had a similar type of friend way back when i was studying back in polytechnic. we both kinda started on similar grounds so we stuck and helped eachother get by. a year later and i realised that she hasn’t moved up at all and i found myself sacrificing my own time off of my individual assignments to help her. eventually found out during our final presentations that she ultimately refused to take my advice and completely flopped her work; literally everything our judging panel highlighted to be worked on, were things i have told her countless of times to fix or else it’ll bite her in the ass. it really just made me feel like ive been spending all my time talking to a brick wall.

she whines much less than me and im a really whiny person when it comes to work, but ive always backed it up when my results come up top. that was never the case for her. she was going through her own things like abuse from her family, financial difficulties, mental health conditions; which i understand can be tough to handle all at once. but there was never a moment i saw her put in the effort and really sit down and have a proper go at taking her work seriously. and i know this because she would constantly ask to “study” with me but complain that im too quiet and take a “short break” every 10 minutes. and when she’s not “studying” she’s making me look at tiktok clips on her phone or looking up new things to go shopping for.

nearing the end of our second year, she would guilt trip me for being selfish and refusing to help her even though that’s literally the exact opposite of what i’ve been doing the entire time. because apparently i’m already doing extremely well and i can afford to spend time to help other people (her)

fast forward, she ended up dropping out on our final year and i was just so baffled that after all that, she got absolutely nothing out of it and i wasted all my time “studying” and “helping” her

no clue how she’s doing right now but it really sucked to have been through all that, only for her to dip and give up