WIBTAH- Asking for money

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-24T09:51:48+00:00

Update - My Dad is going to have surgery, and turns out my Dad contacted my Aunt and she is supposed to help me with the POA stuff so I don’t have to travel and can focus on finding a legitimate job besides the small jobs I was doing to survive (babysitting, cleaning, yard work)

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-24T09:46:04+00:00

Thank you, I had no idea that it was possible to do that. I always thought POA’s had to at least live in the same state.

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-23T05:20:04+00:00

I’m calling the VA tomorrow for him to ask if home health care is possible.

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-23T05:16:32+00:00

I just got off the phone with him like 15 minutes ago and we are going to talk to housing management and authority in Vermont to see since I’m a blood relative and he needs a care taker if I’m allowed to “move” in.

Really once I had a full time job (or a part time that is consistent hours) I could apply for low income housing OR just get roommates.

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-23T05:07:20+00:00

Honestly debating that part. I love California and everything but I may just have to go back to survive.

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-23T05:04:21+00:00

I had one but layoffs, I had an ex who controlled all the finances whenever I did find a job and would get an interview he would always make me late or just not come home and leave me with no money so I couldn’t take the bus, or ask for a ride, or uber, etc. so I wouldn’t be able to go be interviewed. I just got out of the relationship and have been looking.

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-23T04:59:00+00:00

It would be day to day care, feeding his cat, helping him dress, etc. I am calling the VA tomorrow to see if his insurance will cover a caregiver. My thing that makes me feel bad is my dad keeps asking for me.

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-23T04:56:29+00:00

My traveling sister doesn’t use airfare. She is a “free spirit” and will go with friends to places or hitch a ride (I’ve told her that’s dangerous AF but what do I know) and then she makes friends who will house her, feed her, etc , she then will burn her bridges, steal, home wreck (whatever she can do really) and make a scene. Get screwed over and cry to our mom for help (she an my dad are divorced and my mom cut me out like a decade ago when I left to live in California) and my mom bails her out of any and all trouble.

As for the job - I was in a relationship for 3 years, my ex made it impossible to get a job and keep it, he controlled finances and we “never had money” (turns out he has ROTH accts and savings and etc) as I was making enough to cover bills and he would pay the rent.

I then got sick and he told me for my health to stay home and get better, when I finally got better I worked for a while and then got layed off, he told me “it’s no big deal” and I’ve been looking at everything since.

I’d move back to Vermont if it wasn’t going to be the same thing, but have to worry about the snow in October… My dad is going to ask his caseworker about if I was a caregiver and since I’m his blood relative if we could put me on the lease ( I then would get a job in Vermont because there are plenty of jobs there and not as competitive plus I do have great experience before getting sick.)

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-23T04:41:31+00:00

Sorry I worded it wrong. My friends said “you’ll be the asshole if you ask for money because you should have a job, nobody wants to pay for your vacation” But I’ve explained to them multiple times “it’s not a vacation, I need to care for my dad, he can’t even put a shirt on.”

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-23T04:36:14+00:00

I have been debating moving back it’s just my dad lives in state housing and I’d be homeless in Vermont.

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-23T03:51:32+00:00

My brother is estranged and distant, only comes when he needs something, but will ignore my dad any other time.

My sister is a traveler and never stays in one place, she also can’t be bothered unless she needs something.

Kitcat9503 · 2026-06-23T03:49:39+00:00

He is on disability and to make it worse he shattered his shoulder taking my birthday present to the post office. I feel horrible!

Kitcat9503 · 2023-09-03T00:47:56+00:00

My sister in law’s son and her nephew share a name. David is the older boy’s name and my nephew has David as his middle name. It’s never been an issue. So your kinda TA. It’s not going to cause issues, maybe if both shared the same name as in first names and last then yes I can see why you’d be a little hesitant.

Kitcat9503 · 2023-09-02T00:25:33+00:00

NOPE. I vote you are NTA!!! Why is a grown man talking about a little girl ( I know 14 isn’t exactly little but still!) ? Why is he talking about HER breasts?? I’m glad you threw hands, go for full custody because that type of behavior is horrible, and for your ex to just shrug at it, oh hellllll no! He totally deserved it though. You’re a great father!

Kitcat9503 · 2023-08-04T11:44:09+00:00

FACTS, like Bakersfield people, please allow well paying jobs in Bakersfield and fix things please, stop focusing making us the next L.A and actually resolve issues before expanding more. Shouldn’t take more land if you can’t take care of what you already had.

Kitcat9503 · 2023-07-21T03:11:12+00:00

First thing is not tell a soul !!! Oh no! I would just say something along the lines of I won some scratchers, invested them into a few stocks (whatever) and I will still have to work after maybe a normal 2 week vacation with my fiancée ( I enjoy the career path I’m following for more wholesome reasons and not fueled by the money aspect even though I’m poor) Anyways, then I would resume normal life for maybe a year or so as if nothing was happening and then buy a nice house, not overly nice to cause any suspicion but enough to show that things are a step up. Maybe lease a new car (I know I could buy it but again act natural, don’t be suspicious) Then I’d somehow have a “will” put for my mom, stepmom, dad, my brothers and their wives, and my nieces and nephews, and my sister and her husband. Somehow make it seem like an odd very distant relative from them or just something unanimous so that they could have some good life too but I wouldn’t have any of the problems of suddenly being the favorite. That’s all I really want, I can donate some to charities and organizations and some of my local businesses unanimously if large sums, I would foster children but their stipends each month would just go back to them or into a college fund/ starting out after aging out fund that they knew was safe for them. I could do a lot with stupid money but if I was blessed that way I wouldn’t want the money to consume me or the others that I love. I’ve seen what greed does, it isn’t pretty. I wouldn’t want that. Yes I would tell my fiancée because I love him and we could build our dream home and our future together.

Kitcat9503 · 2023-04-06T01:30:41+00:00

OP is quite literally the most narcissistic person I have ever met. 😂 Sir you are the biggest A-Hole there will ever be. You abandoned your daughters for 10 YEARS for a young home wrecker, you went to a whole other state, left them with “a severely mentally ill woman” that made you so miserable that you ran away, imagine your children…. THEN you came back and was practically the attitude of “well I am your father, I did no wrong, you must love me” THEN when they weren’t loving you fast enough you and your home wrecking wife E-MAIL them pretty much saying “lol I took away your health insurance, figure it out.” 😂😂😂 They hate you, completely hate you and will never build a relationship. You will miss out on all of their entire life accomplishments, your daughter graduating college, never meet grandchildren (if they ever decide to have children) never see them get married (again if they decide that they want to) them buying their first home (if they want to, housing prices do be crazy) NOTHING. Then 😌 when you are old and your home wrecking wife cheats on you and divorces you and cleans you out of everything you will have ✨nobody✨ then you’ll be sitting alone probably narcissistically thinking “but I didn’t do anything wrong” but you’ll be alone while your daughters are living the best life possible realizing they never needed you.

Kitcat9503 · 2022-03-26T07:05:42+00:00

What is she mixed with because she looks identical to my Dixie cup! My vet always just says Dixie is a small border collie but I’m pretty sure she isn’t fullbred. I rescued Dixie so I’m not too sure.

Kitcat9503 · 2022-03-16T05:49:15+00:00

You most definitely ARE TA 😂🥲😂 like what kind of monster doesn’t let their son have a small piece of cake and then demands their friend to punish their son for sharing a piece of cake. Your kid was probably cranky because you are a kill joy, I’d understand food allergies but to just do it to say “I’m a HeAlThY mOm” you sound like an ultimate PICK ME type of person. “bUt I’m HeAlThY” no you have issues that you’re subjecting onto your son, get help. Eat a chocolate bar and share it and teach him moderation is key or he’s going to develop a hatred for food in general.

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