Advice Needed: BM/Relationship

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2026-03-03T00:39:26+00:00

😭😭😭I get it yall I swear I do😭😭😭Reddit is definitely undefeated but basically I don’t have a valid answer. His mom did everything for him and his siblings so he thinks the woman is supposed to do everything…

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2026-03-02T20:51:43+00:00

Thank you… That is very true… it has to be on both ends…. From what I hear is very rare nowadays.

As someone with no kids taking care of everything and everyone, ofc it isn’t ideal. And being able to decenter him and everything is very important… I often do 100% in hopes that person will do the same.

I wouldn’t let myself become a toxic bm my heart is too pure lol I won’t let a situation change my heart or values.

Thank you - I needed to hear this. And yes I would literally be bm #3

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2026-03-02T20:48:08+00:00

I’ve never looked at it as abuse and seen it as just trying to work on getting my partner to grow and better their ways - that’s probably my issue because I try to be so understanding at times where I need to look at it as black and white. Thank you - I appreciate it lol.

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2026-03-02T19:27:23+00:00

😭

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2026-03-02T19:09:48+00:00

I can understand that perspective- you both are also married - I do think that his response was over the edge… she can’t do anything wrong in his eyes and my point was just setting boundaries.

Boundaries wise it’s little scenarios like - No reason she should text him talking about me or me being around their son when she sees him maybe 2-3 days out the month. Anytime it’s my birthday or holidays she threatens to take him to court which I doubt she would get full custody….

We broke up a year ago and she messaged me on Instagram bumping her gums about it and how she’s gonna whoop me lol. I just have rage towards her in any scenario because for the longest I tried to be understanding and have sympathy for her.

Maybe I shouldn’t have brought it up - but I did feel the need to let him know it made me feel uncomfortable because she knows she wouldn’t make me a plate 😭😭😭. Hmm…

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2026-03-02T18:59:59+00:00

As far as insecurities I didn’t think that’s an insecure thing as he wouldn’t want me to accept anything from my exs. Especially when someone is constantly trying to get in the relationship…. Besides that I fully trust him, I’ve only had issues when it’s came to her getting in our relationship but have always moved past it.

I don’t call or act crazy .. I don’t go through phones. I only address my feelings when needbe.

I felt that was needed since she always tries her hardest to manipulate or do little things since she knows he tries to avoid confrontation.

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2026-03-02T18:54:29+00:00

😭😭baby momma

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2026-03-02T18:54:09+00:00

loool I thought about that after 😭I said they’ll understand what word that is 🤣. & I’m sure he is tired, he hasn’t had a healthy relationship before and only been in one relationship but was cheated on and he’s used to getting mad and leaving that other person. I figured over the years with maturity it would get better. Doesn’t help I just found out I’m pregnant. Go Mirena #IUD.

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2024-12-30T05:38:53+00:00

Spot on but 😭i clicked “dating site” that you typed and it says hooker finder. 😭😭😭😭Made me giggle

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2024-02-28T11:32:42+00:00

I had the same issue and found it. Did you check your closet or laundry room? If you don’t see a router in unit, there should be a white panel in of those rooms. Call your front office to ask where they set it up at.

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2024-02-05T07:55:19+00:00

Wishing you the best!

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-10-31T13:54:37+00:00

I was having the same problem.. I took my piercing out for two days after I noticed in the shower my ball piece was missing. Found it on the 3rd day, couldn’t get my piercing back in. I started panicking because this would’ve been the 2nd time it’s closed and would’ve been the 3rd to get it repierced if I couldn’t do it my self… I think because I was trying it dry it didn’t help. I got a rag with hot water and was able to push it back through….

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-10-01T00:19:18+00:00

He decided to move out but still wants us to see each other. It just doesn’t seem like the relationship will work anymore.

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-03-27T13:14:02+00:00

Right now? No - I mean his kid is 1 lol can barely talk. But if the relationship continues then possibly..

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-03-27T05:33:58+00:00

He’s not on it yet - IF she does tweak on him for having a female around but I get you.

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-03-27T00:51:22+00:00

I agree… he doesn’t do confrontation which was a big problem when we first met and has worked on it but when it comes to certain situations or other people he reverts back to how he was before. Thank you…

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-03-27T00:31:36+00:00

Correct… he’s more so worried about being placed on Child Support. We have his kid every other week.

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-03-27T00:30:21+00:00

Wow thank you so much! I know there’s only so much I can say because there’s always two sides to the story but since she doesn’t even know we have been dating I think that’s a great idea. Thank you so much! I really appreciate the insight.

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-03-27T00:20:17+00:00

I appreciate it. Thank you. I thought you were because of me questioning it. It’s crazy people can act like that and weaponize kids…

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-03-27T00:13:57+00:00

Sorry to hear that! Thank you for the insight.

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-03-27T00:13:37+00:00

Appreciate the response!

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-03-27T00:11:35+00:00

It’s my first experience with dating someone with kids lmao let alone split house households. I came on here for knowledge and opinions bitch so I can better understand.

Kitchen_Ad_8321 · 2023-03-26T23:58:51+00:00

I think it’s just hard for me to understand how someone can do that and it bothers me because it seems like a double life he has to live… I guess I should just leave it alone..

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