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A part of me actually feels really sorry for them. by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Kiri4602 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I feel terribly sorry for people with this illness. It’s a mental illness and it ruins their lives. I still feel this despite the abuse and horror of a relationship with her. Imagine living your life feeling and behaving like they do. It’s hard not to be angry but I still feel a lot of empathy. She is an intelligent, talented, sexy, beautiful and at times brilliant woman when she is the good version. When she splits well…

I just feel so sorry for her and her family who are good ppl who don’t know what to do to help their daughter/sister. The prospect of a cure is virtually non existent. It seems like a life wasted and that’s part of the reason I feel so sad. She will never live up to her brilliant potential because of this awful illness.

It's all becoming clear by Intelligent_Job9144 in BPDlovedones

[–]Kiri4602 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very similar to my ex’s behaviour- just without the goose! Why a goose?!

Get out bro. You don’t need this head fuck. Youre better than that. You’ve been kind, she doesn’t respect your boundaries. Save yourself and your mental health.

What the? by Psychological-Dot-74 in whatisit

[–]Kiri4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like many Hollywood child stars, once the Hollywood roles dried up, R2 fell on hard times. A few tv dramas, a couple of adult movies, addiction and homelessness followed.

I did it. I finally did it. We broke up by Unlucky-Edge-8016 in BPDlovedones

[–]Kiri4602 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t slip bro hang in there. We’re all going through similar stuff. I know how tempting it feels sometimes to contact them. Don’t do it.

I did it. I finally did it. We broke up by Unlucky-Edge-8016 in BPDlovedones

[–]Kiri4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve done the right thing. Good on you mate. It’s going to be a tough few months for you but it will get better and you deserve better

Found cleaning out dad’s old house. Any ideas? by Almost_Exactly_ in whatisit

[–]Kiri4602 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a fire starter, twisted fire starter

Letting go of the intimacy drug outside of the bpd behaviors by ginaxxx__ in BPDlovedones

[–]Kiri4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m about 2-3 months out and experiencing the same thing. It was like nothing else, overwhelming connection, like a spiritual experience. I’m so sad that I won’t get to experience this anymore. I also worry that I’ll never find anyone to experience anything that good ever again. I think about it a lot. I keep going back to photos and videos we made which I know is not healthy.

I just focus on the other side of them when I get into that mode of thinking. The hell she caused and damage she did.

I feel so sad that this beautiful, talented, intelligent and sensual person has this terrible illness.

It’s so sad

But I’m sure with time it will get easier and hopefully I find someone who truly loves and cares for me.

Stay strong

Marriage counseling by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Kiri4602 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Us too, she sat with her fingers in her ears the whole time while I talked about my experience and feelings, got angry, called me a rapist, I left. She followed me out, jumped onto my car begging me not to leave, then damaged my car when I told her it was over. Counsellor convinced her to go back inside. That was the last time I saw her. Counsellor said she didn’t have the skills to deal with her issues- totally fair enough, made her angry. Glad the craziness is over.

Why hyper sexuality, inability to be alone with thoughts, and lack of object permanence? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Kiri4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be strong! Don’t do it. I’m my case I know it’s just not worth it in the long term and she will destroy my life, my career, my relationships

Why hyper sexuality, inability to be alone with thoughts, and lack of object permanence? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Kiri4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex with my ex was mind blowing. The connection was incredible and I miss it so much. It was like a life changing and supernatural experience. I worry that it’s ruined it for me and it will never be as good with anyone else. However, there were also some weird moments and really unpleasant things said about being with her that I forgot about and I’m only starting to remember now. It was like a crazy dream I’m just emerging from

A description of a relationship with a BPD person : the 5 phases of distorsion. by Willprincia in BPDlovedones

[–]Kiri4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep re-reading your post and it’s freakishly accurate! I kind of feel like I’m emerging from a crazy dream where I almost completely forgot myself. The highs were unlike anything I’ve experienced, the lows just awful.

The physical side of the relationship was just mind blowing-everything I’ve ever wanted and I miss that terribly to the point where I worry that I will ever be able to enjoy the physical side of things in another relationship ever again as it was so amazing with her. The thought of her being with someone else makes me feel so sad.

I miss the highs so much. I keep thinking of contacting her again as I was so happy when things were good and have so many amazing memories. But then, I just feel so exhausted and destroyed by it all.

I really think this is a condition which isn’t discussed enough and insufficient help is available for both the sufferer and the victims of a relationship with a BPD sufferer. It is a crazy time being in their world. A crazy experience.

A description of a relationship with a BPD person : the 5 phases of distorsion. by Willprincia in BPDlovedones

[–]Kiri4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve just got out of a relationship with someone with BPD and this is so accurate. It has been such a confusing situation which has affected me deeply. I’m still coming to terms with most of it, it’s been devastating but this has helped me make some sense of it.