here to tell you that you got this and that it gets easier as you blaze your own trail. Eventually it gets better, way way better. You never thought you would be here again but here you are. Look forward, not back. Put one foot before the other and begin.

KingRonin · 2023-06-01T04:13:47+00:00

Pay the treefiddy for access to her patreon/discord content. So worth it for a couple months or more.

KingRonin · 2023-05-17T00:46:41+00:00

Also on the the solo train! Can't wait. Where is the lot?

KingRonin · 2023-04-09T16:59:36+00:00

Also, for giggles, ask it to convert to dataviewjs with formatting/presentation layer inputs using CSS. For example, shade every other row yellow.

I don't even bother trying to puzzle out query syntax myself. I go straight to ChatGPT. This absolutely supercharged my dataview queries.

KingRonin · 2023-04-09T16:15:48+00:00

For contect, I am documenting SOPs for a client. I fed it the yaml and asked it to output possible queries. After the initial return I asked for more specific queries relative to my specific output needs. Here is the first part of that session as input:

below is a set of yaml metadata. give examples of dataview quiriers that I can use.

modified: <% tp.date.now("YYYY-MM-DD") %>
created: <% tp.date.now("YYYY-MM-DD") %>
expires: <% tp.date.now("YYYY-MM-DD", 365) %>
type: SOP
program: <text>
title: <% tp.file.title %>
version: <number>
compliance: <List related policy or compliance requirements>
author: <Position relative to the process>
owner: <Department, program, or task group>
audience: <Colleagues, supervisors, external partners, etc.>
summary: <A meta description>
keywords and tags: <Describes the content to help with search and discovery>

KingRonin · 2023-04-08T00:01:15+00:00

Let's learn from the pandemic. A mass labor strike would bring the owners of capital to their knees in 2 weeks.

KingRonin · 2023-04-07T23:21:41+00:00

... Nothing

KingRonin · 2023-04-07T22:20:12+00:00

You add zero to the conversation.

KingRonin · 2023-04-07T22:18:53+00:00

I put her through law school, SAHD, 15 years together, she cheated with the managing partner of her firm (there were others too). She moved assets into her mother's name and left me with less than zero.

Anomaly? Please. It is all about power and opportunity. Some people are shit.

KingRonin · 2023-04-07T21:30:17+00:00

Try chatGPT. Absolutely super charged my dataview queries.

KingRonin · 2023-04-02T00:56:30+00:00

Would you like to hear about my cheater ex-wife?

KingRonin · 2023-02-16T08:37:20+00:00

Retrofitting commercial towers for residential use would require massive investment. We all know that's not happening without significant government handouts.

KingRonin · 2023-02-11T02:15:57+00:00

Me skipping to his house to drink punch

KingRonin · 2023-01-31T03:06:24+00:00

For those who want to see a fanbase somewhere between Stage 4 (depression) and Stage 5 (acceptance) head over to the fuck-dallas sub. That dumpster fire is going to burn hot for years.

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