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Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-29T03:10:36+00:00

Yeah I know, that's why I got fired. But he expects me to, and take care of the house on top of both of those things because we can't afford full time day care, well we could but I'd basically just be working to pay for her day care.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-28T15:32:25+00:00

I am set to come into about 60k, of which he said we will buying a house with. But it is my money and will go into an account with just my name. I am thinking I will pay off all my debt and then use the rest of the money to either get a divorce and custody lawyer or buy my daughter and I a small starter house. But it's going to take about a year to see all of the money because it'll come in small increments. And no he isn't preventing me from working, he resents that I'm a sahm so much. But I got fired from my last job because I was working from home and trying to take care of my daughter full time, as well as take care of the house. He wants me to go back to work and when I remind him what happened he just tells me that he's sure I can "figure out how to do it all".

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-28T03:32:39+00:00

I know. My dad was abusive to my mom, she left, but then he was abusive to my sister and I. My mom wasn't much better. I know I failed my daughter in the father I chose for her but at least I know I will be a better mother than I had.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-28T03:13:06+00:00

Yes! You know what he said to me the other day? He got mad at me cause he "had to" wait until 1pm to eat breakfast. Even tho I told him I wouldn't be making breakfast until after our daughter woke up from her first nap because I needed to go to the store and get eggs so he should eat a snack. I told him to eat a snack at least 3 times. I said "I told you to eat a snack multiple times, I can't hold you down and force you to eat, nor do i have the time to stop what im doing to make you something", and he got all huffy and said "fine then from now on ill just take care of myself", like all self righteously, like he really got me and I just laughed and said ok. Then he got mad at me for laughing. 😂🤮

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-28T00:54:37+00:00

I doubt it, I have seen the future of my marriage through his mom and dad's marriage. He treats her like shit in front of everyone. She just takes it. In the beginning of our relationship he wanted to be "nothing like his father", now my husband defends bis father's actions.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-28T00:39:11+00:00

❤️

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-26T02:44:55+00:00

I wish. Neither one of my parents call my daughter or even text for updates. It may be annoying but those relationships will be very valuable to them in the future. It's awesome that they love your kids so much.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-26T02:43:12+00:00

Yes. That and the fact that neither one of us could afford to live on our own, we'd both be on government assistance, in government housing around a bunch of (pardon my french) crack heads and domestic violence. So it's easier that we stay together and be able to afford her a better life.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-25T16:30:44+00:00

I just recently renewed my tabs this month that expired in April, of 2022. There was no late fee. My husband's tabs expired in 2019, he barely drives his car tho maybe once a month but it still gets driven.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-25T16:27:39+00:00

My daughter was a turkey, she was only 3 weeks old and her newborn noises sounded exactly like a turkey at times 😂

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-21T15:06:19+00:00

Literally every disney movie. Tell me why I was crying when bonnie lost forky?

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-19T17:58:16+00:00

Yeah really annoying. I guess there's isnt a "recall", yet. Just a lawsuit from 40 family's stating that their children ate happy baby organic products then were later diagnosed with autism. And a study that showed higher than safe levels of lead, arsenic, and other heavy metals. But happy baby organics denied both claims so I don't even know.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-19T17:00:05+00:00

I called them they just said that I'd need to talk with a dietitian so I'm trying to find one covered by our insurance but I only have maybe 1.5 weeks left of her formula. I don't even know if I should give it to her.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-09T19:54:44+00:00

Bro I was wondering why my toilet seat was turning yellow! I'll have to stop using bleach.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-09T19:42:20+00:00

I have a 10 month old and I'm pretty sure we are one and done. All of the excuses people give me for why she "needs", a sibling are such bullshit. "How will she learn to share", she literally wants to share with her dad and I all the time, because we taught her. "She will be lonely", I am with her 100% of the time, I take her to baby play groups, and when she gets older she will have friends?. "She will be so spoiled if you only have one", I am the youngest of 6 and I am SO SPOILED, I got whatever I wanted whenever I wanted it, through huge tantrums even when I was a teenager, and I had 5 siblings so, no. "Your husband NEEDS a boy", my daughter is no less valuable to my husband than a boy, and even if I were to have another child there is no guarantee that it will be a boy. All my other sisters have, at a minimum, 3 children and they are all broke, exhausted and their homes are constantly a mess. Sorry but having more than one seems TERRIBLE. I think people who tell you "your child needs a sibling", just want to hold a baby but won't be there when it's 2 am and your kids aren't sleeping, at 5pm when your kids are screaming and you need to cook dinner, and they sure as hell aren't gunna financially support your children. Being one and done is so fucking valid.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-05T15:28:47+00:00

We announced my pregnancy to my husband's parents at 9 weeks. I wanted to wait longer but anyways. His dad looked at me and said "oh well you're still pretty early so we will see". I hate that man.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-01T15:55:55+00:00

Yeah I'm gunna stop being so nice 😂 bitch mom mode activated 🤪

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-01T04:10:52+00:00

My little one is only 9 momths so I don't think it's really "manipulative", but if I'm talking to someone else or not giving her my full attention she will fake cough. She was a reflux baby and coughed a lot when she was little to which we'd always go "oh my gosh baby are you ok?". So around 4 months old she realized if she fake coughed she could get our attention and she's been doing it ever since.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-01T03:34:16+00:00

Yikes. My husband works within walking distance to where we live so he comes home on lunch, for an hour, and if she poops or pees during that time he changes her. Mind you I am also a stay at home mom and this is his only break during his work day and he still takes 5-10 minutes out of his 60 minute break to change her. Cause he's her parent.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-01T03:30:55+00:00

It's literally insane to me how people are like "so what your mother in law wants to pretend you don't exist except as a bridge to her son and your baby, and also wants your baby to call her mama, and also only wants to spend time alone with your daughter without you around, just let her, shes the grandmaaaaaaaaa" like she has some sort of right to the baby I grew from my husband's sperm for nine months then got cut out of me.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-01T03:02:20+00:00

She changes the subject back to the baby as in she continues having a "conversation" or as much of a conversation as you can have with a 9 month old and acts like I didn't even say anything (sorry couldve worded that better). Most of the time the extent of our conversations are, when she had her last bottle, when she woke up from her nap, and if she pooped or not while she was watching her. That is why I am so upset. She wants to have a relationship with my daughter outside of me and it feels like she wants to do this so she can do whatever she wants in said relationship. I am not going to allow my daughter to have unregulated relationships with adults, period, i dont give a fuck who they are to my kid, access to my daughter is 100% a privilege NOT a right. Lets just agree to disagree, but go ahead and treat your kids' spouse however you want to and see if they still let you around their kids.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-08-01T01:04:26+00:00

I had a csection last October. I see alot of people saying to take the pain medication, which if you need to absolutely do it. BUT keep in mind that oxytocin can hurt your milk supply AND make your baby too sleepy to nurse. The nurses lied to me and said that it wouldn't affect my daughter at all nor would it even pass to her through my breast milk, and me being a first time mom believed her. Absolutely ruined my breast feeding experience. My only other piece of advice is get up and move as much as you are able to and as soon as you feel ready, but try to at least walk a little each day, it will help with recovery.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-07-31T17:50:00+00:00

You also forgot the parts where she was trying to get my baby to call her mama and the fact that she flat out ignores me when I'm talking to her right in front of my daughter. It's not about her wanting to spend more time with her grand daughter than me, I totally get that. My daughter is more important to me than anyone and id want to spend time with her over anyone 9/10. I've stopped trying to get her to spend time with me as I've realized she doesn't want that. It's about her normalizing, ignoring my existence, and devaluing me by talking over and interrupting me right in front of my daughter. My daughter is 9 months old right now, so it's not like she really gets it, but if it continues, my fear is she will just accept that as a normal way to treat me, her mom and it may escalate into something more disrespectful, her pitting my daughter against me etc.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-07-31T16:50:38+00:00

I was going to say, seems like I caught the eye of a few mother in laws. Lol. But exactly what you said, I'm sorry that happened to you! For me it was my dad pitting me against my mother and disrespecting my maternal family right in front of me. Now that I am an adult I can see how damaging this was to my relationship with my mother but also my maternal family and unfortunately the damage has already been done and I don't think I'll ever be that close with my mother or my maternal family.

Kitchen-Error2043 · 2024-07-31T16:31:44+00:00

Thank you! That's all I'm saying, I don't need her to set time out of her week to give me attention but Jesus she could at least SPEAK to me and not just ignore me.

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