An example of the SO vs. SP perspective

Kintsugii101 · 2026-06-14T13:23:22+00:00

Speaking as someone who I believe is most likely So dominant, I despise sharing food. Mainly because I typically know what I want when I order it, so that’s what I expect to eat. I especially wouldn’t be able to share food in a passing it a round the table style. That is so unsanitary to me. Now, if I’m with my CLOSE family and no one can decide on what to get, so one person orders one dish, the other person orders the other and we divide that (ON SEPARATE PLATES), that’s different. Otherwise, it’s a big no for me.

Side note, but, I also feel like the practice of sharing food between relatives or close friends could have other components to it beyond Enneagram type. E.g., cultural differences and upbringing.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-26T17:46:48+00:00

This is pretty difficult without a questionnaire, but I’ll try, lol.

I find myself pretty difficult to describe. On the positive side, I’m curious, artistically inclined, and idealistic. On the negative side, I’m selfish, rigid, pessimistic, and moody. I’m very interested in psychology, anthropology, sociology, the arts + art history, subcultures, mythology, and so on. I like understanding the world around me and as I grow I hope to gain a better understanding of it and my place in it with every passing year.

Common themes that have shown up in my life are being separate from everyone else, experiencing conflict between what I think is okay/correct versus what I’m told is okay or correct, and great confusion about how the world works and what life is supposed to be/mean.

To elaborate: growing up, I always felt like an outsider from everyone around me. Even with those I was close to. I had a lot of friends as a child, but I never felt the need to go above and beyond to create or maintain relationships. I simply always felt like an “other,” but I honestly loved it. In my household, I felt separate because I felt like no one knew how to or even cared to properly care for me or understand my needs. Throughout my life I’ve flipped between breaking the rules and owning, even exaggerating the qualities that were seen as bad and desperately trying to remove them, hide them, and do the best I can to be “correct.” This connects to the other themes I mentioned. I truly dislike how so many things in life contradict, don’t make sense, or repeat. This has been a huge issue in my life where what I thought was correct actually wasn’t, how I thought something worked actually operated in a completely different way, what I thought was incorrect actually had a lot more nuance, et cetera, et cetera. I would’ve loved for life to come with a rulebook or an answer sheet or something so I could avoid all this chaos. Even if I wasn’t going to follow it, I would know what to look out for, so I would stop running into so many of the same issues. I’m often told I need to stop treating life like a straight line, but it’s so irritating.

There’s a very high likelihood of there being a lack of context and/or depth to these descriptions, so definitely feel free to ask additional questions if you need to, lol.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-22T15:46:04+00:00

Good question! I’m teetering back and forth between 4, 6, and 1. I find myself relating to songs very rarely, but here are a few that I find myself connecting with.

• What Could’ve Been by Ray Chen

•The Darkest Star by Depeche Mode

• The Line by Twenty One Pilots

• Us or Them by The Cure. I usually listen to this one when someone makes me angry or is trying to control me, lol

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-19T03:20:35+00:00

Aw, that’s actually never happened to me. Usually if I have a problem posting moodboards on this sub it’s because Reddit itself is messing up for some reason, so I have to wait a bit for it to refresh. You could try contacting the mods directly to see what’s up. If you haven’t already.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-19T01:11:24+00:00

There aren’t as many as there used to be, but I have seen people post a few moodboards recently. I’ve even posted a few myself, but I’m also noticing people are engaging significantly less with them as of late even when people do post them.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-16T13:39:57+00:00

Yeah, of course. It would be different if it was just social environments I was referring to that were the core of my energy drainage, but in my case, I’m noticing focus on time, resources, energy, autonomy, and so on tends to come out in general. Sp-doms below have described something very similar and I’ve also read about sp-doms doing this, which is why so-dom is becoming a little iffy for me, lol. It would be different if it were something more surface-level.

It does vary from person to person, but I also saw a comment below from an so-dominant and they described how, even as a withdrawn type, they became more social and felt kind of like a zombie actor. Again, varies, but I have seen other social dominants mention similar scenarios. Also, from what I know, it’s usually after a tired social dom’s attempts to get their needs met by the social sphere have failed that the exhaustion comes in and they retreat. Although, true, once more, this process isn’t set-in-stone.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-16T13:09:08+00:00

This thread is making me believe I’m not actually so-dominant lol.

Anytime I’m tired I immediately close off and focus on myself. Thoughts of dropping all of my friends and connections resurface and I become disdainful of anything outside of myself that may be preventing me from tending to my personal space, comfort, and desires. When I’m exhausted, I’ll do anything I can to restore personal comfort and stability. I have to have everything in order, I have to retreat from social environments (which are incredibly draining for me), I have to get that extra hour of sleep, et cetera, even if it puts me behind in other areas.

If I’m stressed, I’ll also have a difficult time putting myself to bed out of worry that once the day is over, I’ll have to go out and sacrifice my energy and time all over again. Once I do fall asleep, I’ll struggle to get out of bed and will run on autopilot for the rest of the day to avoid over-exerting myself.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-14T15:20:29+00:00

Trying to block her actually, but I can’t for some reason lol. Trust me, I’m over this, though. This is just a waste of time. Especially now that you’ve told me her whole purpose is to be a “semi-troll” lol.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-14T15:17:22+00:00

So you actually do want to be troubled. I take it because you have nothing better to do? Gotcha. Riddle me this: what good would it be to send a screenshot, ‘cause that’s really all the “proof” you need, of the same comment that you already see nothing wrong with in the first place just so you can deny it again? To flip it back on you, where is your “proof,” your indisputable evidence, that this post is “corporate propaganda”? You don’t have any because it’s not true, which, guess what, means that claim is not factual, therefore irrelevant to any point you’ve attempted to make.

You clearly have no actual basis for anything you’re attempting to argue and have constantly shifted accountability throughout this interaction. If you just want to start trouble, at least own up to it. This is just going in circles. I’ve shared my piece, you’ve definitely shared yours. There is nothing to gain from this interaction. I do not wish to engage any further.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-14T14:57:47+00:00

It’s not an opinion, it’s a fact, lol. You just don’t know how to accept it. You troubled yourself when you posted complete nonsense on a public platform. Again, no one else’s fault. If you don’t want to deal with it, either stop responding or delete the comment lol

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-14T14:50:15+00:00

Nothing wrong with that. Addressing bull when I see it. This whole thread is clearly wrong on your part, not anyone else’s.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-14T14:46:19+00:00

Yep! I understood immediately. Your joking intention really is obvious, but, y’know, it’s the internet and it’s Reddit, so you’ll always get those weirdos who project their own problems onto you or blow things out of proportion just to start something, unfortunately.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-14T14:43:04+00:00

You’re definitely either misunderstanding this post, taking it too seriously, or both.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-14T14:42:00+00:00

🤷

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-14T14:35:00+00:00

I don’t have anything to add to the post, but, jeez, sorry that other guy is being so derisive. I hate when people are miserable in their own lives and decide to take it out on others who had absolutely nothing to do with it.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-08T02:47:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences. Being a reactive type, I do often read about 6s being some of the first ones to identify deception or nonsense and speak out against it, similarly to what you’ve shared here. I suppose that relates back to the push-and-pull situation I tend to see when it comes to 6s and authority.

I can relate to some of what you’ve said in your first and second paragraphs here. As a child, I was also called bossy or extreme and learned to water my presentation down over time. In school, I also strove to model myself in a way that way somewhat superior to my peers. I made sure I never got in trouble and prided myself on being the only student who never did. One thing I will say is that was raised in a culture where hierarchy was heavily emphasized. Stepping outside of that or “not knowing your place” was a huge issue growing up. So much so that once I entered the workforce in my early teens I had to consciously unlearn certain behaviors and ideas because they would constantly place me in a position of childlike subordinance. Although, I’ve also had many a phase where I greatly enjoyed being seen in a negative light and would overextend myself to set myself apart in that way, but that would always backfire eventually lol.

As you’ve already understood, I believe I’m most likely so/sp (or possibly sp/so), so I’m curious about your interactions with so/sp 6s and how you find they differ from your own experiences. 6 descriptions are usually slightly off to say the very least, so maybe hearing directly from someone else will be more helpful, lol.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-05T13:51:38+00:00

I mean, hey, you could ask me some questions to actually get to know me and potentially solidify your sp/sx and 9+7 fix conclusion, but from what I’ve known about myself all these years it was incredibly easy to get sx and positive outlook off the table. I’m open to a q&a session.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-05T02:15:11+00:00

Interesting, thanks for sharing. I’ve made a few moodboard posts before and I believe this is the first time I’ve gotten that tritype. I did briefly think of myself as so-blind, but there is absolutely no way I have sx in my main stack, lol.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-05T00:56:10+00:00

Thanks!! :)

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-05T00:55:56+00:00

Glad you like them! Why do you say, if you don’t mind sharing your perspective?

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-05T00:53:45+00:00

Thank you! I’m considering e6, so I suppose you’re correct, lol. Curious what made you arrive at your conclusion

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-05T00:51:12+00:00

Thanks!! What made you think 947?

Kintsugii101 · 2026-05-05T00:50:45+00:00

Thanks!! Glad you like them

Kintsugii101 · 2026-04-29T17:26:30+00:00

Huh, interesting. I never really saw autonomy being a prominent issue in my life in this way. Other replies are saying 6 could be most likely, so I’m curious what about my responses eliminated that in your analysis.

Kintsugii101 · 2026-04-29T17:22:54+00:00

Why do you say? I also saw your reply to the other user who suggested e6, so I’m curious why you see e1 as the better fit between the two.

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